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Only Christian kids given a prize

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IDontWantRealism · 21/04/2023 15:56

Can someone help me see reason with this? My kids are atheist but Jewish by ancestry. They go to a non-denominational school but in a very traditional rural area with lots of Christian students. They ran a competition which involved making a profession of faith over Easter. Obviously my kids didn’t enter but many others did. We were told there would be a prize but today at school all children who entered were given a prize leaving out the few non-Christian children and the few other children who didn’t enter. That’s not ok is it? I need some help navigating this as the school have form. We’ve previously had to moan about them being taught other problematic views.

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Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:03

7Worfs · 21/04/2023 16:04

I still don’t see the issue after your update - it was Easter, and it was themed.

It manifestly excludes children on the grounds of religion, which is a protected characteristic under the Equality Act, and therefore it's unlawful.

OP, I'm guessing they haven't organised anything comparable for Ramadan or Jewish festivals?

REteacher101 · 21/04/2023 19:04

Sugarfree23 · 21/04/2023 19:00

OK I'll rephrase is for you Christian but not Roman Catholic.

So every other Christian sect if you like, Church of Scotland,
Free church,
Episcopalian Church
Reformed Presbyterian
Evangelical Church
Free Presbyterian Church
Baptist
Those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head, I'm sure there are others.

Scotland has provision for RC schools through the Central belt, less so in the rural areas.
Most people are in the catchment for 2 primaries and 2 secondaries, one being RC and one non-denomational.

I think we're talking at cross purposes? I know the names of other Christian denominations! But none of them are involved in running schools in Scotland.

Sugarfree23 · 21/04/2023 19:06

IDontWantRealism · 21/04/2023 18:39

The local church is CofS but they have a Baptist service that takes place there too. I am not entirely sure which denomination the school volunteers are. They’re not ministers, they’re just members of the congregation who come over to the school for these sessions.

Now that is very unusual.
It is normally a trained minister who would do the odd assembly (maybe 3 a year). Not do things like run competitions in school.

I do think I'd speak with the school.

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Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:06

EustaceTheMonk · 21/04/2023 16:10

It was a contest effectively for Christians so non-Christians who did not enter did not get any of the prizes and that's exclusion. Is that what you are saying?

If so, I totally disagree. You can't get a prize unless you enter.

But they could only enter by professing a faith they did not believe in, which for many children might be radically contrary to their own religion or beliefs. So obviously it's exclusion.

Sugarfree23 · 21/04/2023 19:08

REteacher101 · 21/04/2023 19:04

I think we're talking at cross purposes? I know the names of other Christian denominations! But none of them are involved in running schools in Scotland.

I thought it was the norm for non-denominatuonal school to have a Chaplin usually CoS.

Are you in Scotland?

Botw1 · 21/04/2023 19:08

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Blueblell · 21/04/2023 19:12

I think the issue here is that it is an outside organisation coming into the school to teach about Jesus.

My kids have been through 2 COfE schools and I am certain that a competition like this run by the school would be for children to discuss their own particular faith.

if the school is allowing one religious group to come into the school from outside and preach then yes that is a problem that should be addressed.

nocoolnamesleft · 21/04/2023 19:12

I wasn't sure initially, but with your update about the exact wording, yes this definitely sounds like a profession of faith. It could have still been okay if the alternative activity also had similar odds of attracting a similar prize, but it didn't. So it does feel discriminatory. I suspect the church provided the prizes, giving the number of chocs that they had received entries, and then the school didn't really think about it. But I think your children have every right to feel excluded. I wouldn't go in guns blazing, but I would have to raise it with the school, if in your shoes. Because people do need to think.

CoI Catholic

REteacher101 · 21/04/2023 19:13

Yep, Scotland. Chaplain is just a visitor to the school, at the school's invitation. No role or influence in running it (except the OP's school though, which sounds a bit nuts!)

Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:15

NoSquirrels · 21/04/2023 16:30

But they’re not required to enter. It’s voluntary.

Christian church runs Christian-themed competition at Easter isn’t something to worry about, imo.

Christian church running Christian-themed competition within its own congregation, absolutely fine. Christian church running Christian-themed competition within a school but telling non-Christian children who would like the chance to enter and win a prize that they can only do so by proclaiming something against their beliefs - definitely not fine. Unlawful, in fact.

ThreeImaginaryBoys · 21/04/2023 19:19

I don't think you're overreacting, OP. I think they have overstepped the mark and been extremely exclusionary.

I can only imagine the ruckus on here if children in a supposedly non-denominational school were all requested to proclaim their faith in Allah, or commit to be Jehovah's Witnesses.

Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:24

Toddlerteaplease · 21/04/2023 16:47

How can they get a prize for something they didn't enter? It's a life lesson. You can't win everything.

A life lesson that says we're offering a prize but even if you want to enter for a competition we will set it up in such a way that you can't?

Do you think it would be OK to offer prizes for everyone who climbs a tall cliff, and saying to the ones who can't do it due to physical disabilities or acrophobia or vertigo that they can't complain because they didn't enter?

Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:26

Andanotherone01 · 21/04/2023 16:58

Of course it is ok. Do you understand what a competition is and that there is a bit of effort required?

Do you understand what the Equality Act is and that schools have to comply with it?

Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:32

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 21/04/2023 16:58

@IDontWantRealism I'm Jewish and I think you are being ridiculous. The contest was about showing faith over Easter. Perhaps the Non Christian DCs could have done something about a faith practice with a similar place in the calendar -- Pesach, Eid, Hanuman Jayanti or Hanuman Janam-Utsav.

Indeed they could, but it seems they didn't, because the prize was being offered by the local Christian church. They could have done the most brilliant Eid-related piece of work ever, but it wouldn't ever stand a chance of winning a prize because it wouldn't be Christian. How exactly is it ridiculous to think that that is discriminatory and wrong?

ConsuelaHammock · 21/04/2023 19:38

Christian run activity in a primary school in a Christian country? Not something I would complain about.

Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:38

Snaaaaacks · 21/04/2023 16:59

It was Easter and you are in a Christian country (assuming you are in England), I'm sure if you lived in a Jewish or Muslim country they would do similar for their religious festivals too. There was nothing stopping your children entering if it was merely decorating a poster, it's not like they were asking you to convert to participate. I remember in school learning about other religions and doing activities related and I went to a Catholic school. There's nothing stopping your children learning about other faiths and getting a prize for their efforts.

FFS. How does decorating a poster teach children about other faiths? This had absolutely nothing to do with learning about faiths, this was a requirement to profess a belief they don't have.

If this is a Christian country, how come Church of England churches are so empty during the vast majority of their services?

GoodChat · 21/04/2023 19:41

ConsuelaHammock · 21/04/2023 19:38

Christian run activity in a primary school in a Christian country? Not something I would complain about.

They had to write 'Jesus saved me'. Is that really ok?

gettingoldisshit · 21/04/2023 19:41

Snoopyandthemuppets · 21/04/2023 16:25

My eldest is atheist
My youngest is Jewish
I am Christian

My children have done poster for Diwali, Passover, Easter, Christmas, Pillars of Islam, Churches, Mosques, Hindu Temples etc

Drawing a poster, or making a model of the pillars of Islam etc is massively encouraged by me at home. They have been to a Hindu temple with friends of mine and celebrated Diwali with them, she then came and celebrated Easter with us. Learning what others believe, listening, appreciating each other and our beliefs and faiths as well as atheism is one of the most valuable things on the planet. Do a cross stitch of a cross doesn’t mean you are a Christian or that you are going to Heaven - perhaps 🤔 see the bigger picture here.
Indoctrination in any form is not acceptable and that includes atheism. Learning and knowledge is power.

This is the most sensible post on here! I myself think ALL religion is made up bollocks but I wouldn't stop my kids from learning or being interested in any religion!

Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:44

Andanotherone01 · 21/04/2023 17:07

But hang on a second. All schools, whether faith schools or secular have to teach RE. This can be as simple as a colouring competition, such as this, to celebrate a major religious festival - doesn’t mean they won’t celebrate a different religious festival later in the year! My children go to a Catholic school and learn about other religions and have recently been to visit a mosque.

Producing a declaration of faith isn't doesn't help children learn RE..

This school isn't celebrating different festivals, otherwise OP would know about it, and she says she's never come across it despite her child being in P4. The obvious thing to have done would be to set up another competition at more or less the same time about Eid, but it hasn't happened. And how does that help atheists?

ShodanLives · 21/04/2023 19:46

gettingoldisshit · 21/04/2023 19:41

This is the most sensible post on here! I myself think ALL religion is made up bollocks but I wouldn't stop my kids from learning or being interested in any religion!

Learning about religion is not saying that they will only be given chocolate if the write "Jesus saved me".

ThreeLocusts · 21/04/2023 19:50

Odd how man people don't see the problem because 'they could have entered the competition'. They couldn't have, since the competition presupposed Xian beliefs.

Totally out of order, OP. It would be a service to the school community, and especially the non-Christians, if you took this up, but it sounds like you may encounter some unpleasantness.

Rosula · 21/04/2023 19:50

MissyB1 · 21/04/2023 17:08

Right so it’s quite clear they didn’t have to do anything. They had a choice. Next time it might be a different kind of competition which suits your kids but not others. Get over this.

If they wanted to win a prize, there was only one choice, and it was a choice that excluded them. This is not at matter of the subject matter not "suiting" them, it was a subject matter that they simply could not get involved in. So they never had any choice at all. I've yet to see any post that explains how that can be acceptable.

Dobby123456 · 21/04/2023 19:54

The way you've described it, it sounds like a very odd kind of competition. A profession of faith isn't a competition! Is it really that big a deal though Does? Does it really matter that some children couldn't enter? I think it's an important lesson for children that you don't have to be involved in everything - it's OK to opt out.

velvetypudding · 21/04/2023 19:54

Easter is Christian. If you're celebrating Easter as a Christian date then it is fair to say it's about something linked to Christianity, being open about all faiths whilst regarding your own is the best way forward. They opened the competition to all. If you didn't want to enter then you can't expect a prize surely?

I went to a full on 'brainwashing' catholic school and everyone entered the annual Easter competition. Our priest judged it, I remember it fondly despite not being Christian! I have learnt about all religions and studied others and don't need to shut out any one even if it could never line up with my beliefs. You shut your own dc off here

Blueblell · 21/04/2023 19:55

World history is based on religion (all religions) ignoring religion is just daft but this scenario is not about that.

This school has allowed one religious group into the school to run a competition that excludes quite a few kids who are primary age. The school has been at fault here for allowing it.

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