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Were things really boring in the 80s?

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Egyptiancottonhouse · 28/04/2023 13:54

I was born in the 80s, grew up in the 90s but it's difficult to imagine now how things were.

I'm watching reruns of Brookside from 82 I think.

It's very nostalgic but things must have been so boring, although people didn't know any different. I don't think most of us today would cope without the Internet, TV on demand, online shopping, social media.

Being able to research anything you want in a second, look up a recipe, look at a map and street view.

The Internet really has changed our lives beyond recognition.

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C152 · 28/04/2023 19:42

Things were differen't, but not necessarily worse.

If you had encyclopedias at home, you could look up anything in a second and not be worried about the legitimacy of the source.

Supermarket coupon books existed - if you bought a certain amount, they gave you a sticker in your book and when you had a certain number of stickers, you got something free (and it was actually decent - we got an entire set of encyclopedias that way).

Laybuy was a widespread practice and much better for money management than the instant gratification of online buying now. (Although, to be fair, I'm sure my grandmother would have found life easier having food shopping delivered rather than having to walk to the supermarket and back.)

I'm not on social media now and don't feel I'm missing out.

As for maps, we read them traditionally and, when I moved to London, carried an A-Z around.

TV...meh...yes, in theory I have a lot more choice now, yet still I very often think there's nothing I want to watch...in terms of streaming services, we are worse off, because there is a very limited range of films/tv shows available, compared to the days of video rental. Ah, which brings me on to the joys of browsing in blockbuster...

Oh, parents were also, generally speaking, more relaxed than they are now. I rode my bike outside without being watched constantly, played ball in the street etc.

C152 · 28/04/2023 19:44

Mix tapes! How could I foget mix tapes!

museumum · 28/04/2023 19:48

Blockbuster! - walk to the shop. Pick up every video and say “what about this one?” Before eventually settling on three. Walking back home again. Returning them after.
Practically a whole weekends activity that. Far more satisfying than scrolling Netflix.

Skybluepinky · 28/04/2023 19:59

No boring just different.

LouiseWhippy · 28/04/2023 20:01

I was a young adult in the 80s.

Essays all handwritten unless you had a friend with a typewriter.

Social life revolved around pubs and nightclubs which stayed open to 2am but would need to leave a bit ealier to catch the night bus home. Would happily walk home from the bus stop after 2.30am with no fear. Sometimes boyfriendsxwouldcwalk me home if they lived local.

OLD wasn't really a thing so boyfriends were met in pubs or were friends of friends.

Lots of cider was drunk.

Would buy clothes from Chelsea Girl or Miss Selfridge though dressed as a hippy for a while including stupid little beads that got tangled up, what was known as an afro - essentially a cutly perm - and wore a smelly Afghan coat. I was gorgeous.

Went everywhere on the bus. Would stuff a few pound notes in my bus pass - no handbag.

So glad there was no social media.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 28/04/2023 20:03

As for maps, we read them traditionally and, when I moved to London, carried an A-Z around

<cough> I still carry an A-Z<cough>. I can open it out flat and see the whole neighbourhood, not just the bit on my phone screen.

curious79 · 28/04/2023 20:04

do you think we sat around like plums wishing we had the internet? We talked to people if we needed to know something, or opened a book, waited all week with great excitement for something like Top of the Pops, were undisturbed by school or work the minute we left the building or went on holiday. My best friend and I would cycle to each others houses and hang out constantly, or meet our gang of friends in some pre-designated place, which may have just been the riverside where we threw twigs into the water. Going to the cinema was brilliant - an experience you would really look forward to.
Life was technicolour for me!!

Appalonia · 28/04/2023 20:21

Also we had so much GREAT music! The Cure, Spandau Ballet, Duran Duran, Grace Jones, The Specials, Japan, Soft Cell, Culture Club, Blondie, The Clash, Wham and then George Michael, Michael Jackson, Madonna, Japan, Depeche Mode, David Bowie, Kate Bush, Go West, Simple Minds, Human League, Bronski Beat, Bruce Springsteen, Whitney Houston, PRINCE, and so many more... Music was genuinely exciting and innovative then. We were spoilt for choice and I naively thought it would always be that good.How wrong I was...

