Annoyed with Baby

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I don't want to sound as a bad mother but I am really fed up of my baby. She's going to be 1 tomorrow and all she wants is ME. She never wants to be with her dad. I leave her with him and she does settle sometimes but the moment she hears my footsteps she goes berserk and clings on to the stair gate and starts crying loudly to be lifted only by me. No matter what we try she never stops crying until I take her. Last night we were at a party and the whole time she was clinging on my waist. The minute I put her down she started crying like crazy. I couldn't even go to the toilet. DH offered to take her but No No No she just wants mommy. She was sitting in my lap the entire time I was eating pulling mu hair my dress and making me crazy. My friends were like we pity you as the little one is driving you crazy. I was carrying her for nearly 2 hrs and my back started paining horribly and after coming home I started crying so badly like I want a break from all this. Is this just a phase I'm so fed up. I have decided to put her in the daycare nursery. Advice needed I'm literally fed up with mommy life and my back pain is adding to it.

You massively have my sympathy OP, my oldest dd used to be exactly the same - screamed the house down if she was with anyone but me, I couldn't even go to the toilet without her screaming, and it used to really, really get me down. I found I just had to stick to my guns, she was either with my dps/in laws/nursery when I was at work and I just had to hand her over and walk away. It did get easier as she got older, but it was tedious. No magic answer for you but just to say you are not alone in how you are feeling, it's so frustrating

I have a baby the same age and going through exactly the same thing. My baby doesn't want anyone else, I can't drink a tea, read a book, watch TV, yet my DH can. It winds me up and gets me down. But recently my DH said "she only wants you coz you're her favourite person" and I looked at it another way. I wanted a baby, I wanted to be someone's everything and now I am. And I am trying very hard to cherish that this is a phase, it will pass and in years to come when she has realised I'm not all that and has disappeared off I will want to feel her hand in mine. So I get it completely and I still have moments where I wish I didn't have my hair being pulled or little fingers up my nose but im sure it will pass.

DS2 was exactly like this, if there was a choice he would always want me. He was fine with DP or grandparents when I wasn't there so DP either took him out or I went out if I needed a break. I knew I wouldn't get it otherwise.

With things like events or parties, I wouldn't take him, he would've been exactly as you describe and neither of us would have enjoyed it.

He is 8 now, and still prefers me but it is nowhere near as intense as when he was younger.