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Looking up exs.

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winkywankie · 20/04/2023 16:15

Anyone else look up their exs of Facebook?

I have an ex who I split with me around 20 years ago, he broke my heart. Looking back it was just a kid thing really, we are both married to other people and have kids now.

But still from time to time I'll look on his page and see what him & his family are up to.

I'm not still in love with him before anyone asks, it's just pure noseyness! 😂

Anyone else guilty?

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Tidsleytiddy · 20/04/2023 16:16

Of course.

CalistoNoSolo · 20/04/2023 16:53

No, never. It doesn't interest me. I did have an ex get in touch via whatsapp years after we had split up. He must have done some serious digging to find me as I had changed address and phone number several times in the intervening years. I'd even completely changed career so now I think about it its actually a lot more creepy than I thought at the time. Anyway I told him to sod off and blocked him.

Parvolax · 20/04/2023 16:55

Guilty. My ex had DC and I was shocked to see the little kids I knew all grown up.

LakeTiticaca · 20/04/2023 16:59

Yup!! Found 3 of them, 2 from the 70s, one from the 80s. All thought they were gods gift and any woman should be grateful to breathe the same air as them. None of them have aged well, bald overweight 60 somethings with drinkers noses 😉
All seem to be married so some poor women have to wake up next to it every morning 🤣

Xrays · 20/04/2023 17:03

I don’t need to look my ex up, well my last one before dh, we still both live in the same tiny rural village and it seems like every time I pop to the supermarket he seems to be in there at the same time as me and we both pretend we haven’t seen each other 😳😆

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 20/04/2023 17:05

Always- I also have a good snoop on their current partners etc. I look at what job title they have and Google their wages too to see how wealthy they might be now 😅😅😅😅 don’t know who I think I am

NowZeusHasLainWithLeda · 20/04/2023 17:06

Isn't that why they invented Facebook? 🤣
My friend once said it should be a law that once a man has had a relationship he must join FB and update his photo yearly.

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winkywankie · 20/04/2023 17:10

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 20/04/2023 17:05

Always- I also have a good snoop on their current partners etc. I look at what job title they have and Google their wages too to see how wealthy they might be now 😅😅😅😅 don’t know who I think I am

I'm impressed at this level of stalking! 😂

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mrsnec · 20/04/2023 17:11

Yes. Still think he's the one that got away.

We split because of a misunderstanding, and I only found out the truth years later.

I debate with myself every day about if I should send a message or a friend request. He may not even remember me but at least I'd have closure but then I think I couldn't handle the rejection.

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 20/04/2023 17:13

Do it!!

onlyabitnosy · 20/04/2023 17:14

Yes but not on my actual account (I have a stalking account) just in case I accidentally press the add button or like something without realising.

Howdoyou · 20/04/2023 17:20

Nope. I have done it before but it was so boring because none of them had altered at all! None had got married or had children and they were still working in menial jobs, it was honestly like they had been frozen in time.

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winkywankie · 20/04/2023 17:33

onlyabitnosy · 20/04/2023 17:14

Yes but not on my actual account (I have a stalking account) just in case I accidentally press the add button or like something without realising.

This is amazing! 😂

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winkywankie · 20/04/2023 17:34

mrsnec · 20/04/2023 17:11

Yes. Still think he's the one that got away.

We split because of a misunderstanding, and I only found out the truth years later.

I debate with myself every day about if I should send a message or a friend request. He may not even remember me but at least I'd have closure but then I think I couldn't handle the rejection.

Send him a request and see what happens!

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Xrays · 20/04/2023 17:47

onlyabitnosy · 20/04/2023 17:14

Yes but not on my actual account (I have a stalking account) just in case I accidentally press the add button or like something without realising.

This reminds me of a thread recently where someone was snooping on an ex and they accidentally tagged themselves as the baby in the photo 😆😆 I still laugh about that now, even if maybe it wasn’t real.

TheSaint01 · 20/04/2023 17:53

I don't need to stalk, I am still really close to the exes I want to be, the others can go fuck themselves, rather poke my eyes with shitty sticks.

mrsnec · 20/04/2023 19:29

@winkywankie and everyone else really, do you think it makes a difference if they appear to be single from their and your own personal circumstances?

So in my case man in question talks about his children but doesn't mention a partner. I'm going through an extremely messy divorce and have had terrible experience with online dating. I've resisted contacting said ex so far because I think my circumstances cloud my judgement.

Also I posted about the full story before and the consensus was I need therapy! And he lives 5 hours from me.

All that aside.. I still might!

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