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What to do ??

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Purplepinkfairy · 03/05/2023 22:49

Need advice.....I have a family celebration (my niece and nephew) first communion on Saturday. On the same day my dd has a music competition which is very important for her to attend. I also want to support her . If I don't attend the communion my family will be extremely upset with me. The 2 events are on the same day and as there is a 4 hour drive between the two events its not possible for me to attend both. Do I go to daughters competition and put up with the comments from my family (my sister only starting talking to me after a year of ignoring me over one simple comment) or do I arrange for a friend/in law to bring my daughter to the competition.

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UsingChangeofName · 03/05/2023 23:02

Which did you know about first, and what did you say when you found out about / were invited to the 2nd ?

NuffSaidSam · 03/05/2023 23:06

It depends which you agreed to first. If you were invited to and accepted an invitation to the communion it is poor form to cancel at the last minute because something better came along.

Mars27 · 03/05/2023 23:14

Surely your priority is your own child?

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Hoppingmad231 · 03/05/2023 23:19

Surely your dd comes first, if they can't understand that you can't be in 2 places at once that's there issue.

determinedtomakethiswork · 03/05/2023 23:28

Your daughter comes first, way in front of a sulky sister.

thaegumathteth · 03/05/2023 23:34

Have you only just found out about one of the events?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 03/05/2023 23:37

Surely your family will understand. Why would they expect you to prioritise your nephews over your own child?

TomatoSandwiches · 03/05/2023 23:39

Concentrate on your immediate family and support your DD, your sister sounds lovely.

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Purplepinkfairy · 04/05/2023 05:43

I knew both would possible be on the same day but only confirmed recently. I will atte d and support my dd. She is always my priority.
Just didn't want to cause further upset in my family. Thanks for replies.

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OldGrannyish · 04/05/2023 08:02

Daughter. This shouldn't even be a discussion. And your family should recognise and accept that your daughter comes first. Or are they expecting her to pull out of the competition to go and stare at her cousins?

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