How the heck do I persuade my DH to go see the GP?

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I am really worried about my dh and this even ended up with a flaming row yesterday.
He has passed blood on and off for a year or two. Will never see the GP (probably due to a mix of embarrassment and deeply hidden anxiety over it). He always says it’s his haemorrhoids flaring up (not medically diagnosed I may add). I agree that it most probably is but he doesn’t know this for sure and needs to see a medical professional.
He dismisses it and continues using the pile cream my GP prescribed me.
Yesterday he told me he bled quite a bit but still insists it’s the haemorrhoid as he says he can feel it and pushed it back in. Also convinced the spice in the curry (mild curry) I cooked the night before would make a pile bleed!!?
I reiterated that it probably is a pile but he really should go and get it checked out. This ended up in an argument as he says I should worry about me and he will do his own thing.
He had a gp appointment a week ago to check his blood pressure medication and had the ideal opportunity to ask but when he came back he said he had ‘forgotten’, ffs!
I know he’s a grown man of 51 but he lost his mum 3 years ago to a rare bowel cancer and I can’t help but worry.
How the hell do I get him to go and get checked out?

You can’t make him but I hope he does get checked out.

Is the blood bright red? If so, the likelihood is that he is right about it being haemorrhoids but he still needs that to be confirmed especially with his family history.

tell him to watch the deborah james documentary,
read all about bowel cancer symptoms.

Sounds like he's shitting himself that it could potentially be serious so is doing the "la la la, I'm not listening" routine going it'll all go away.

When he does the you do you thing, feel free to tell him that actually, you are as the worry is impacting you every day. You're scared that you could lose him due to his refusal to get checked. You're worried because you love him and want him to be with you for as long a possible.

Highly likely that it is piles, particularly if it's fresh blood, but only a clinician can give him that reassurance and then treat them to get rid of the discomfort.

If he has a family history of bowel cancer and has blood in his poo, then he's in a ridiculous amount of denial not to get that checked. Getting checked at an early stage means that if it is unfortunately cancer, there's the best chance of treatment being effective. Sticking his head in the sand is not going to solve anything. All the advice from the NHS and cancer charities is not to ignore symptoms.

https://www.bowelcanceruk.org.uk/about-bowel-cancer/symptoms/

My brother in law is in his 30s, had no symptoms, but completed a screening check as a friend died of bowel cancer. It showed up blood, his GP said it was probably nothing but sent him for a colonoscopy just to be on the safe side. Showed cancer. That could have silently grown and spread for years until it caused more symptoms. He was able to have surgery and will hopefully be fine.

TheSnowyOwl yes it is bright red which makes things worse because he thinks that makes it ok!
Willmafrockfit he knows all about it, I have had 25 years of digestive issues myself so am obsessed about bowel health, I’ve tried educating him but I can’t get through to him, he’s scared I know but he would rather stick his head in the sand.
Thats exactly what I said to him yesterday Mabelface that I love him and am really worried but he just says he’ll do something about it but won’t, I’m going crazy with frustration.
givemushypeasachance you would think with his mums recent passing he would be on the ball but he doesn’t think it’s anything worth going to the trouble to get checked as he has just got this idea it’s 100% haemorrhoids and that’s that. I keep telling him he can’t know for sure until checked.