Appalonia · 28/04/2023 20:59

We had The Blitz Club, which set off a huge music/cultural scene in the early 80s. It was a thrilling time to be young, how on earth could anyone think this was boring??

The New Romantics (Documentary BBC)

Summer Synthwave Sensationhttps://youtu.be/pqHYwWd4qmQ

https://youtu.be/Idkdr1s64HA

BiscuitsBiscuitsEverywhere · 28/04/2023 21:12

Not at all boring. I rather long for those days. The internet may make things more convenient (which is certainly handy, I'm not knocking convenience at all) but personal connections seemed stronger. I'm a university lecturer and my students seem so unmoored to me.

Aslanplustwo · 28/04/2023 21:29

No, it wasn't boring at all. People actually still did things together and interacted instead of staring at a screen for hours every day. As a pp said, there was more "looking forward" to things, rather than the instant gratification of today. Fashion and music were more exciting, everything has already been done now.

RampantIvy · 28/04/2023 22:18

In many ways I think the internet has made many people live a more solitary life. They live life through a keyboard rather than physically interacting with real people.

They are losing the soft skills required for effective communication.

Daffodilwoman · 28/04/2023 22:35

It wasn’t boring but times were different. The fashion was amazing. Just look at bands like The Human League, Japan, Bananarama, The Eurithmix, Duran Duran etc etc etc. I think the music was better. It was cheaper (relatively) to see bands. I saw many bands in great venues, not impersonal arenas. Now I would not jay the ticket price.
I do agree that TV was worse in the fact that there weren’t many channels. I also think it was better when shops closed and staff could have time off for holidays such as Christmas.
I’m glad that nobody could film me or take pictures of me on nights out I really am. I’m glad that all the things I got up to as a teenager and young adult remain private.
I think the fashion for young people now is boring. When I was at school boys wore make up, dyed and Irene’s their hair and wore adventurous clothes. I looked like I was auditioning for the role of Prince Charming! When my dcs were teenagers they used to say “Is what I’m wearing too much?” I would reply “Are you joking? I was a teenager in the 80s, you will never be as outrageously dressed as I was.”

Throwncrumbs · 28/04/2023 22:42

EVHead · 28/04/2023 14:06

The 80s were brilliant!

The music was good, the fashions were fun, I saw loads of amazing bands in concert, there were good comedy programmes on TV, I got a degree, worked abroad, slept with lots of sexy men, had fun with my friends without the pressure of social media making us feel terrible about the way we looked!

Boring?! Pah! 😁

Are you me lol. I often wish I could go back to the 80s, best years of my life!

Taytocrisps · 28/04/2023 23:32

I was born in '72 so I went from 8 at the start of the '80s to 18 at the end of the decade. It was a fab. time to be a child and teenager.

As kids we didn't have time to be bored. We were out of the house all the time in summer. As soon as we'd eaten breakfast, we'd head out to meet up with our friends. We spent the whole day outdoors, engaging in activities - playing games like chasing, riding our bikes, skipping, roller skating, playing tennis, playing with hula hoops etc. Sometimes someone would have a birthday and get something exciting like a kite and we'd all queue up to have a go. When I look back at photos of me from that time, I was so skinny! There wasn't a pick on me wish I could say the same now. The older kids looked after the younger kids. We just came home long enough to eat and then we'd be back out again until we were called in at bedtime.

If the weather was good, we'd head to the swimming pool - the whole neighbourhood. We'd run home, tell our mothers where we were going, throw on our swimsuits, get money for the baths, throw a towel and underwear into a plastic bag and head off - sans parents obviously. I don't remember this happening but my older brother recently told me that he ended up in the deep end of the pool as a small kid (he couldn't swim) and was flailing around in the water. The lifeguard fished him out using a hook or net or something. The lifeguard never asked him if he was ok or anything - he just lifted him out of the deep end and deposited him in the shallow end. Can you imagine that happening now?

