School Mum Blanks Me.

[juniperjunglemum]

Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience.

Long story short, had a play date with a mum from school ( Y1children )

It went ok, pleasant. The Mum is not my cup of tea but the kids played well and enjoyed themselves, it killed a few hours and was nice to have a natter.

Basically, I've seen her since and she blanks me and doesn't want to say hello.

I'm not sure what I did wrong. In fact, I didn't do anything wrong.

Can anyone shed any light, maybe?

Maybe you are not her cup of tea either?

That's fine, Doesn't mean she has to blank me. I wouldn't her.

Do you mean you say hello and she doesn't reply or are you waiting to see if she says hello before you do and she doesn't?

I've said hello a few times and she's said nothing, I'm sure she sees me. We've been at a couple of parties and she's not spoken.

Just stop saying hello . Its not a big deal.

It's happened to me. I don't say hello anymore and just look past her. Worse because she's also my next door neighbour. It's upsetting at first but it's not really a big deal.

How incredibly rude tbh

Very rude of her but some people are just weird. Do the same to her.

Mayb she sees u as too needy and u rnt her cup of tea.

That's fine, it's not a problem but I don't expect someone to be rude if that's the case and regarding the needy comment, it was her that initiated the play date.

Why wasn't she your cup of tea? Did you have different opinions in a lot of things you talked about?

Not saying it is your fault but could she have been offended by something?

Does seem weird she doesn't even say Hello.

Are you the OP?

Did she host? In which case, maybe she expected you to return the invite?

People can be very strange, she might not even be cross at all, some minor thing might have happened with the kids you don't know. Maybe she finds the whole school gates things difficult. I just don't bother too much with these "hot and cold" people, can't win 'em all.

You said she’s not your cup of tea - maybe she picked up on that? Are you sure you’re not the one who was standoffish first?

How do you know she intentionally blanked you? Maybe she didn’t see/hear you or had other things on her mind.

If you don’t t like her anyway why are you bothered? Genuinely - your life will be happier if you don’t look for drama

happens to me something like that...
i spent a long time saying hello to a mum when i was collect my kid and no answer back, so i got fed up and stop, and start to ignore her.
a year later out of nowhere when we meet for kid's pick up she was approaching my kid for playdates but she and she only "talk" to me through my child.
We meet on school playground but she never approach me and tbh i really do not want to talk to her or give her a chance.

could be the same situation .... idk...:)

Some people are just rude.

You don't want someone like that as a friend anyway, so she's no loss, is she? Don't sink to her level. Just carry on as you are, smile and nod a greeting when you see her, and leave it as that.