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Annoying parents at your kids school

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usernamechanged1 · 19/04/2023 20:14

Just read a thread where someone was getting an hard time for being annoyed that kids take crisps to school.

Are there any parents you can’t help but eyeroll at? Why are they so annoying? I don’t have a kid at school yet but I’m secretly looking forward to dreading the WhatsApp groups with all the moans and controversies.

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Allschoolsareartschools · 20/04/2023 08:04

Whenever I read these threads I say a silent prayer of thanks that WhatsApp didn't exist while mine were in primary school so there was no chance of a class group!

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 20/04/2023 08:14

The ones who complain about the school not challenging their child but yet didn’t know about the homework portal or attend any of the parent workshops.
the ones who don’t know the key dates despite the app, email, website, letters etc!

BovrilMartini · 20/04/2023 08:25

The pavement huddle. The group of mums that stand just outside the gate, chatting and vaping so you can’t get passed. Just move along 10 meters or cross the road. Or better still don’t fill the school playground with you stinky cloud of gas.

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MsMarch · 20/04/2023 09:02

Haribosweets · 20/04/2023 07:05

It gets no better at secondary! 🤣

DS went to a different secondary to most of his friends. We do know a few families but it's a huge school and the bulk of his primary went elsewhere. As a result, we didn't get added to any class/ year WhatsApp. One of his new friend's mum also didn't as they also came from a school that only has a few kids joining this secondary. The two of us briefly discussed tracking down a WhatsApp group, agreed not to but did join the Facebook group. From the Facebook group alone I am very very pleased we abandoned WhatsApp!

It's secondary school - kids must sort themselves out and our school actually sends decent, user-friendly communication around (unlike primary which is a disaster so annoying though the "is it PE today" comments are, it's quite understandable).

Haribosweets · 20/04/2023 09:07

What's app group, year group Facebook page, school drop off / pick up with same parents parking where they shouldn't and parents still ask 'what time do they finish on X date' and what colour p.e kit day is it. I actually find secondary worse than primary!

Jellycatspyjamas · 20/04/2023 09:07

Ones who call the head by their first name🙄

All the parents are on first name terms with the head teacher and deputy heads in my kids school. They introduced themselves using their first names, so that what parents use for them.

Gingerlygreen · 20/04/2023 09:16

Ones who don't accept their child is a bully and do something to deal with it, my dd is currently being called names and being ostracised by another girl who's Mum thinks she's an angel, the fact this girl is losing so many friends doesn't seem to register with her.

Justalittlebitduckling · 20/04/2023 09:32

I don’t know why, but the ones who refer to the Easter holiday as “Easter half term” would infuriate me the most.

Justalittlebitduckling · 20/04/2023 09:34

Margot78 · 20/04/2023 00:04

This Dad used to drop his daughter off in the mornings and would boom out a motivational Dad quote after her as she walked through the main door. Think “be the best you cam be”,
”believe and you will achieve” and my personal favourite “reach for the sky”.. Had to wonder if a Buzz Lightyear toy had inspired that one. All us less imaginative types just quietly wished our dcs a good day so obviously our dcs will now be doomed to failure.

That would drive me nuts. One of my DH’s friends is like that.

Twilightstarbright · 20/04/2023 09:38

@Justalittlebitduckling agree. It’s not a half term!!

ImpossibleDrear · 20/04/2023 09:39

Gingerlygreen · 20/04/2023 09:16

Ones who don't accept their child is a bully and do something to deal with it, my dd is currently being called names and being ostracised by another girl who's Mum thinks she's an angel, the fact this girl is losing so many friends doesn't seem to register with her.

I have had to deal with an EXTREME version of this recently - plus the mum posting on Facebook about it all and teachers who are friends of the family replying on FB in support of the daughter (!). The school has handled it, sort OF, and the teachers won't be doing that again, but the mother and daughter are still causing chaos in other ways. Some really psychologically harmful stuff happening and I've had to really go to bat for my daughter.

Skybluepinky · 20/04/2023 09:48

Most of the school mummy mafia, far too much to say about everyone.
The worse are the ones that get everyone in a WhatsApp chat group, their reason is they r always running late and want options to pick their kid up, they are serial posters of “we are going to the park if anyone wants to come “.
Hideous photos of their overweight kids eating and fishing for comments by tagging others in.
Saying their child is a daddy’s child then letting it slip that the dad has never looked after them and dad can’t be bothered to get out of bed to pick the child up from school, when asking in the WhatsApp if someone can pick said child up!

