How to get over an ex

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I posted on here a few weeks ago about being involved with a man at work who told me he was single but turned out he had a GF. Our fling lasted for several months and while it was only ever about sex I did like him. It turned out he cheats on her all the time and my post was about whether I should tell her. Anyway, I then found out he had got her a job where we work and while I don't work with her he has put us both in the position of coming face to face at some point. This was the final straw for me and rightly or wrongly I messaged her and told her. I did it from a friends account but I think she has found out who I am. I just can't get over how somebody can pretend to like you for months when in fact they couldn't have cared less. I have not heard from him since I told her and from his social media he is carrying on like nothing has happened. Her response was to ask me who I was, when it happened and why I was telling her now, she then blocked me but has since unblocked me. How do I stop obsessing over the fact that he seems to have got away with all this scott-free and is still living his best life while I am still upset. Sorry for the long post, just need some support right now.

Stop checking his social media for a start

I would keep as busy as I could. I would block and delete everything as hard as it is it will help. You will hurt and be confused its natural a bit like a grief you have to be kind to you and just go with it and ride it out, Time will help,corny I know but it is true, Could you do something different maybe like try to create a new routine,so maybe if you find yourself thinking of him on an evening when you should be winding down but you cant stop your head could you try to replace that so get out of the chair read a book,have a hot bath, clean the cooker ! Literally anything to break the habit and do something else to keep occupied, It all will help. Take a break maybe go visit family or friends for a catch up? I decorated the entire house when I was where you are a few years ago, It was knackering but every night after work I grabbed the paint sounds stupid now looking back but it helped no end . You have to decide I guess that you are worth more and he has no place in your mind.Its not easy but it can be done. I hope you get some peace soon , I also think you have had a lucky escape cos now you know what kind of person he really is and if he could do that to her then he can and would have done the same to you,they always do. He is a prize not worth winning,You will be fine give it time

Remind yourself daily how badly he treated you.
And how badly he’s treated his gf , and probably will again.
Even if you don’t smoke imagine him as the ash that grows on the end of a cigarette until you choose to flick him away. It’s very cathartic.