When we got a little older, we'd head to the roller rink on a Saturday morning and skate around the rink to all of the current music. They'd have a slow set and we'd stare enviously at the couples skating around holding hands.

It was a really colourful decade - neon clothes, beaded necklaces and bracelets, legwarmers, colourful eyeshadow etc.

I turned 12 and moved on to secondary school and discovered boys. Had lots of crushes on assorted boys and male teachers but it was all very innocent. We had some brilliant school discos in first year. When I got older, I went to more sophisticated nightclubs but I never enjoyed them as much as I enjoyed leaping around the PE Hall (all transformed with spotlights) to Van Halen's 'Jump'. And dancing around in circles to 'Come on Eileen' - by the end of the song, we'd be spinning around faster and faster and laughing our heads off.

I also got into music in a big way (I was a major Whammie). Top of the Pops on a Thursday night was compulsory viewing. Everyone would be talking about it at school the next day. Some of the music videos were brilliant - like mini-movies. At weekends we'd hang around record shops flicking through the singles and albums and admiring the posters and eyeing up any blokes who were doing the same thing. We never seemed to actually buy anything. The cinema was really popular, much more so than now. I can remember queues around the block for really popular movies like ET. Sometimes you might miss the show you were planning to see 'cos it was so busy and you'd have to wait for the next one - maybe 30 minutes later. You couldn't buy tickets in advance so you'd buy a newspaper to check what was on where and then turn up and hope for the best.

Comics were a big thing back then. When we were kids we'd get Mandy, Bunty and Twinkle (eldest sister, middle sister and me). My brother would get Dandy or The Beano or Roy of the Rovers. When we were finished our own comics, we'd swap over. As a teen I moved onto Jackie and Blue Jeans and Just 17. My best friend and I would buy a magazine each on a Saturday and get some goodies and settle down for a good read. Then swap over when we'd finished. The teen magazines had posters of bands which you'd hang on your wall.

There were some great TV series and if you were a fan of a particular TV show, you had to tune in and watch it as it aired because if you missed it, that was it. There was no catch up TV and we (my family) didn't get a video recorder until maybe the mid-80s, so there was no way of recording anything. Even if you did record something onto a video tape, there was no guarantee that my brother a family member wouldn't record football something else over your favourite programme. Because there was no internet and no streaming devices and limited TV channels, everyone watched the same programmes and then talked about them at work or school the next day. It's not like now where people have a huge selection of TV series to watch, on multiple platforms. Or they can just ignore the TV altogether and surf the net.

I started college at the very end of the '80s. We bought text books or borrowed them from the college library. I typed up assignments on an ancient manual typewriter that we had at home. I think we had limited use of the word processing lab - we'd type out assignments and save them onto floppy disks. We handed the printed assignments to our lecturers. We hung around student flats a lot, drinking coffee and eating biscuits. Or we'd go to a cafe and chat. Occasionally we went to the pub but we didn't have much money for buying drinks. Two of the guys set up a film club. I've no idea where they got the equipment but they'd order film reels and project the films onto a screen. Sometimes we'd have a little reception before or after the film and we'd drink warm wine out of plastic cups. We weren't very sophisticated Smile.

Although I have very fond memories of the '80s, there was a dark side too. The troubles were raging up the road in Northern Ireland. The decade started with the hunger strikes. Every night the newsreaders would list the people who had died in the conflict by their religion i.e. "Two protestants were killed in a bomb blast in Belfast", "A catholic man was shot dead...." etc. We were in the midst of the cold war and the news would often feature stories of western diplomats being expelled from the USSR (or vice versa). There was the ever present threat of nuclear war. I watched 'Threads' as a teenager and was terrified. The accident at Chernobyl was very scary. And of course the AIDS epidemic. There was a lot of unemployment in the '80s and a lot of emigration from Ireland. The miners' strikes in the UK were very divisive.

There are lots of benefits to the internet (I wouldn't be talking to all of you lovely people if it wasn't for the internet) but it's not the be all and end all. There was definitely life before it arrived.

