Does friend want me to be single?

[MessyalwayMessy]

I don’t want to think bad of a friend but it’s starting to go that way. My last boyfriend she kept telling me to leave him.

She constantly asks about my love life despite me making it clear I don’t want a boyfriend. There’s been a few instances where I’ve posted a story on Instagram and she’s messaged asking who the man was (once was a stranger who happened to just be in the background and one was my female friends hand).

A different friend made a throw away comment about getting me together with a single guy she knows (friend also knows this guy). We were at the same event, I saw him and said I wasn’t interested to both my friends (he doesn’t know I exist btw) and friend made a point to tell me he’d gone home with another girl.

Now tonight I’ve shown her a photo of a guy I’m speaking to and actually like (met online) and she’s telling me he looks arrogant and up himself. Obviously I’m going to keep my dating life private now - but am I overreacting?

She’s not your friend.

Shes trying to sabotage you I think.

I had a friend like this. Note 'had.'

I felt like her insurance policy - someone to keep as the single mate she could go out on the pull with when she was single (and sometimes when she wasn't), someone to keep on hold so she wouldn't be the only singleton, the only saddo (in her eyes) so she would always have someone to hand for when she was single. My being alone was helpful to her. She kept me out of her circle, I wasn't invited to her engagement party or her children's christenings - presumably in case I met someone.

OP you're not overreacting. It's your business what you tell to whom about any aspect if your life. She sounds like a bit of a dead weight - we get support from friends, and doom mongering from our frenemies.

Is she like this with other people, is she generally negative about something positive in others' lives?