(Not a new account just got logged out of old one 🙄)
People I need you help to if I'm being unreasonable and over emotional. I had a 16 week miscarriage 2 years ago. My DH was semi supportive. Took the day off work while I delivered the baby and was sensitive in buying me a gift to remember baby etc. No really emotional support but I knew men aren't good at that.
Then I had my second miscarriage at 9 weeks. When I told him he said 'oh well it least it was early' and that was the end of it. No checking on me emotionally or physically and I had to take myself to the hospital for a scan to check it has all passed. He didn't even ask how the appointment went and I still had to look after our son.
Third miscarriage at 9 weeks and I was greeted with a similar response to the second one. He actually said 'I don't know why you're so upset. It's not as if it's a proper baby' 😡
By the 4th and 5th miscarriage I didn't even tell him as wasn't worth upsetting me more with his response.
Fast forward, and a guy at his work and his girlfriend tested positive for a pregnancy after a missed period. Two days later she took a test and found it was negative. Went for a scan and was told it may have been a chemical pregnancy or a false positive. My DH has given him two weeks off to grieve for the baby they've lost (he actually used the word baby even though he told me at 9 weeks it wasn't a baby). He has sent them flowers, and messaged them to say if they ever need to talk he's there for them. It has seriously pi**ed me off (not because they're loss is less than mine but because of the difference of how he's responded). I challenged DH and he said, 'I am really sad for them. They've lost their first baby. At least you've got a kid. It's completely different for you.'
Am I right to want to pack my bags and leave the heartless git?!!