Aslanplustwo · 29/04/2023 02:31

Great post @Taytocrisps. I'm older than you, so the 70s were my pre-teen/teen years, but things were much the same then, and I also remember the 80s as being great. We just seemed to do so much more then, and as you said it was organised by us, not by our parents. Some of the colour seems to be missing from today's world.

NotMeSecretFormular · 29/04/2023 02:47

I (born very late 80s) often wonder how my parents didn't take full advantage of the rock and roll scene at the time, and think it must have been boring for them as a result. What a time to be alive! Different strokes for different folks I guess. Then they ended up with me Grin

Dedodee · 29/04/2023 03:01

I was more bored today having to go through a chat bot and then wait in a virtual queue for 30 minutes to type messages to an actual human all because the wrong brackets had been sent for my new radiator. And now I have to wait for parcel force to deliver the brackets and I must track the order until it arrives.
In the 80’s I would have rung a local shop directly and the correct brackets would have been brought up to my house by Joe Bloggs when he finished work.

MumofSpud · 29/04/2023 03:07

I was 8-18 in the 80s - do it really was 'my' decade!
Boring? As others have said yes I remember Sundays were boring but so much changed during the 80s for teens / young people!

FlowersEverywherePlease · 29/04/2023 03:41

Jesus social media and phones are WAYYYY more boring than the 80's!

FlowersEverywherePlease · 29/04/2023 03:42

Sulusu · 28/04/2023 14:03

No, it was better. I was never bored personally, I had loads of books, it was easier to play out with friends, radio was a constant companion etc.

It was also less stressful in some ways, the biggest thing for me was being able to switch off mentally. Now we are bombarded with bad news constantly through TV, internet, social media. This started in the 90s with the upsurge of 24 hour news channels etc.

The cold war was a constant existential threat in the 80s, but now it's Russia, environment, covid etc all hanging over our heads no matter how much we "detox".

Totally agree.

OnlyTheBravest · 29/04/2023 03:48

Different, yes, boring, no. Far more social. There was much more of a community. Everyone played out and learnt so many valuable skills, which today's youngsters are missing out. There was a lot less materialism and kids could be kids for a lot longer.

MermaidMummy06 · 29/04/2023 03:52

No. I was a child of the late 80's & early 90's.

We were free. Tv didn't rate a mention, we weren't doing challenges on tik tok etc. and bullies couldn't taunt you 24/7. I think now is more boring as there's no imagination, We didn't spend our time staring at screens or worried about what others were doing 24/7 like kids do now. We roamed between each other's houses, read books, explored....

On our beach holidays even when DP's were relaxing DB & I were out playing or meeting other kids to play with.

As soon as I became an adult the Internet and phones crept in, but were
more basic. Recipes were shared, made up or gotten from cookbooks or magazines. We talked to people.

Booking travel was harder & if I'd had today's internet I likely would have done a gap year on my own because I found sourcing information accomodation, jobs etc. too difficult. Although when I started travelling with DH & we used maps or followed our noses we got lost, both walking and driving. Found awesome places and taught us to get off the tourist path.

So although there were limitations, we certainly weren't bored. Or staring at screens.

shiningcuckoo · 29/04/2023 04:29

I went to Uni in 1988. Travelled for a year before that. No one knew where I was - my mum said she gave up worrying knowing I'd wash up in the with a bag of dirty washing and always ravenously hungry. A time of incredible freedom - spent the mid to late 80s drinking, dancing, working a range of pt jobs, sleeping with unsuitable men, wearing incredible clothes, going to concerts and parties, reading, talking shit with my mates, traveling. When I was living at home Mum didn't let the Telly get turned on in the daytime and she ruled the TV in the evening. I'd hang out at my mates, play with the dog, draw, read, make myself things on mums sewing machine, play the piano, babysit for neighbours, play outside, get the bus into the city centre to look round the shops and try on make up, go to the swimming baths, go for a bike ride, write a diary, write letters. Never bored but always had a book in my bag.

sashh · 29/04/2023 05:09

jennytheonionslayer · 28/04/2023 13:59

I was born in the early 70's, I remember being bored out of my brains on Sundays as nothing was open!

Yep, born mid 60s.

And then ITV went on strike for weeks.

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