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Original poster

Okay... Does anyone have a house they can rent out to me?

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Toomuchwine89 · 13/04/2023 18:06

I need a home.
I'm in a refuge, getting nowhere with housing, have six children, but would keep the house very clean. I have good credit, and a deposit waiting.

I need a place 😢

Thanks for reading x

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StreamingCervix · 13/04/2023 18:07

What area are you in?

what are the issues you’re facing with renting on the open market?

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Toomuchwine89 · 13/04/2023 18:09

Lincolnshire, but I'll go anywhere even though my abusive ex husband is trying to stop me

They just all say no. Too many applications and they're not going to choose someone on universal credit with six children over the perfect married couple with two kids. It's just hopeless.

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Orangesandlemons77 · 13/04/2023 18:20

If you are homeless would the council not have a duty to find you somewhere?

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slowquickstep · 13/04/2023 18:30

Orangesandlemons77 · 13/04/2023 18:20

If you are homeless would the council not have a duty to find you somewhere?

A hotel or an old office building is the norm at the moment

SweetSakura · 13/04/2023 18:38

I can't help but am thinking of you. I know homelessness teams are under huge pressure but I hope they are able to help place you soon.

I spent some time sharing one bedroom in my lovely sister's house with my two children after fleeing abuse, and that was tough enough. (She and her husband were wonderful but the children and I were shattered from everything)

Wishing you all the best and I hope you find somewhere

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Toomuchwine89 · 13/04/2023 18:42

SweetSakura · 13/04/2023 18:38

I can't help but am thinking of you. I know homelessness teams are under huge pressure but I hope they are able to help place you soon.

I spent some time sharing one bedroom in my lovely sister's house with my two children after fleeing abuse, and that was tough enough. (She and her husband were wonderful but the children and I were shattered from everything)

Wishing you all the best and I hope you find somewhere

Thank you, that's lovely x

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Toomuchwine89 · 13/04/2023 18:43

Orangesandlemons77 · 13/04/2023 18:20

If you are homeless would the council not have a duty to find you somewhere?

Yes, they do but they just keep saying to my support worker "there is no housing"

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Pashy · 14/04/2023 16:50

Do they have a duty to house you given you own a five-bedroom property, though?

SweetSakura · 14/04/2023 16:55

Pashy · 14/04/2023 16:50

Do they have a duty to house you given you own a five-bedroom property, though?

Where does she say that?

Dmsandfloatydress · 14/04/2023 16:56

Yes they do have a duty as she cannot reasonably reside in that property due to threat of violence! If that was the rule then all dv victims would be unable to escape their abusive relationship if they owned a home with the perpetrator. The house will eventually be sold after divorce but that takes time.

Linio · 14/04/2023 16:59

SweetSakura · 14/04/2023 16:55

Where does she say that?

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On another thread.

Bit of a cheap shot by @Pashy? It is very possible to own a large house and be living in a hostel / refuge with your children if your ex is being abusive and difficult.

greyhairnomore · 14/04/2023 17:13

Pashy · 14/04/2023 16:50

Do they have a duty to house you given you own a five-bedroom property, though?

Presumably she can't live in it due to abuse ? I'm sure she'd rather that than a refuge 🤔

SweetSakura · 14/04/2023 17:40

Linio · 14/04/2023 16:59

On another thread.

Bit of a cheap shot by @Pashy? It is very possible to own a large house and be living in a hostel / refuge with your children if your ex is being abusive and difficult.

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I agree.

Presumably it's not safe for her to live in the family home.

SweetSakura · 14/04/2023 17:41

I also think it's bad taste to Googlestalk people like that

tailinthejam · 14/04/2023 17:43

Wishing you all the best OP, and if only I could help, I would do so.

