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I don’t know whether I should feel offended maybe?

I went out with a friend last night and we got a bit tipsy. She then said that her and her boyfriend feel bad about me being single and that I should put myself out there.

Btw I don’t ever complain about being single to her and this comment came out of the blue and I think I just feel uncomfortable that they see me being single as bad and maybe pity me?

And also her boyfriend couldn’t care less if I were single or married with ten kids as he’s more the says hello to me and then goes to play on his PlayStation if I’m ever at theirs. So I found it weird that he was mentioned in this context at all.

(Also maybe offended isn’t the right word but I can’t think of a more suitable word)

Are YOU happy being single? Because that's all that matters. People say things about other people but they are really talking about themselves. She's saying she wouldn't be happy single, or she fears it.
As long as you can confidently say you are OK with yourself nothing else matters OP.

I would be uncomfortable with this too. Last thing you need is their pity if you don't complain about being single yourself.

It’s probably because they are happy and think everyone should be as happy as them

Smug couples always presume everyone else wants to be in a couple too. They equate single with failure

She was drunk she probably just meant she wants you to be as happy as she is right now in her relationship

Just a tactless comment from someone seeing things through a slightly self absorbed prism.
She's so glad to be coupled up she can't imagine you aren't sad you're not, and if her bf is a bit rubbish it's might be making her feel better to think 'at least I'm not single', even though no bf is better than a bad one every time.

Take no notice, it's advice you never asked for and all about what's going on in her life/head and nothing to do with any insight or wisdom from her about you.

Didn't you read about the smug marrieds in Bridget Jones?

Yeah tactless and stupid.

Could be worse... on a night out a friend of a friend told me I wasn't doing myself any favours and that I should wear bright lipstick and a pushup bra as a route to finding a relationship. I ignored her (still single twenty years later though so maybe I should have listened 😂)

It’s probably because both or one of them is unhappy but feel the need to project onto you to “fix” a non-problem.

Rude, tactless, don’t let it bother you. Roll your eyes, tell her you’re happy as you are.

Some people cannot comprehend what it’s like to be independent.

Op I get this all the time from friends and family members. I think it's because they can't imagine being on their own. I'm overweight so I also get the 'if you lost weight I'm sure you meet someone' comments.