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F*cked up massively - work related. Perspective needed

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Stupidworkgirl · 01/05/2023 22:16

I have an important business trip abroad tomorrow which myself and several other colleagues are going on. It is a major event in our industry and we have been planning it for a while. I have done the majority of the planning and have enjoyed it and was excited to attend. Our company director is going along with my boss and several coworkers, one of which reports to me.

I have lost my passport. I only realised this at 4pm today when packing. I am meant to fly out on an early morning flight. We have a very tidy minimalist home and have searched everywhere, it is definitely not here. I last travelled a few months ago and can only think I dropped it somewhere between security and my car.

I have called my boss who has told the MD. My boss was understanding and kind about it, I don’t know what the MDs reaction was. I’m absolutely gutted. Missing out on the event is a horrible feeling but is actually the least of it, that will wear off once it is over at the end of this week. It is more the damage to my reputation and how people might think of me going forward. I’m honestly considering leaving and finding a new job, as I don’t know how I will mentally bounce back from it.

Looking for reassurance or perhaps any similar tales or fucking up at work.

OP posts:
BlueYazoo · 03/05/2023 19:17

Have you got a printer/scanner - could you have scanned it and left it in there?

LatteOneShotplease · 03/05/2023 19:23

Just a little passport anecdote (not work connected, but I would prefer that to the ire of my father):

In the throes of an ugly divorce, my father had the brilliant idea that I should run away from my problems, I mean, take a break with him and his wife, to Naples, Florida. I would stay in the rented house with them (and my half-brother, who we were to meet at Miami Airport0, after driving across the state. He would be paying for my flight from LHR to the US. All sounded good, if not entirely a good move regarding my home life.

They lived in England at the time, and we were to meet at Heathrow at 8am on a May Sunday morning. I took a shuttle flight from Leeds the night before.

Now - the passport part.: Some months prior to this (unplanned) trip, I had reverted to my maiden name by deed poll., but had basically - apart from at work for our massive email list (US Corp) - kept using my married name. But - I had told my father that I had gone back to my maiden name, which he approved of, due to not "liking" the boring married surname.

So at 8am on the whatever it was of May 1999, we met as agreed..... he handed me my ticket - and it was in my maiden name. I had not changed my passport at that time (or anything else much).

The rules even then (pre September 11th) strict regarding name matching passport to the letter. There would be no hope -

So this is what happened:
Virgin check-in agent actually told me that if I could prove I effectively had two names, it would be possible to fly.
My important documents were in a briefcase that I had left with a friend for safekeeping, due to fear of husband nosy-parkering. But she was no answering her phone.
So I rang another friend - who was out on the yard with the horses at that time.
So I rang ANOTHER friend (well mother of...), who lived in the same village,. and she kindly went round and told my horse-friend I was trying to get hold of her.
When I did, she (also) kindly drove to the first friend's house for the briefcase. When this friend answered the door, she was very hungover and cross and just thrust the briefcase at my other friend.
Who fortunately had a fax machine (farm business), and she faxed it (yep! faxed!) it tot he Virgin desk.

And it worked! But it would never work nowadays.

My father was so angry with me. After the flight landed, we couldn't even locate half-brother, and I actually got many blisters walking round and around Miami Airport (he didn't hear the announcements for him because he had already gone to the car hire!), and I lasted one night under the roof with my father, who really did detest my presence.

It was all quite a lot easier coming back. I had changed my seat allocation (father and h-brother were staying for a drive up to Canada), and my bloody stepmother changed hers too - and we managed the whole flight back without actually speaking (and I am quite gregarious, she is even more so)! When we landed, we just wandered off in separate directions; it was very weird.

I did love Naples and the parts of Florida that I saw - but it really was a nightmare - but thank God for Virgin making it possible. I cannot imagine how my father would have held it against me forever if he had wasted money on a ticket.

CustardySergeant · 03/05/2023 19:24

CarrotCake01 · 03/05/2023 19:16

I lost my passport just before a trip to Australia once. A friend of mine had been over a week or so before, spotted it on my shelf and hidden it inside a dvd case as a prank.
I didn't realise I had lost it until the day before so that was so stressful

What an incredibly stupid 'prank'.

Kellymm88 · 03/05/2023 19:30

Relax. Stop. Think of this… if you’d meant to do this on purpose, you’d be a liar. Which you aren’t.
Youve lost your passport, the world will continue to turn. You boss (and MD) have most likely been in similar bum twitching situations, and they will no doubt give you some stick over it, but let’s be honest, no on is hurt…. The trip will continue and it’ll be ok. You could have lied and said you were sick etc, you didn’t. You held your hands up, and that’s very very honourable.
To error is human, to forgive is Devine. It’s a mistake, it’ll be ok ❤️

maltravers · 03/05/2023 19:32

Stupidworkgirl · 03/05/2023 18:31

Just seen my thread has been resurrected, wanted to update in case anyone stumbles across it in the future and wanted to know the outcome.

I’ve calmed down a lot since yesterday, I feel completely different. I still have that ‘fear of missing out’ feeling since everyone is there at the moment but I no longer feel as mortified about it and certainly won’t be leaving my job. It’s a bit surreal thinking back to how upset I got, but I think it was just the shock of it happening as I have never done anything like this before and it made me doubt myself.

I appreciate all the help and advice I got here, it was very much needed when I was at the height of the panic.

Good for you OP, that’s the spirit! Consign it to the dustbin and move on.

