Advice on household manager role

[branforbrains]

Does anyone have a household manager or housekeeper/nanny (or work in such a role) and what do they do and not do? What do you still end up doing?

How close could I get to the life of a middle aged dad with a sahw? And how much would it cost?

What? This makes no sense!

I’m asking about employing someone to clean, cook, ferry dc to appointments, collect from school on sick days, tackle minor diy and decor, shop for kids clothes and shoes, bake cakes for the cake sales, return library books, meal plan, shop and prep, dry cleaning, organise and supervise tradespeople, admin… etc.

I think the difference between being a middle aged man with a SAHW and someone with staff is that the child will actually have a parent care for them during stressful times like appointments and when unwell. That can't be replicated.

What hours are you wanting them to work? You might need more than one member of staff depending on what parenting you're prepared to do.

I want one.

@NerrSnerr that’s a really key point.

Ideally I’d like one person, so that I don’t have more people to manage, or one person who would manage other services.

Back in the 1990s I tried this. I had a live-in nanny, housekeeper (5 mornings a week) and a gardener and on top of that, another girl who helped out with school runs and babysitting. In addition, I used my office PA to do the household admin and even the occassional office intern! There just isn't one person that will do it all.

I was still finding it difficult to do many of the much needed business trips and so in the end, I gave up the job. I decided I was running myself ragged and not spending enough time with my DCs. After a break, I took a job that was much less pressured.

@Easterbunnywashere thank you. That’s interesting. It still sounds like a lot to manage.
Can I ask, when you took the less pressured job, did you keep any of that help?