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Hate noise in the morning

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Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 08:40

Me and kids dad don't live together. But we still see each other and he sometimes stays over . It's nice to have his company sometimes. But omg he drives me mad. He is so noisy. 1st thing hear him get out of bed stomp stomp stomp. Then he bashes the doors . Then he starts projecting his voice really loudly it projects all round the house. Shouting at the dogs. Then he gos in the kitchen bashing about. Never known someone to make so much noise making a cup of tea. . Then all you can hear is his slippers scraping over floor where he does not lift his feet properly. I have 4 kids hear and 2 dogs he's more noisy than all of the put together.

Yes I know I'm being a cow. I just like things a bit chilled /calm first thing in the morning not pointless noise in my face 1st thing.. I definitely could never live with someone full time.

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OhComeOn123 · 06/05/2023 08:49

Just tell him to have a bit of self awareness and shut the fuck up. I cannot stand loud people.

Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 09:03

OhComeOn123 · 06/05/2023 08:49

Just tell him to have a bit of self awareness and shut the fuck up. I cannot stand loud people.

I don't mind noise but hate pointless noise.

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dontgobaconmyheart · 06/05/2023 09:23

It just sounds like he's not particularly considerate really, or is selfish, rather than it being you that's the issue.

Most people wouldn't stay at someone's house and do that in the morning or any time someone else was resting regardless of whether they lived there or not.

Shouting at my dogs would also be a fat no from me.

I'd not have him sleep over if he didn't stop, he can provide company and then go home surely. Better to enjoy a lie in and feel at ease in your (not his) home.

floraflo · 06/05/2023 09:26

This would really bother me too. I hate loud inconsiderate noise, not just in the morning either!

TellHimDirectlyInDetail · 06/05/2023 09:29

You are not being a cow but you have strange boundaries. Why have him stay over if it's not working?

Truestorypeeps · 06/05/2023 09:34

Sorry, why does he stay over?

Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 09:44

TellHimDirectlyInDetail · 06/05/2023 09:29

You are not being a cow but you have strange boundaries. Why have him stay over if it's not working?

Because on the whole its not overly bad. I'm sure people who live together have habits or do things that piss each other off.

Its just something that pisses me of. I could never actually live with anyone .

Also as I said as much as he pisses me of there is a nice kind side . And it works well for the kids and the family in general.

I just want him to shut up . In the mornings 🤣

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Doggymummar · 06/05/2023 09:46

I get up two hours earlier than my oh for this specific reason. I need a quiet start to the day. I also go to bed at 10pm as I need a quiet end to the day too.

Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 09:52

Truestorypeeps · 06/05/2023 09:34

Sorry, why does he stay over?

I did say above we still see each other . So we have a form of relationship. It's just not the classic/typical relationship that society expect us to have . Yes his noise pisses me of. More so in the mornings. I would feel that way towards anyone though. I could have a person who's 100% perfect I still could not live with someone full time .

We still do things as a family. And we still have a family unit although we don't live together.

Hard to explain sorry

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TomatoSandwiches · 06/05/2023 09:59

Just tell him to be quiet, he knows he is loud he just doesn't care if he disturbs you, probably thinks you should be up if he is, it's not nice.

Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 10:00

Doggymummar · 06/05/2023 09:46

I get up two hours earlier than my oh for this specific reason. I need a quiet start to the day. I also go to bed at 10pm as I need a quiet end to the day too.

I know I can be bit of a bitch . I was awake at 7am he got up for the loo. All he said was morning babe. And my thought was fuck of why you talking to me. And I can't stand sharing a bed. I can wake in the night hes asleep I see him and think fuck of. He's done absolutely nothing wrong . So it'd definitely a me thing.

Yes in my op that's morning stuff that he does actually do that pisses me off. But I also want to own my part and some of it is more my issue than his.

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Truestorypeeps · 06/05/2023 10:05

Yeah, sounds like you aren't a morning person! :o) ... Maybe give him a shit Sandwich..... I am really enjoying spending the evenings with you, etc etc, but is there any chance you could try extra hard in the mornings to be a bit quieter? Then I'll be in a better mood and we'll all get on better the next day etc etc

Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 10:06

TomatoSandwiches · 06/05/2023 09:59

Just tell him to be quiet, he knows he is loud he just doesn't care if he disturbs you, probably thinks you should be up if he is, it's not nice.

I'm already up.

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TomatoSandwiches · 06/05/2023 10:09

Buy him a gag! 😂

Rollonannualeave · 06/05/2023 10:10

Similar but children getting up in the morning and playing YouTube gives me the absolute rage!

Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 10:21

Truestorypeeps · 06/05/2023 10:05

Yeah, sounds like you aren't a morning person! :o) ... Maybe give him a shit Sandwich..... I am really enjoying spending the evenings with you, etc etc, but is there any chance you could try extra hard in the mornings to be a bit quieter? Then I'll be in a better mood and we'll all get on better the next day etc etc

I guess. I feel a bit guilty though because the kids are up and playing etc so it's not overly quite . And it's hard to say to someone but your noise is different.

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Mynewhome · 06/05/2023 10:23

Rollonannualeave · 06/05/2023 10:10

Similar but children getting up in the morning and playing YouTube gives me the absolute rage!

🤣 I don't give a shit what the kids do. But he winds me up. I think its because I can zone out when it's the kids .

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polkadotdalmation · 06/05/2023 10:33

Stick to the separate living arrangement

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