Anxiety after a traumatic experience

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I’m posting here for traffic on the off chance anyone can offer some advice.

Last year, my toddler son had a severe anaphylactic reaction. I watched him swell up, struggle to breathe and then lose consciousness. It all happened very quickly and we were lucky paramedics arrived in time. I can’t think about what happened that day without getting upset.

I live with the fear of this happening again and I have to ensure he stays away from his allergen (fish). I understand why this worries me and causes anxiety when I think about it. He now has epipens so at least I have immediate access to the medication he needs.

However I’ve also started to feel generally anxious and have that ‘night before an exam’ feeling in the pit of my stomach quite often. Some days, I can’t face being around other people so find myself cancelling plans with friends.

My question is, when does anxiety become something you seek help for? To me, it’s understandable to be worried that your child could die from eating food. I don’t know how anyone could help with that as it’s real and scary. Is generalised anxiety just a result of living with that fear it is it a sign it’s getting out of control?

Thanks if you made it this far.

Normally a month ish after is a good time to know whether it is going to naturally settle or not. This sounds like you probably need some professional support. I would seek EMDR therapy (a literal wonder cure for my severe anxiety after my daughter's many hospital crises).

You aren't alone. There is help out there x

Everyone has bad experiences. We all carry them, like we are all carrying a box of old junk. The time to seek help is when you can no longer carry your box without struggling.

Have you had any anxiety or mental health issues before?
It's worth seeking help.
I had traumatic near death things with both my children and it gets you like nothing else imo.

Really anytime that that is affecting your normal lifestyle, affecting sleep, preventing you from partaking in or enjoying your usual activities- that's the time to reach out for the help. The earlier the better IMO as waiting lists can be long and there nothing to be lost from joining one now.

You poor thing. I would echo PP and suggest reading about EMDR therapy. It's really helpful for trauma related anxiety.

Thank you for your messages. I’ll definitely look in to EMDR.

@RidersOnTheCalm no I’ve been lucky to never had any mental health issues before. I’m sorry you’ve also been through similar with your children.