Disrespect

[TD7]

Would any of you stay with a guy that disrespects you

Nope. Why would you?

I have and I feel such an idiot …I stayed in an abusive relationship for 13 years I have now left but I feel so lost

@TD7
If you feel lost that's no doubt due to the disrespect, he has treated you badly for so long, you expect nothing. Has he been in touch since you left. or is it early days? Don't be surprised if he tries to hoover you back, stick with your resolve and seek supportive friends.

You were being abused. Abuse wears a person down, makes you believe you deserve to be treated like that.

Don't be hard on yourself. Be proud that you managed to get out. Enjoy your life and stop looking at the past.
No good comes from dwelling on things you can't change.

He’s done so much to me blacked my eye split my head open cracked my rib put drinks over my head in a pub in front of every one called me a fucking idiot I’ve walked away now yes he has been in touch with messages like is he really worth it meaning I’m seeing someone else I’m absolutely not I don’t think he will leave me alone

That's not disrepect, that's out and out violent and aggressive abuse. Do you have support, someone to talk to about this? You really need to report this to the police.

@TD7

Please involve the police as soon as you can, especially as you suspect he won't leave you alone. Does he know where you are? Sounds like a horror, you have absolutely done the right thing.

You have been living in a war zone with this man and you need help. It's very very difficult to recover from something like this on your own so I think you should ask women's aid for help and ask your GP if you can have counselling. Don't go telling your ex-boyfriend that you have another man. Don't have any communication with him at all if possible. By the way, this might sound really horrible, but he will probably threaten suicide when he thinks he is losing control of you. That will be a ploy and take absolutely no notice. What some women do when threatened in this way, is call the police and tell them his location every single time.

Thankyou guys yes I will be involving the police again I did before but I went back I know the procedure I also had counselling and have been told it takes many time of going back and forth before you eventually leave for good he hasn’t hit me in 5 years just verbal but I know I’m ready now and will stay strong I know I’m going to feel lonely but I do have support

Thankyou everyone for your comments as it really helps to keep me strong in times when I have left in the past he says all the right things but enough is enough he should have treated me like a queen with the upmost respect after all I have been through with him ….after everything I’m still sad it’s over is that silly

determinedtomakethiswork
I don’t have another man no way but he is trying to now say I have left him because there is somebody else even though I explained to him I left because of the years of abuse and that he still continues you disrespect me

I hope I would not, but I've not been in the situation. Millions of people do.

If you've left now, that's fantastic. I'm impressed you left, so many people never find the courage.

I hope this is the start of a positive new chapter for you.

Changing your life is more impressive than doing it all right in the first place, really, because it is hard to do.

I’m so scared of my future I’m 56 I’m told I’m a pretty woman I’m just scared I won’t find anyone again …my ex told me all I will get is meaningless one nighters

He's an abusive arsehole. You are worth so much more. 💕

Thank you so much …it really helps me to have this support as sometimes I start to get weak and I don’t want to I don’t want to let myself down anymore 💕

It really is hard to get away from someone like this but I’m there now I’m ready xx

I would suggest you block him immediately as he's continuing to abuse you. You have left him which makes you very strong. I applaud you. By responding to him, you still maintain a bond which isn't healthy for you. Never respond. Block on all media. Keep going!

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand
Thankyou so much …yes he is blocked I don’t do fb or anything …even though he is blocked my phone still lets me see the messages and they are things from where are you to I love and miss you to I need to tell you something

Any contact he makes ,you must just ignore.Even if you reply negatively you are still giving him attention.Please do not go back.Get in touch with Refuge or Women Aid in your area.Stay strong and get support.You don't need to go through this alone.

He’s not blocked if you can see his messages. Go to your contacts settings and select block this number rather than just deleting it?
Or perhaps contact your supplier and ask for a replacement sim so your numbers changes? Send a text to everyone else in your contacts and not him.
Even IF you only ever had crappy one night stands or no relationship at all in the future, it would be better than staying another day with someone who hurt you and has no respect for you- so don’t worry about that right now. Find things in life for YOU, work, hobbies, clubs, exercise etc and if you meet new friends and a new man… great, but take time out to work on your self and self worth and get to know the real, strong and amazing you!

Thankyou so much for your reply ideally appreciate it ...I'm going to the police today as I'm so scared of what he will do x