Does being social knacker people??

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For the past 3 weeks I've had 2 nights out, a weekend trip away and a night away. I feel exhausted and tired. I literally can't bear another carb or alcoholic drink. Anyone the same ?

Yes. I need time at home to myself to chill and recharge.

I literally can't be arsed doing a thing !

I feel so rundown too.

Yes I am like this. I’m returning home today from an extended work trip followed by friend’s birthday celebration in a big city. I will need a month to recover from this at least.

Yes, I get social exhaustion. My capacity for social interaction has got smaller in the last couple of years (pandemic restrictions? perimenopause?).

I can try to push through up to a point if it's an event I'm motivated to attend. But my capacity is definitely finite, and if I exceed it then I temporarily lose social function until I give myself a chance to recover. This takes the form of involuntarily zoning out and not being able to hold a conversation (in normal circumstances I'm quite articulate). In the past I have made up excuses to explain why I have to leave (headache or whatever). These days I tend to just tell the truth.

Me. I come across as social and chatty, but being around people drains me terribly.

I love being on my own, and need it to recharge.

Same here, I come across sociable and chatty but do feel exhausted afterwards.

Depends. Extroverts are energised by social activity, introverts are drained by it.

I'm the same. I need time in between to re charge and be still.

That’s the usual line. But I’m an extrovert - I feel energised by socialising but then really, really need solitude to recover.

No, not at all, I thrive on it, but we are all different and both are normal IMO.

No. I love it. I'd socialise every day if I could!

Completely. DH is the same, especially when it comes to mustering social conversation. We call it being peopled out. I’m getting less sociable as I get older 😂

I'm also a single parent to a young child and I'm in a very social job. I want quiet and to lose all the weight I put on socialising

Well of course everyone has their limit @SomethingNastyInTheBallPool 🙂

Yes! I just spent the evening chatting with a friend but being menopausal I found it knackering. It was lovely seeing her but I was so tired afterwards I couldn't sleep and I ached from sitting on a weird uncomfortable sofa being the wrong temperature. She offered me wine but I knew it would destroy me so I couldn't even have that.

The sad thing is she's probably really worried about me now but apart from being knackered I'm fine. Not unhappy just pottering on with my life and hobbies just fine.

Absolutely me 100%

Yes! I'm exactly like @deplorabelle. I'm seeing a friend Saturday night and I'm already stressing about it as I know I'll be tired on Sunday and I don't really want to drink and feel like crap. At least Monday is a BH. She's 4 years younger and not perimenopausal whereas I am in the thick of it and struggling.

I also find lengthy telephone calls exhausting. I'm a single parent so once DS8 is sorted and asleep I clear up and get his uniform and my work clothes ready for the following day, usual stuff. After that, I just want to flop on the sofa for an hour before bed, not have a long telephone call. I need time to myself to unwind and recharge otherwise I feel my head will explode!

Yes, I give out so much nervous energy even when listening to people that I feel a wreck afterwards. Constant talking just isn't for me.

Yes but mainly when I am having to 'do all the work' ie keeping the conversation going/asking questions. So now I:

• move quickly away if the person is not reciprocating in conversation
• actively avoid situations where I know the social situation will be hard work
• just shut up , smile (drink more) and enjoy the silence

I'm post menopause and I've used up all my 'be kind, keep the conversation going, putting up with people who never ask me anything about myself or my family' reserves.