Why do you go on holiday?

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I met a man through work recently, and as we chit chatted, we talked about travelling. He (who had already given me 'stingy' vibes) said that travelling should be a treat and that even if you can afford to go away multiple times a year, you shouldn't, or it's no longer a treat.

I, on the other hand, love going away. It can be a weekend a couple of hours' away by car, or a week-long holiday on the other side of the world. This man's reply to my position is that if I'm not happy doing the same things I do on holiday (chilling, visiting museums, shopping, etc), then there's a problem somewhere I'm not addressing.

Besides the fact I'm glad I probably won't see this person again, am I right in thinking he's a bit made? I go away for so many reasons: I want to relax, spend time with my DP in a new place, a change of scenery, a fun weekend with one or more friends, exploring new places, etc. Any particular reasons why you go away for a break? Or should they really be rare treats????

He sounds incredibly boorish and jealous. Sometimes miserable people like to make themselves feel better by telling everyone else there's something wrong with them if they aren't just as miserable.

I go away to eat new food, swim in new places (love to swim) and frankly, to get away from my children (I take probably as many holidays without dh/dc as I do with them).

I want to escape my everyday life. I want someone else to cook and clean. I want my children to be in the pool everyday. I want my husband to switch off from work. I want to drink sundowners in the warm night air.

It's definitely a treat though. Even a night in a Premier Inn is a treat tbh!

Different priorities I suppose. I love being warm, seeing new places and eating different foods & prioritise holidays above my house, car, clothes electronics, all those things other people seem to spend on. Choices.

I don't really go anywhere

but I have no idea why he would think such weird things as he does. You are not inadequate because you like to go away. What a weirdo he is.

Interesting question.

After thinking carefully i go because i love the sea, and to teach my DCs to love the sea.
(we live in the countryside, but miles from the coast).

I sort of get what he was saying, I think. Maybe he meant that if you aren't happy to be at home, then maybe you need to move somewhere you are happy.

I choose to live rurally and I love taking a week off and just doing local stuff, especially in summer or autumn.

On the other hand, I love going somewhere else, UK or abroad and exploring. It can be waterfalls in the Brecon Beacons or a city break or via blanca in Umbria. Definitely somewhere warm in February. Always nice to have a different experience.

I wouldn't want to see him again either. He sounds terribly RIGID. Doesn't sound like he'd be good at compromise.

I love exploring, so visiting museums, cities, historical, natural or cultural sites in addition to the ones we have here.

Nice weather is also a bonus.

Relaxing by having someone to prepare my meals, not caring about tidying up or the general day-to-day things.

Because I want to. Literally no reason beyond that.

He sounds a bit puritanical. I like to experience other cultures (holidays abroad) and I also like spending time in the great outdoors (holidays in the U.K. - we usually do camping/walking type).

I suppose to a degree, my holiday is a treat as I like to go to Japan, fell in love with it years ago. But obviously that's not something I can be doing every few weeks! I would if I could! I have somewhat fallen out of love with short breaks. They feel like a lot of hassle now. Never been a heat lover so never gone on a traditional summer holiday. I think at this point I do prefer to save my money for the longer haul trips.

I'm the same as you OP and like to get away frequently even if it's just for a weekend, I would much prefer lots of short breaks/ trips rather than a single annual 'luxury' holiday

Some people prefer to use their entire holiday budget on one expensive holiday

It is just personal preference and he sounds like a 'know all' type in declaring that your attitude to holidays is wrong and his is right

I like to travel for all sorts of reasons

• exploring somewhere new/sightseeing
• experiencing different cultures
• meeting up with friends/family
• relaxation
• activity based holidays

To escape from day to day life and enjoy my dc and dp without ironing/cooking/commute stress etc. My job is intense and hard and I need to run away sometimes 😊

To live life to the full! Variety, see new things, learn new things, spend quality time with family in a way you don't if you are running around dealing with day to day life, be a more well-rounded interesting person.

I really enjoy my life at home. But whether I enjoy it 50 weeks a year and have a two week holiday, or enjoy it 46 weeks a year and have several holidays and weekends away, etc, doesn't move the home-enjoyment dial. If anything, you also enjoy home more because you get more of a break from it.

I don't particularly like to go away unless it's to stay at a friend's, but I certainly wouldn't inflict that on you!

He sounds like a right killjoy.

You enjoy it, that's fine.

I love going on holiday and if I could afford to do it more often and had unlimited annual leave I'd certainly go on more holidays.

I love visiting new places, relaxing, not cooking or cleaning, seeing my children experience new things and spending time as a family. I love the hot weather and different cultures and food and drink.

Travel is a luxury but if you can afford it then go for it. I'd say we could all do with seeing more of the world. But of course there are environmental issues with frequent air travel.

Because life is short and I want to see lots of places and explore while I can. It doesn't have to be a "big" holiday, I have only had UK holidays for the past 7 years but I've seen a lot of interesting places on these lovely Islands in that time and shown my DC new places as well.

I still have fantastic memories of exploring foreign countries before DDs were born and those memories will be lifelong. We're finally taking them abroad next year (to Iceland) and I want them to have the same curiousity about the world as I do.

We're here for such a short time, I want to see and do as many things as possible. My parents are older now and their health has declined so spend almost all of their time sitting at home.....they still talk about the places they went and the things that they saw.

I've got this one life, I want to live it.

To see new it's if this big bad planet everyone calls home.

To experience new things and meet new people!

His logic is really weird. You can love your life at home and still want to travel a lot! I travel for the sensory change - sounds, smells, sights, different light, hearing different languages. For me that is all really pleasantly stimulating. When I was a city dweller I enjoyed being outdoors a lot more on holidays. Its only since moving to the countryside that I realise that much of what I enjoyed about holidays, including UK camping, was the large amount of time spent outdoors. E.g I had a holiday on a yacht and realised that spending a week on water was a huge change from the norm, and really wonderful and memorable as a result. It is a real privilege to be able to travel.

To sightsee, have fun, swim in a warm sea, snorkel, experience other cultures and cuisine, to see the wildlife and amazing scenery. I also enjoy relaxing spa breaks, city breaks, cruises, festivals, going on adventures on our motorbikes and in our campervan.
I have a bucket list a mile long even though I've been to 40 odd countries. So much to do, he sounds dreary tbh.

Because the world is a big place and I want to explore it :)

Holidays are brilliant and I wish I could go on more, and wish I'd been able to travel more when young.

That said I do think some people concentrate on holidays as a form of escape from their own daily lives. Nothing wrong with that, life can deal out really shit cards and if people get relief on a lovely holiday I am glad for them.

I suppose there is an element of 'build a life you don't need to escape from' but the thing is not everyone actually can do that.

I like to eat different foods, see wildlife and amazing scenery, learn about the history and culture of other places. I like to experience the atmosphere of different towns and cities. I also like to do fitness holidays where I exert and improve myself during the day and then flop, then eat and drink delicious things at night - to me that's the ultimate way to relax

until a few years ago we didn't have enough money to do any of these things. Our holidays were budget self catering at places the kids would enjoy. Now I the mortgage is paid off and the DC are independent we have some spare cash and I intend to fit in as much adventure and exploring as I can while I'm still fit enough to be independent.