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Should I tell school?

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Bigbag · 01/05/2023 14:13

Year 6. I found out my DC scratched his arm with a compass after another kid told him to try it as it doesn't hurt, enough to still be marked. The other kid had a few times too.

Would you tell the teacher, if you were the teacher would you want to know? I seem to be constantly up at school for one thing or another. My family are saying don't bother, but DC is v emotional and I think this is not healthy behaviour. Or should I just monitor?

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ilovemydogmore · 01/05/2023 14:16

It sounds like just a scratch, at 10 he should know that sharp things can hurt and not to do things just because another boy says so. I don't know what you'd like the teacher to do about it.

thaegumathteth · 01/05/2023 14:18

Why would you tell the school?

Nimbostratus100 · 01/05/2023 14:19

yes tell the teacher, the other child is habitually self harming, and that can escalate

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MrBit · 01/05/2023 14:20

Precisely what @Nimbostratus100 said

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Bigbag · 01/05/2023 14:21

It happened in class, so I guess the teacher can be aware in case it's an issue. Obviously I've got self harm in my mind but know the kids might not. Or this other kid might, I don't know. Yes my DC should know but he does find it hard to say no.

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DanceBeneathADiamondSky · 01/05/2023 14:23

Yeah I'd mention it. It's probably fine but doesn't hurt to let them know. They should appreciate you being open and communicating with them

TiredOfCleaning · 01/05/2023 14:37

Nimbostratus100 · 01/05/2023 14:19

yes tell the teacher, the other child is habitually self harming, and that can escalate

Yes this. very important.

My DS1 was self harming (Year 8) and it only came to light when a friend told the teacher. This has meant we started counselling for him and were able to talk with him about the 'whys' and actually it has made all the difference in the world. He felt relieved someone knew and that we knew and he felt he was able to talk with us more about how he was feeling. He's in a good place now and frankly it is unlikely we would have known because he is very body shy and was doing it in a palce covered by clothes.

Sirzy · 01/05/2023 14:39

Yes it’s very important that school do know so they can monitor the situation and ensure no children are at harm

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Bigbag · 01/05/2023 14:56

Thanks all, I think it's an issue, or at least with potential to escalate.

@TiredOfCleaning thanks for sharing, thank goodness a friend stood up. I'm v glad he's in a good place now, long may that continue 💐

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MargaretThursday · 01/05/2023 15:07

I would tell the teacher, so they can be aware and make their own judgements.

However I know I did similar with a compass at that sort of age, it was more the interest in that I could if that makes sense. I used to draw stars and then lick them to make the red show more.
I have self harmed too and it was different.

TiredOfCleaning · 01/05/2023 15:10

Thanks @Bigbag

You are making the right call IMO. Hope it all works out.

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Bigbag · 01/05/2023 15:12

@MargaretThursday Yes I think it's the teachers judgment.

I have self harmed too and do think this other kid may just be curious , I know kids mess around with compasses, but DC already has self esteem issues.

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