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What’s your go to when feeling lonely?

26 replies

Frankbutchersfangs · 15/04/2023 17:51

When all your friends are busy with their lives and your husband or partner is busy or being boring. Or if you don’t have a partner/husband and your friends are with their families, and you realise you have nothing planned, it’s a nice warm day and you start feeling down - what do you do to make yourself feel good and/or be entertained?

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Ishouldbeoutside · 15/04/2023 17:55

Go for a walk

frozendaisy · 15/04/2023 17:56

Slowly sipping a glass of red, fiction book on the go, 6music on in the kitchen, by the glass doors watching the clouds go by, or a walk to the local with weekend papers for a g&t, read of the paper, crossword, people watching. Obviously you don't have to consume alcohol but a mindful glass not a swig to get drunk, quite, at peace, letting the rest of the world rush about.

Maraudingmarauders · 15/04/2023 17:57

Either a walk with the dog, a good book and a chair in the sunshine or Outlander on telly with a chocolate bar, cup of tea and blanket!

Climbingthelaundrymountain · 15/04/2023 17:58

Well today I have binged on tv and carbs, I'm going to have a bath and read my book.

TomatoSandwiches · 15/04/2023 18:01

I don't think I've ever felt lonely tbh, or perhaps if I have I enjoyed it too much.... mmm, I would say if you have free time by yourself find a recipe you've wanted to try but haven't for whatever reason and make it, the more intricate the better.

GetYourActTogether1 · 15/04/2023 18:02

I love a solo trip to the cinema or a mooch around the shops and a coffee out.
Another option is spring clean my wardrobe and create some new outfits or for find a good box set to watch.

Naimee87 · 15/04/2023 18:05

If its early in the day i’d absolutely go running or workout at home! A skipping rope was my best investment always got some 90s techno blasting in the background. Or a walk with my dog where she decides the route, or binge a series no one i know would ever watch with me like ice road truckers, heavy rescue 😂 Abenteuer auf der A2. Or if i really want to feel i’ve achieved something and used my time wisely and done all the above, i get my teen DSs room in order, the feeling when i see his rooms spotless is indescribable 😌 if thats even a word

frozendaisy · 15/04/2023 18:06

TomatoSandwiches · 15/04/2023 18:01

I don't think I've ever felt lonely tbh, or perhaps if I have I enjoyed it too much.... mmm, I would say if you have free time by yourself find a recipe you've wanted to try but haven't for whatever reason and make it, the more intricate the better.

Yeah this a a good one, playing with spices is almost potions class in harry potter. Extra enjoyment if the mortar and pestle involved

ZuckerwatterMaus · 15/04/2023 18:09

I have a wander around the local antique fair and charity shops . Then a coffee in a nice cafe ( reading the book I always have with me ) . Or a box set binge on ten sofa with a heated throw .

SpaghettifingerFusillitoe · 15/04/2023 18:11

I’ve had points in my life where I often felt lonely so hope you’re ok! A few toddlers around atm so right now sounds like a wonderful problem to have but I know I didn’t feel like that at the time.

I would exercise, read, rewatch all of Succession or start an art/craft project. Also try reading ‘Solitude’ I can’t remember who it’s by but it helped me understand my loneliness when it was a part of my life :)

frozendaisy · 15/04/2023 18:11

Bizarrely I just read this sentence. It shows the specifics don't really matter.

What’s your go to when feeling lonely?
mamnotmum · 15/04/2023 18:14

Not lonely as much as when I feel flat - a dog walk. Fresh air and exercise.

worriedgasper · 15/04/2023 18:26

I'm in garden with wine and a fag, and reading with interest

LunaNorth · 15/04/2023 18:28

Put a podcast on and practice my drawing.
Get on the couch in my reading room and read.
Make a pot of tea and watch a bit of telly or an old film.
Take the dogs for a walk.

BansheeofInsherin · 15/04/2023 18:38

Listen to podcasts while I walk by the river, pref gripping true crime
Go to the library
Talk to my sister
Go to a gallery or exhibition or a gig if affordable
Come on MN
I would cuddle my cat but I don't have one anymore
What I try not to do is shop or eat. That way madness lies.

barmycatmum · 15/04/2023 18:40

mumsnet 😬

ZeroFucksGivenToday · 15/04/2023 18:43

Put on Vikings and have a binge, or 911 lone star if I want utter ridiculous but easy tv.
read a book.
MN.
Eat nice chocolate and have a cider.
if I want chat, then i go on buzz bingo online. They have a proper live chat night every evening between 7&10, you don't even have to play bingo to ge in there.

walking, cinema and a mooch to a garden centre also are go to ideas depending on the weather.

purplegreen99 · 15/04/2023 18:45

I go for a walk or go somewhere where I'm around people but don't feel awkward being on my own, like a museum or cafe.

Ilovealido · 15/04/2023 18:54

My go to when I feel like this is to head in to central London & wander around Covent Garden/ Soho, have a coffee & browse in Foyles. I did this a fair bit when I was single! Even now I have a family I sometimes have this feeling of not being connected to others despite having friends/ family. We can all end up in our own bubbles I think.

Topiography · 15/04/2023 18:58

Attend church, it's not just the Sunday services but many churches have weekday events too, latest one was a hotpot supper and quiz night. activities for youngsters too, like Messy Church which is games and crafts, usually on a
Saturday. Keep fit on weekday evenings with Dancercise or Zumba, a walking group and a badminton group.

Peanutgurgle · 15/04/2023 18:59

Walking in a city with galleries and lots of people around is a great balm for loneliness for me. You are then almost grateful for the quiet and solitude when you return home. If no access to a city then a really long walk or exercise class or something that makes you feel you deserve a sit down and your own company afterwards.

MissingMoominMamma · 15/04/2023 19:06

When I’m fed up, I try to have an adventure. Climb a hill I haven’t done before; camp, either wild or on a site. Take my paddleboard out.

Or sometimes I go to the cinema down the road. They have sofas and you can take drinks in with you.

MintJulia · 15/04/2023 19:12

Scented bath, glass of wine and a good book.

Or go for a run through the woods.

LindorDoubleChoc · 15/04/2023 19:14

Pre covid I had a thing I tried to live by which was doing something entirely new or something you hardly ever do, every single day of the week. This could be as simple as cooking a new recipe or going into a new shop, or walking a route you've never done before, or doing a face pack or cleaning out the bottom of the wardrobe, or listening to new music. It makes you feel a bit more alive.

sandgrown · 15/04/2023 19:14

I split with my long term partner two years ago and though?life is much easier there are times I am lonely. Family have their own stuff going on and my son is out a lot now at weekends. If it’s daytime I go for a walk or a mooch round shops and treat myself to coffee and cake . In the evenings if I have spare money I will go to the cinema or even the theatre . Despite the poor image bingo is a safe single activity. Lots of single women there though some are a bit older . If at home I read or go on the internet and research holiday offers . In the Winter I watch some TV . I have lots of housework/gardening I could do . I just need to find the enthusiasm . I remind myself how lonely I was in a bad relationship and feel better I now have the freedom to do what I want .

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