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TTC for 6 months, any advice please

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dormicumema · 03/05/2023 21:16

Hi everyone, so my DH and I have been ttc for 6 months unsuccessfully. I know there is still time but it seems it takes either 1 to 3 months or it takes years, almost nothing in between.
I was just wondering if you could give any advice on how you succeeded. :)
We are tracking with opks, I ovulate around CD 18, cycle length 30-32, we are of good health. Also second cycle of bbt because I wanted to be sure I ovulated.
We haven't done any testing, I'm 28 and he is 35.

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underneaththeash · 03/05/2023 21:26

DH / no cycling, no tight boxers, proper diet (no vegan, lots veg and fruit), limit alcohol.
you too.
then use ovulation tests and tell you DH he needs to be around.
don’t stress it: I did legs up after sex too. Which is suspect has mo scientific basis but…

(first at 31 (unplanned, 2nd 33 of first month, second 36 first month too).

Bumble84 · 03/05/2023 21:29

Get bloods done by the GP to make sure you are ovulating.

how often are you having sex in the lead up to and over ovulation? I have no scientific basis for this but I do think having more sex on the lead up to ovulation helps your chances.

Bumble84 · 03/05/2023 21:30

Also check the ttc boards. We did SMEP for the second child and she was conceived much quicker than the first.

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LeavesOnTrees · 03/05/2023 21:35

It took us over a year to conceive our first DC.
Keep going and make sure you have lots of sex.

Newnamenewname109870 · 03/05/2023 21:39

Focus on cervical mucus and how your body feels instead of the ov sticks. Do it throughout the month right up until AF. Every couple of days, 3 is good.

Reduce caffeine and general good health. Big one for me was to go to gp early for testing. They can start around 10months or they can even start now if you’re over 35.
If you’re willing to pay privately then just go now, no harm at all.

monotonemusings · 03/05/2023 21:41

Do you drink? Did you stop drinking to try and conceive? I conceived the night I caved and had a glass of wine, I swear it was linked. Maybe it relaxed me or something I was getting incredibly stressed about it.

Took me 8 months

Wristfolds · 03/05/2023 21:48

@underneaththeash ic you’ve literally never had to try to conceive (having conceived 3x within a month?) then it may not be the case that you have incredible insight but more that you’re just very fertile.

Passmethewine23 · 03/05/2023 21:53

People on tik tok are raving about the vitamins maca root. You should check it out xx

lucya66 · 03/05/2023 22:29

It took me six months Ttc And the things I did different that month were conception cup off eBay (dupe for ferti lily cup) to keep sperm inside me overnight. I also ate pienapple, had a warm bath during implantation time (egg likes warmth) and held my legs up the wall to increase blood flow to reproductive organs 5 mins per day.

hard to say if any of that made a difference.

good luck!

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dormicumema · 04/05/2023 06:15

Thanks for all the replies!

@LeavesOnTrees did you do sth different like cutting off coffee or regular exercise etc? Fertility cup?
@monotonemusings I try not to drink in the TWW, but definitely didn't stop the occasional glass :) I do drink 2 cups of coffee a day, I just love coffee and now that it has been 6months thinking about ivin it up.
@Passmethewine23 started putting it in my smoothies sometimes but hate the taste hahah

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Mushroo · 04/05/2023 07:07

Took us 3 months (I appreciate we’re very lucky!) but I made changes 6 months beforehand. These were:

both of us going to the gym
vitamin D, vitamin c and zinc supplements (and folic acid)
cutting back on alcohol a bit but not massively.
aiming for 10,000 steps a day

The month it worked I was super relaxed (Easter weekend) and I drank everyday over the fertile period, but not enough to get a hangover iyswim . It was the first month we did SMEP and I did seed cycling.

Im the least ‘woo’ person but the seeds seemed to help 🤷‍♀️

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dormicumema · 04/05/2023 09:45

@Mushroo will try to hit the gym. Honestly never heard of seed cycling, will check it out!

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Mushroo · 04/05/2023 09:49

@dormicumema it could just have been a massive coincidence, but tbh the seeds were quite nice on yoghurt so an easy add on! Good luck!

Kinsters · 04/05/2023 10:02

I was meticulous with tracking my cycle, OPKs, temping, having loads of sex in fertile periods, cut out caffeine, everything. DD took me 9 months to conceive (with one miscarriage in that time), DS took me about the same (again with another miscarriage).

Now I am pregnant again with number three by accident. We had sex a handful of times in the last couple of months, and I was trying to make sure we didn't do it at fertile times. So yeah, basically I think a lot of it is luck!

LeavesOnTrees · 05/05/2023 16:01

dormicumema · 04/05/2023 06:15

Thanks for all the replies!

No idea if a cooincidence or not but the month before I conceived I'd taken a month off and gone home for the holidays without DH. I totally put it all out of my mind as I was fed up.

We'd been trying for a year at that point.

Otherwise I didn't change anything else.

LudicrouslyCapaciousBag · 05/05/2023 16:12

Sex every 2-3 days throughout the month. Most people miscalculate their fertile window.

It’s normal for it to take a year. You can spend money on supplements and treatments if it makes you feel that you are doing something constructive but bear in mind that when people swear by x y or z they are only working on correlation, not causation. Fertility and conception is just the first step in a journey of parenthood where you have to accept that you have very little control over some pretty fundamental stuff.

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