Is it meant to get easier?

[elliejjtiny]

I have 5 dc, all with SN aged between 8 and 16. We moved house 4 weeks ago which I appreciate doesn't help. Dh WFH and I am a SAHM (I know I'm lucky). I know having 5 dc means life is going to be busy but I'm sure I'm busier now than when my dc were little. When my dc were little, people talked about the difficulties of "2 under 2" , "3 under 5" etc and said it would be easier when they were older. But now youngest is 8 and things are definitely not easier. So I'm just wondering whether I should be patient and wait a couple more years or whether this is it and I am destined to be permanently knackered. I'm not complaining because I know it was my choice to have 5 but I'm just wondering whether that easier time is coming or not.

I think it entirely depends on your children and their personalities/ experiences! Sorry. No cut and dried answer.

I don’t think it gets easier just different issues to be honest. I’ve found the teen years have left me yearning for toddlers again! To be fair 5 kids of any age is going to be hard especially when you throw SN into the mix.

I don’t think many will be in the same boat as you op

5 children
8 years between youngest to eldest
ALL have SN

i was exhausted reading it letting alone living it

Thankyou. I expect that's true about it being different rather than easier. I remember when the school run was just to drop off the older 3 at primary school which took about 15 minutes. Now the school run takes about 90 minutes. Their expectations are higher too. Gone are the days when they would be fascinated by a trip to see the new houses being built.

I’m in a similar situation only I’m a fully lone parent to 4, 3 oldest have additional needs asd/ adhd , I’m actually sick of hearing how it gets “easier” It will never get easier for me and my children are getting harder the older they get. I miss them being younger it was certainly much much easier!