DSis keeps saying baby is huge

[Wristfolds]

Just that really. DD is 9 months old and towards the larger end of the centiles but not over them. She never misses any opportunity to say she’s huge/massive/babyzilla/sumo girl and none of the other babies in the family (ie, her kids) were big.

I didn’t used to mind, if anything when she was EBF I saw it as a compliment but it’s every photo, every gift, every time sge picks her up and it’s starting to feel more pointed now, DH particularly feels some of the terms of ‘endearment’ are starting to feel a bit mean.

Am I being over sensitive? It feels now like she’s saying I’m fat or her girls are somehow daintier and sweeter but in fairness I’ve had very little sleep lately

She's being rude even if you ARE being a little sensitive... no one wants their child being called a sumo, even when they are a gorgeous squishy baby!

FWIW my little grandson is absolutely a sumo.. just turned 2 and he's very short and he's chubby. But as neither parent is overweight we are pretty sure he'll stretch (my own DS1 was an enormous baby and a fat toddler and became the skinniest kid around)

I'd tell her to stop being rude because it's not funny.. if she says 'she's just joking' or that you are being over sensitive, then I'd tell her to pick on someone her own size (and I'd probably start taking the piss out of some feature of hers).

Thanks @StillMedusa She normally works away a lot but has just got a new role that means we’re seeing a lot more of her which I think might mean it’s grating a bit more lately. Yes Thank-you that was the one term that particularly jarred!

The repetition would start to grate even if it was a complement and calling someone 'Sumo Girl' is rude. Soon your baby will be learning to talk and she doesn't need to be learning rude nicknames. Tell your SIL if she needs to have a nickname for your DD then it should be a kind nickname, what she is doing now is neither kind, funny, or attractive as well as being boring. Point out that if you called her DD 'Shrimp Girl' or 'Micro Brain' over, and over, and over again, everyone would quickly get tired of that.

My mother and I both had people continually comment on how tall we were when we were growing up. We were tall when young but stopped growing so only reached an average height, but continually being told we were gigantic caused both of us to hunch over and develop permanently rounded shoulders and bad posture as a result. Things that people say repeatedly to young children does have an effect, even things that are meant kindly, and calling a baby babyzilla is not kind.

I am also feeling a bit sensitive about my post partum self which probably doesn’t help. DSis meanwhile has had a PT for the last 6mo and is really proud of her progress- she looks great.

Commenting on babies size repeatedly is annoying.

I’m constantly reminding DH to stop commenting how small/light the neighbours’ toddler is.

You're not being oversensitive, she's really rude. This needs to stop before your daughter is old enough to notice and be hurt by it.

say "change the record, there's a love"
And then block on SM and don't let her have photos.
And don't bother seeing her. Let your DH handle it (assume she's his sister)

sorry, my bad - i read "sil"
Sister? say "fuck off you repetitive ol' bag" and then ignore ignore ignore

IMO you're not being over sensitive, it won't be long before your daughter understands this and it will form part of how she sees herself.

Have a word! Be brave for your DD

If she called my baby a sumo I'd actually snap. I'd start calling her sumo aunty 🤣🤣 see how she likes it

@Brefugee yes I like boredom as a way to react!

She’s the ‘character’ in our family so partly I don’t want to let her scent blood as she’ll never let it go.

DH says we should call her sumo-Aunty as her fun nickname. He’s prepared to claim DD’s started saying ‘sumo’ when she sees her picture and that’s our cute term in our family now