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Anxiety too much to bear

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AnxiousFlowerpot · 13/04/2023 20:33

I've had crippling anxiety since primary school. I'm 51 now. I don't know how I've made it through life. It's totally kept me back and stopped me living. It's exhausting. Simple things are such an effort. I'm just drained. For example, my bathroom needs refitting but the thought of getting it done is just too stressful. I need to book a holiday but can't even begin as I think about all the things that might happen e.g. strikes, bad weather, illness, horrible location etc.

I've tried medication, CBT etc. No use.

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Knockmealdowns · 13/04/2023 20:57

How many types of meds have you tried? I’ve got great relief from Lexapro..

Knockmealdowns · 13/04/2023 21:00

And Excercise in the morning first thing.. try and walk 30-50 mins

Creepycrawler · 14/04/2023 15:38

Hi OP. I'm really struggling at the moment too. It's just horrible. I wish I had some advice. I don't even like being alone at night time now. I can't function properly.

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AnxiousFlowerpot · 14/04/2023 20:47

My 17 yo DS has lower back pain at the moment and I'm assuming it's something awful that will end his athletic career. He's also just started driving and I'm scared stiff of him having an accident.

There is always something I'm worried about. When one problem goes away another one appears straight away. I'm so sick of it.

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AnxiousFlowerpot · 14/04/2023 20:48

I'm taking Sertraline 50 mg but keep forgetting to take it

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Creepycrawler · 15/04/2023 08:00

Did you have many side effects from Sertraline?
Dr offered to me but was worried about side effects and stayed with Fluroxetine which isn't helping much.

Knockmealdowns · 15/04/2023 09:26

Those meds take 2 weeks to kick in, set an alarm on your phone and take it religiously, for a month and see if you feel any better? If not you can switch.. can you do chair yoga, or walking or something? Anxiety is like a rocking chair, it takes a lot of energy but gets you no where.. life goes on in spite of the bloody terror.. I’m listening to women with ADHD and I’m surprised that I identify alot with their feelings.. not hyperactive but hypersensitive.. I also had that pure O form of OCD but Lexapro has calmed the internal crap in my head alot…

Creepycrawler · 15/04/2023 11:59

Knockmealdowns · 15/04/2023 09:26

Those meds take 2 weeks to kick in, set an alarm on your phone and take it religiously, for a month and see if you feel any better? If not you can switch.. can you do chair yoga, or walking or something? Anxiety is like a rocking chair, it takes a lot of energy but gets you no where.. life goes on in spite of the bloody terror.. I’m listening to women with ADHD and I’m surprised that I identify alot with their feelings.. not hyperactive but hypersensitive.. I also had that pure O form of OCD but Lexapro has calmed the internal crap in my head alot…

I've wondered about this.
I cannot sit down for more than 2 minutes before I think I've got work to do or things to clear up... Not even for meals (not that I'm eating properly anyway).

I really struggle with noise. Work in school and if it gets very noisy, I struggle.
I'm finding conversations and keeping track of what people have said difficult too atm.
I'll ask a question/be in combo and not listen to the reply so have to ask them to repeat. Like I zone out.

ClaraBourne · 15/04/2023 12:13

Would you try EFT tapping therapy? I find it very useful. Look at you tube or the tapping solution app.

I understand, I have huge anxiety about leaving the house and have I left things on, locked doors etc, The number of times I've gone home to check the doors. 😔

kizziee · 15/04/2023 12:15

I will come back to this later x

Creepycrawler · 15/04/2023 12:16

ClaraBourne · 15/04/2023 12:13

Would you try EFT tapping therapy? I find it very useful. Look at you tube or the tapping solution app.

I understand, I have huge anxiety about leaving the house and have I left things on, locked doors etc, The number of times I've gone home to check the doors. 😔

Oh gosh yes. I always think I've left my straightener or iron on and end up turning back to check. 😆Luckily my road goes in a full circle so it's easy to drive all the way around once I've set off.

Mabelface · 15/04/2023 12:21

I've also had life long anxiety. Diagnosed with asd and adhd, and meds for the latter make a huge difference as they make the constant negative chatter in my head shut up.

RoyGBivisacolorfulman · 15/04/2023 12:26

Knockmealdowns · 13/04/2023 21:00

And Excercise in the morning first thing.. try and walk 30-50 mins

Would that help? I am worried if I do this it will give me more time to stress over the day ahead and I will be tired.

kizziee · 15/04/2023 13:25

I'm really sorry you are struggling with this OP Flowers.
For specific worries like yours I have found writing it all down and 'problem solving' on paper has helped in the past.

I am also going through a real down turn in my anxiety / mood at the moment and if you don't mind would be interested to see what medications people suggest on this thread (it wasn't specific concerns that led to mine - more like a 'physical' / 'chemical' thing if that makes sense.)

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AnxiousFlowerpot · 16/04/2023 19:53

I've taken various ADs since I was 18. Tbh nothings really helped that much

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Knockmealdowns · 23/04/2023 09:01

Well Excercise releases happy hormones and uses up adrenaline, so it should help calm you.. also the calm app ( subscription required) was amazing when I had a super stressful job. I used to do it for 10 mins before heading for the office.. and honestly Lexapro has helped calm the noise in my head a lot.

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