Male pill - would you rely on your partner for contraception?

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If a male pill existed, would you feel confident to use it as your only form of contraception? Assuming the failure rates were the same as those for the female pill.

Obviously condoms and vasectomies exist so the concept of men being responsible for contraception isn't new, but condoms you can literally see that they're there, and that they've been used correctly, and vasectomies are.. well.. vasectomies.

For me the male pill feels different because you'd have to trust your partner to take it correctly everyday and to always let you know if eg. they were ill and its efficacy had been compromised. I wonder if some men wouldn't have the impetus to take it so religiously, given that they wouldn't be the ones getting pregnant should they take it incorrectly.

It's weird because I should trust my partner 100% with this but I don't think I would fully relax unless I was in control of my own contraception. I am really overthinking this hypothetical situation,

This is a real misinterpretation though, or a false equivalence.

That being said, I would still be worried about this(just not for those sexist reasons). I suffered massively with MH when on hormonal contraception. Low testosterone levels for men can reportedly have a host of negative effects on men.

Wow, I take it, it was effective?

I think if you’re in a long term relationship with someone you trust it’s great. For too long now women are the ones expected to pump our bodies with unnatural hormones and deal with all kinds of horrid side effects. It’s about time men took some responsibility too.

Really interested in what would ask him less manly. Being (temporarily) infertile?

Yep, STIs through the roof as they'd have an 'excuse' (in their mind) to not wear a condom.

I wonder what the societal impact long term would be though, if any. Like if men had equal opportunity to prevent a pregnancy, would it eventually no longer be as socially acceptable to be a deadbeat dad? They wouldn't have the normal excuses, she tricked me, the condom broke, blah blah blah. Mate, why didn't you take the pill...

No because I would want to be in control of my own fertility and birth control.

We expect our partners to trust us at the moment. So yes if I trusted someone enough to sleep with them then I would trust them with the pill.

It was effective. We already had ds1 (conceived immediately after I came off the pill), then we did the trial, and conceived ds2 the second month of trying.

My husband, yes. Some random, no.

I don't feel confident my DH will remember to take house keys out every day or pick up 1 or 2 items from the supermarket that I ask for, I definitely wouldn't rely on him to take the pill correctly every day.

No, because men are not friends to women. But I think it would be excellent for them to have that same ability to choose. No more blaming women and defaulting on children: almost every child born would be the result of conscious choice of both parents (or contraceptive failures).

My husband, yes, I would
trust him with our contraception.

a boyfriend or random partner, never. I would always want 2 forms of birth control in that situation anyway, so it’s not just a matter of not trusting him, though that is the biggest factor.

I don't think I would 100%, but my dh is pretty sensible so maybe I should. What I don't understand is why men don't take the male pill to protect themselves. They have no right to decide on an abortion so it would be very sensible for those who don't want a child to take the male pill, as well as whatever other contraception is being used.

I'm a believer that if I don't want to have babies, I use contraception, if dh doesn't want babies then he would need to sort out his own contraception and you communicate so you each knows where the other stands.

When I decided I would happily have more dc, but dh didn't want more, he booked a vasectomy. Had the pill been available to him, this may have been an option he chose.

With a new partner, condoms should be considered for sexual health.

Unfortunately in my case I can't take hormonal contraception and I'm not elibile for the copper coil due to other medical reasons. I've had to trust my partners with contraception because condoms are pretty much my only option! If my partner decided he wanted a kid now and refused to wear condoms that would be the end of the relationship for me.

Have you thought about the diaphragm or femidom?

Would trust my dh. But men in general? Hell no lol

My partner, yes. I wouldn’t be with him if I couldn’t trust him.

I wonder, if this became available, would we start to see threads from women who can't get pregnant and it turns out the partner was covertly taking the male pill. Men would do that shit.

Hadn't thought about that but can imagine the threads already. LTB.

My DH - yes. He doesn't want any more children and would have had a vasectomy already if the NHS still offered them in our area. Currently we use condoms as I can't find any contraception I can get on with. He'd definitely take a pill reliably.

It's not something I'd have trusted when dating.

Absolutely not. I have to remind DP to take his lunch to work everyday so there’s no way I’d trust him to remember to take the pill.

No because there’s very little dh does that makes me think I could rely on him to remember anything.

I'm single but yes would have trusted my ex as he didn't want any more kids, random guy no.

I'd trust my dh more than I'd trust myself. I'm too forgetful! But would I trust a bf. HELL NO.