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Friend's 50th birthday and her DH wants me to write a message about why I love her

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BansheeofInsherin · 15/04/2023 10:35

And I have gone completely blank. He is making a scrapbook, so I want to say something witty yet moving. But I can't find the words!

I should say that my day job involves a lot of writing, so often by the weekend, I am written out! I need a fancier way of saying she is kind, fun, cheerful, well read, glamorous and good company.

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BansheeofInsherin · 15/04/2023 11:53

Right. I despise this person. Yes, she absolutely would enjoy the story about the disastrous perm because she has a sense of humour.

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Windywuss · 15/04/2023 11:58

I did something similar for my introvert ex husband on his fortieth. But I asked for photos to wish him happy birthday. Our friends were brilliant. Some held up birthday banners. Some dressed up. One climbed a tree and posed with something birthday related... It was fun. Are you allowed photos or visuals? Maybe you could collage a bunch of pics of you and your friend with just a couple of lines?

MysteryBelle · 15/04/2023 12:11

You say you’re a writer but had no idea what the friend’s husband was asking for, which is obviously a simple anecdote, memory, story. Right. You couldn’t think of one nice thing to say about your friend, you supposedly went blank, then tell us that you bristle against applying to her any of the positive attributes you helpfully listed for us LOL and then you say aha! she had a disastrous perm, I’ll use that! 🙄 of course friends tell funny and humorous stories about each other but usually there’s at least something included that is genuinely nice too and not just catty and snarky.

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BansheeofInsherin · 15/04/2023 12:18

Not only am I going to mention the disastrous perm, I am going to dig out a picture of us together, her with the perm and me with a mullet in my Goth phase, dressed in funeral black. Because, you know, it's fun to look aback at our broke uni days and laugh at ourselves. No doubt fun is a concept you are unfamiliar with. Hallmark greeting cards are probably more your style.

Given I have sustained this friendship for over 30 years, I think I am more familiar with what she would find funny than you are. LOL.

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Mabelface · 15/04/2023 12:39

We've grown older and up together with both of us changing over time. What hasn't changed is the unwavering love and support our friendship brings and I absolutely love you for it. Who would have thought that the goth mullet and dodgy perm purple girl would have stayed so tight for all this time? I'd never want to have a life without you in it. Just don't perm your hair again!

MysteryBelle · 15/04/2023 12:49

Name change fail? LOL

SchoolTripDrama · 15/04/2023 12:50

Christ how tacky

Vitriolinsanity · 15/04/2023 13:12

I would write this about my best friend.

We have walked beside each other through the highest highs and lowest lows. We admired each others choices to others and ripped the piss out of them with each other. We have held each others hair while we've thrown up, and held hands when life has thrown us shit. No one else can make me laugh so hard that drink comes out of my nose. We can sit for hours and not need to speak, but can talk for just as long about memories no one else knows. Knowing you are my friend makes me feel lucky.

I miss her. She died 7 years ago.

whatsinanameeh · 15/04/2023 13:36

We dont just spend our lives with our romantic partners, we spend our lives with our friends too and I know my best friend of many decades has known and loved many different versions of me over the years. Teenager, young professional, married, mother, struggler and motivator.

If I had to describe what she means to me I would think about all the people she has been and how every single one has enriched my life with their being part of it

Then I would find a picture of her with a daft hairstyle too 😂

Hbh17 · 15/04/2023 13:38

Thank heavens nobody organised anything like that for me! My toes are curling just thinking about it - truly awful.

MarshaBradyo · 15/04/2023 13:40

BansheeofInsherin · 15/04/2023 12:18

Not only am I going to mention the disastrous perm, I am going to dig out a picture of us together, her with the perm and me with a mullet in my Goth phase, dressed in funeral black. Because, you know, it's fun to look aback at our broke uni days and laugh at ourselves. No doubt fun is a concept you are unfamiliar with. Hallmark greeting cards are probably more your style.

Given I have sustained this friendship for over 30 years, I think I am more familiar with what she would find funny than you are. LOL.

So why ask on here?

BringtheJury · 15/04/2023 13:47

I'd start at the beginning and sort of work through the years . So 'From the purple phase , boyfriends, heartbreaks and fun times , our marriages, job disasters , holidays , children etc '

As you can see, I'm rubbish at this sort of thing!

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BansheeofInsherin · 15/04/2023 14:16

This thread has gone weird, so I am going to close it. Got some ideas from it and it jogged my memory, which was why I posted. Posters apparently are reading some deep sinister motive into it. Thanks to the ones who didn't.

Sorry for your loss @Vitriolinsanity .

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MysteryBelle · 15/04/2023 18:36

I went back and looked at your original post. When you said you needed a fancier way of saying kind, fun, etc for some reason I read it as the friend’s dh wanted you to say those things and you didn’t want to. When then cast a pall on your subsequent posts. Embarrassed and must say, I’m sorry! Apologies…

AreYouHavingAGiraffeNoItsACamel · 15/04/2023 18:49

Cringe

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