Ganainm488 · 03/05/2023 19:33

Definitely get someone else to look for you. If you’re an organised person you will only look in logical places. You only THINK you’ve searched everywhere. Someone else will look in random places as they don’t know where you would keep it.

Jeannie88 · 03/05/2023 19:35

Empty the safe where it should have been, have another look around, also can y get in touch with the airport you last went to to ask? Though if they have your details I'm sure it would've been an enquiry? Inside an inside sheet? Please it's not worth quitting over human error, will soon be forgotten about, maybe not in context of joking but surely that just adds charm to human nature? X

Scunnered12 · 03/05/2023 19:42

Could it be at work?!

Lostmum2407 · 03/05/2023 19:46

Have you checked your car? Right under the seats?

lillkim500 · 03/05/2023 19:49

Exactly the same thing happened to me a few years ago. Missed out on corporate trip to Amsterdam i had been working on. I felt like crap, but honestly shit happens, you didn’t lose it on purpose so give yourself a break. I realised 3 days ahead and even forked out £70 for the super fast application even though the bloke said its very unlikely it will come in time, it didn’t it came 3 days after the event. Everyone forgot almost immediately, despite what we think people do have better things to think about. Also I got first dibs on another trip a while later cos my boss said I missed the last one.

Move on, everyone else will - its a story you’ll be telling for years to come.

Unsure33 · 03/05/2023 19:52

Honestly these things happen a lot . My DH went on a business trip with his MD . A month later his MD a was going on a big family trip and arrived at the airport , and discovered his passport had been swapped with my husbands on the previous trip . My DH a raced to the airport but could not get there on time so the wife had to travel on her own with very small children . No more flights so the husband had to travel by train , with several changes . And missed two days of the holiday . My MD also went in an important business trip and arrived at the airport only to find he had driven off with his suitcase on the roof and all his clothes were scattered all over his drive at home . He had two hours before an important meeting to kit himself out . He was notorious for losing his passport and arriving for flights on the wrong day etc. we do recount theses episodes , with mild amusement but nothing more . This too will pass.

Sarahjaykay · 03/05/2023 20:02

Mine had slipped behind glove compartment in my car.

EpicChaos · 03/05/2023 20:07

A member of my quiz team and his now, sadly, late wife, were on a bus tour holiday in the US. They came out of the hotel one morning and he put their hand luggage on a bench, whilst he stretched his legs a bit whilst waiting for the coach to turn up.
Coach duly turns up and he and his mrs hop aboard.
Half a mile down the road, he suddenly remembers about the stuffs on the bench, gets the coach driver to turn round and go back but it was too late, the stuff was already gone! Passports, cameras, some money i think and other stuff, gone! They had to make their way to the nearest embassy iirc, to organise travel docs, it certainly cost them a couple of days of their holiday, getting their passports sorted out.

WorkinMumsince4ever · 03/05/2023 20:14

I do also work in a male-dominated industry. Trust your skills, those really should speak up for you. You don’t know if your MD or your boss have ever lost their passports as well. I truly think this is a good opportunity to grow stronger in what is really important: your self confidence.

When you trust your skills and what you bring to the table, forgetting your passport is just a small thing.

I’m pretty sure there will be more opportunities like this. You will be able to joke about it as well. I know how it feels when you’re so deep into the issue, but every day is a new opportunity. Remember, mistakes can always be corrected.

Answersonapostit · 03/05/2023 20:21

Replied all to an email calling my manager an over inflated douche bag who belonged in the 70’s… he was and was actually fired for being ‘ inappropriate ‘. Not my finest moment but I was still correct employed.

my DFIL lost his passport at the airport after going through security .. he was sitting on it the whole time 🤷🏼‍♀️

Isinglass20 · 03/05/2023 20:27

Sofiasofar
So the ‘loss’ not repeated duh 🙄

Solonge · 03/05/2023 20:33

My daughter did this, missed her flight then found it in the pocket of a coat she last wore when she flew.

Blueink · 03/05/2023 20:36

Very annoying and understand your embarrassment, but your manager has been understanding and you are human, these things can happen.

Put it in perspective though, you are massively overreacting and creating unnecessary drama, especially if you would actually go through with getting a new job just because of this.

MucozadeOnLucozade · 03/05/2023 20:46

I'm sorry this happened to you, but if it does turn up you must give us an update!

I once got off a coach and walked off and forgot my suitcase. I was so mad with myself!!!

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/05/2023 21:01

You can use an emergency travel document:
https://www.gov.uk/emergency-travel-document

The following will apply to you:

  • your passport has been lost, stolen, damaged, is full, has recently expired or is with HM Passport Office or a foreign embassy
  • you do not have time to renew or replace your UK passport from abroad before you travel
  • you can provide proof of your travel plans, for example booking confirmations (or detailed written travel plans if you cannot book ahead)
fryanddry · 03/05/2023 21:06

Maybe your husband hid it because he doesn’t want you to go

Chickenandchick · 03/05/2023 21:09

My husband lost his passport just before going away once. Some years later, the new owner of our car called me - I was the emergency contact in the back of the passport he’d just found when he removed the dashboard! It seems my husband put it in the glove box and it fell down the back when it closed. If we’d had any idea that was a possibility, we’d have been searching with torches. Just a thought!

nicpic71 · 03/05/2023 21:10

Love this, my mum had us praying to St Anthony a lot. She has sadly gone now but I still find myself doing it.

Prettybashed · 03/05/2023 21:21

Yeah. Works. Even if you're not Catholic

Pearl97 · 03/05/2023 21:23

Just to say, I believe you weren’t meant to go on that trip. Just adding that note to the discussion!