ReformedWaywardTeen · 20/04/2023 09:51

Oh god yeah.

It was worse at primary but secondary I thought would mean calm because you aren't standing around in a playground waiting for the kids to come out.

No, instead there are groups on Facebook.

One woman is an utter cow. She's a know it all of the highest level. Except she knows fuck all. Thinks she has the heads ear- no not a bit of it. She joined a conversation about a change to PE kit. Lots of saying it was a bit short notice and surely could've waited until the start of the new term giving parents time to sort. That also, was it really necessary when we are in a well documented cost of living crisis.

In comes this utter cow, how dare we question the school, how dare we slate it for doing what is right, of people can't afford to have basics they should give their children up to be fostered.

If that wasn't bad enough, she then tags me, in a thread of about 90 other parents, all politely talking about this change (and whereas most agreed it was ill-timed those who didn't put their point politely too) and decides to character assassinate me. I've never met her in my life or spoken to her, her kids are different year groups to mine and they don't know each other. I very rarely post on the group and she is not an admin.

She was going to "report my behaviour as insubordinate" to the head. That no wonder "your bratty children" are the way they no doubt are because of me and my diagrace of an attitude. That as "ring leader" of the insubordinate attitude in this thread I will be told my children's places are no longer tenable once she is finished.

So I'm like taken aback but actually amused because she's full of shit. I politely said "For the record, I didn't start this thread. You do not know my children. We have never met, nor spoken. You aren't a governor, nor do you have power to have my children removed from school. That the school knows we have a group and it is monitored. And that she should censor her comments on my children and grow up." Other parents commented to say how unhinged her comments were.

So instead of shutting up, she doubles down and says my kids are clearly "thugs" because my photo of them in my profile with me shows DD in goth clothes and my son doing a "gang sign" and clearly it can only be expected from a single parent household.

Firstly, married, to their dad. Secondly, a gang sign was a peace sign he was doing for a laugh. And DD being a goth is fine by me.

I just muted her after doing a laughing face emoji.

A day after, Headteacher called, she had seen and wanted to assure me my kids places are safe. That the awful woman was told to delete her inflammatory comments or the head would advise I take her to court.

But she still causes trouble at every opportunity.

shadowchancesassy · 20/04/2023 09:57

There's a few performance parents at our school. Like to speak loud to their kids whilst looking at your reaction. I look through them or blank Confused I'm one of these in and out parents, I speak to the ones I know but ignore the rest. Thankfully there's no WhatsApp group but there's a fb year group that I'm on. The odd thing gets posted on there but it's usual to ask if people can check bags for lost cardis and jumpers.

mindutopia · 20/04/2023 10:11

We have a disney dad at our school. He only sees his dc once a month for the weekend, so comes to collect him at home time on the Friday. The kids line up and are released from the school yard one at a time when the teacher sees their parents. He consistently just walks up to the teacher and tells him he's there to collect his dc, and she consistently needs to tell him to wait his turn. Then when his dc comes out, it's always all 'we're going on holiday for the weekend!' 'do you want ice cream?!' 'come see daddy's new supercar!' I know his ex, and he's clearly an (abusive) twat, but it still annoys me every time. Otherwise, everyone else at our school is truly lovely.

Phewthatwasclose · 20/04/2023 10:48

Charlottewebsbabies · 19/04/2023 22:39

I'm as working class as they come

We moved to a lentil weaving,middle class area (anyone from york will know it) and I enrolled the kids into the school

Within a week,one had an invite to a party-all good

Child went-but came home in tears

The party girls mum had told him that his present to her kid wasn't good enough and he wasn't welcome-and that she wanted my number (which he didn't have,so she shouted at him) so she could ring me and pick him up

She was very snotty with me when I did pick him up

I left it-we'd been at the school for less than a week and just figured ds had got it wrong

He hadn't

She was part of the pta,thought she was queen bee and so far up the heads arse,she could have cleaned the heads teeth

She made sure that none of mine got any part in school plays,never won any awards,never got a part in the school concert, last to meet santa etc

Her brat often repeated what she'd heard from her mother within earshot-low level bullying that she never got pulled up on because of who her mother was

So,in short,the middle class mother who thought we where shit on her shoe

Didn't stop me from being super friendly and polite to her and her mates which confused the hell out of her

Silly cow-once they'd left,I never had to see her or that shitty Radley handbag she carried like it was the crown jewels,ever again

@Charlottewebsbabies That's shocking!!!

