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Positive single parent stories pleaseđź’•

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flowagurl · 01/05/2023 06:37

Finally had the last straw and have decided to go our separate ways after a verbally/ ever so slightly psychically abusive relationship.

Have walked out many times but Friday was the last straw. I have my own home anyway so have been resettling in with baby. Have still been talking to dad, and I still care about him so much but we’re just not right for each other at this stage of life.

DS seems so much more happy and chilled without the heavy vibes and shouting. Lots of laughing and squealing with delight which I’ve not ever seen from him I don’t think. I feel slightly guilty it took this long to go but I guess you don’t know until you’re gone.

looking for positive stories for some encouragementđź’•

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ChaliceinWonderland · 01/05/2023 06:58

Yes of course you can do it!
I walked away 4 years ago. 2 dc, then 9 and 8. Single, I work hard in a FT job, with benefit help, its fine. Kids way happier , no more watching mummy being abused by ex dh.
I find moral emotional support from other single mum friends is brilliant.
Solidarity!
Your son will thrive and tell you you did the right thing in a few years ( as mine do now they are teens) ...

Whichnumbers · 01/05/2023 07:04

It’s so much easier to go solo than to live in a bad relationship

SpiritedSneeze · 01/05/2023 07:48

Well done, it is scary going out on your own especially with a baby.

I was similar- ran from abuse when my daughter was a baby.
It was scary, especially at the beginning but she is 17 now and life has been genuinely great. My daughter is amazing and I am still happy that we get to come home everyday to a warm bright flat where nothing is broken and we can do everything our way.
I think, especially when you have been controlled for years, it never stops feeling good that you get to make choices.

You don't need anyones permission to enjoy life with your child.
Rollercoasters, milkshakes, swimming, face paint, costumes in public, silly books, sleepovers, glitter, colourful wall murals, an extra bedtime story, taking a mental heath day from school if needed, ears pierced, dyeing her hair, picking her up if she wants me to even if if its late, her music on the kitchen speakers, going to the cinema, gigs for bands we like, festivals etc generally life is fun.

Single parenting forever can be hard, there is no one to share childcare with or to help you with regualr parentimg tasks.
But I would 100% rather do that on my own than with him, even just because I can have fair rules and consequences and parent in a responsible way, rather than with fear. I have made lots of really good friends who have been there for us. We found community where we live and its been really supportive
It will be okay

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anyoneanyoneanyone · 03/05/2023 14:52

That's so lovely ❤️

Skybluepinky · 03/05/2023 15:00

So much easier by yrself than with a nightmare partner.

Beezknees · 03/05/2023 15:05

Hi. Lone parent since DS was 10 months old. He is now 15. It's been great. Everything done on my terms! Wouldn't want it any other way. Yes it can be relentless, especially the toddler stage but the feeling of freedom from toxic relationship can't be beaten.

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