Fireyflies · 14/04/2023 17:47

How many bedrooms do that council say you need? (Depends on the age and sex of your children) If they're saying 5 it might be worth trying to push them to consider you for a 4 bedroom home - councils have pretty much no 5 bedroom properties and families they assess as needing them rarely ever get housed. I have even heard of people claiming one of their kids is now living with someone else in order to be considered for a smaller home. Might be worth considering. Otherwise look for the cheapest parts of the country, which is generally the north and Midlands away from big cities.

Quitelikeit · 14/04/2023 17:47

Glad you are still going strong op! He is vile and disgusting for doing this to you all.

Im sure you have considered getting an order to keep him away from the property so you and the kids could move back in?

I take it you didn’t get that house…, it must be so destabilising not having a place to call home

I hope someone on here comes to your rescue

PrinnyPaupersPurse · 14/04/2023 17:56

If you are in a refugee then you are homeless. If you ray will go aggregate then see if you can get rehomed to west Lancashire. Specifically a town called Skelmersdale. We have a lot of council houses and affordable houses being built at the moment and some are even shared ownership. It's a pretty good place to live, very green and close to Liverpool , Wigan and Manchester

Pashy · 14/04/2023 17:57

Apologies, I had been watching both of OP’s threads as I was giving her advice on the other one.

I’m aware it’s an abusive situation but was trying to encourage the OP to fight for her portion of the house as she’ll struggle to get housed through the council. On her other thread, she was saying she’d happily walk away from the house/equity.

SweetSakura · 14/04/2023 18:20

Pashy · 14/04/2023 17:57

Apologies, I had been watching both of OP’s threads as I was giving her advice on the other one.

I’m aware it’s an abusive situation but was trying to encourage the OP to fight for her portion of the house as she’ll struggle to get housed through the council. On her other thread, she was saying she’d happily walk away from the house/equity.

Ah understood.

I don't think op needs to walk away from the equity but if it's not safe for her to live there then she is homeless.

I was able to get a court order to get my ex out, backed up by a non molestation order preventing him coming near the house. But I know it very much depends on the circumstances

NCDV were excellent in helping me get the court orders.

Dmsandfloatydress · 14/04/2023 19:38

Yes, as you are fleeing violence you can apply to any council in the UK. South Wales Valleys have very cheap council houses and in some areas there are no waiting lists, as in you will be housed immediately. Flintshire is the same and near to Liverpool. I would look to restart your life somewhere cheap.

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Toomuchwine89 · 14/04/2023 22:13

Dmsandfloatydress · 14/04/2023 16:56

Yes they do have a duty as she cannot reasonably reside in that property due to threat of violence! If that was the rule then all dv victims would be unable to escape their abusive relationship if they owned a home with the perpetrator. The house will eventually be sold after divorce but that takes time.

Yes, you're right. I'm not even on the deeds or mortgage for that house. Trust me, I wish he'd leave and let us live there, at least temporarily. But he won't, which proves he doesn't really give a fuck about his children tbh

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Toomuchwine89 · 14/04/2023 22:13

Pashy · 14/04/2023 16:50

Do they have a duty to house you given you own a five-bedroom property, though?

But yeah that was very stalkery and a cheap shot, tbh

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Toomuchwine89 · 14/04/2023 22:14

tailinthejam · 14/04/2023 17:43

Wishing you all the best OP, and if only I could help, I would do so.

Thank you x

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Toomuchwine89 · 14/04/2023 22:15

Fireyflies · 14/04/2023 17:47

How many bedrooms do that council say you need? (Depends on the age and sex of your children) If they're saying 5 it might be worth trying to push them to consider you for a 4 bedroom home - councils have pretty much no 5 bedroom properties and families they assess as needing them rarely ever get housed. I have even heard of people claiming one of their kids is now living with someone else in order to be considered for a smaller home. Might be worth considering. Otherwise look for the cheapest parts of the country, which is generally the north and Midlands away from big cities.

I'm in the north/Midlands. One local council has said it's fine for me to bid on a 4 bed, the other rang me today actually to say absolutely not. It's a joke!

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