What was the present if you don't mind me asking? Was it not 'tasteful wooden toy' enough for her? 😅

Sunnysideup999 · 20/04/2023 11:10

Haribosweets · 20/04/2023 07:05

It gets no better at secondary! 🤣

Please tell me there’s no class WhatsApp at secondary?!

Haribosweets · 20/04/2023 14:07

Sunnysideup999 · 20/04/2023 11:10

Please tell me there’s no class WhatsApp at secondary?!

Yep and FB groups! It's exactly the same but worse. Secondary schools tend to have 2 week timetables and 2 different colour p.e kit. As well as cooking ingredients but not all do the same lessons at same time. The teachers give child responsibility to bring what they need but it ends up going on the FB group / what's app for the parents to figure out 🤣 oh and then there is apps. I have 6 different apps all for school. Then parents put on FB "how do I login" "my password doesn't work" I used to help but got fed up in the end and stopped commenting 🙃

MrsScrubbingbrush · 20/04/2023 14:18

@Haribosweets
I feel I've really missed out. Both my DDs have just moved from different Secondary Schools to a 6th Form College and there was no parents WhatsApp groups for either of them Confused

They had their own WhatsApp groups for various subjects but that was all.

There's even less contact between college and parents apart from the odd email. Plus the occasional parent/teacher meetings.

I have to rely on them to tell me stuff and we all know well that works!

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 20/04/2023 14:19

There’s no WhatsApp at secondary here.

the only parent use of FB is for the school buses.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/04/2023 14:27

The ones who hang out around the front of the school in their Pajamas with a fag and a cuppa.

The ones who have screaming arguments outside school with other Moms

I think I just have a different class of parent to many of you 😂😂😂

I am however grateful my little Wattsapp group is just a small group of us, so the "what day is PE" messages are tolerated, the "Betty won the competition" posts are supported etc.

username12O3 · 20/04/2023 14:35

ThreeRingCircus · 19/04/2023 20:26

The ones in the class WhatsApp group that constantly ask "is it PE tomorrow?" It's PE every fucking Thursday. Is it Thursday tomorrow? Then yes, it's PE.

Haha. Could have written that!

I also am annoyed with the parents who don't think the rules apply to them - sending kids with juice, chocolate and crisps to school, for example.
OP, when you're parent your view on junk food will likely change; and it is a big thing to deny your child sugary treats while exposing them to their peers who are happily munching on them in the same room day after day.

Limth · 20/04/2023 14:41

Charlottewebsbabies · 19/04/2023 22:39

I'm as working class as they come

We moved to a lentil weaving,middle class area (anyone from york will know it) and I enrolled the kids into the school

Within a week,one had an invite to a party-all good

Child went-but came home in tears

The party girls mum had told him that his present to her kid wasn't good enough and he wasn't welcome-and that she wanted my number (which he didn't have,so she shouted at him) so she could ring me and pick him up

She was very snotty with me when I did pick him up

I left it-we'd been at the school for less than a week and just figured ds had got it wrong

He hadn't

She was part of the pta,thought she was queen bee and so far up the heads arse,she could have cleaned the heads teeth

She made sure that none of mine got any part in school plays,never won any awards,never got a part in the school concert, last to meet santa etc

Her brat often repeated what she'd heard from her mother within earshot-low level bullying that she never got pulled up on because of who her mother was

So,in short,the middle class mother who thought we where shit on her shoe

Didn't stop me from being super friendly and polite to her and her mates which confused the hell out of her

Silly cow-once they'd left,I never had to see her or that shitty Radley handbag she carried like it was the crown jewels,ever again

I've always suspected that South Bank was like this but my lentil weaving friends who live there have always assured me its very friendly.

Thanks for confirming my suspicions.

🖐Waves from Acomb 🖐

UpperLowerMiddleClass · 20/04/2023 14:53

The parents who have so little else going on in their lives they have the time to formulate in-depth opinions on every minor aspect of the school. And share these at length in the class WhatsApp.

NinjaGin · 20/04/2023 14:54

The class rep who refused to believe DS had been at the school the previous year because "I was class rep last year and know everyone!" Ummm I'm fairly sure I am better placed to know which school my son attended than you are, dozy cow.

Few years ago, same woman wanted to organise a class parents get together....volunteered to host at her house, she'd get the party food from M&S and wanted every PERSON so not even couple to contribute £8 a head! And bring your own wine! She would have made a fortune if everyone turned up, unsurprisingly there wasn't much interest so it didn't happen 😂

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