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Feeling sad about peri menopause 'diagnosis'

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Mephisneon · 13/04/2023 12:55

I'm feeling a bit emotional so please be gentle. I'm 37 and have been having night sweats although not feeling hot. I had a gp blood test on day 21 of my cycle and although it shows I've likely ovulated my GP thinks I'm in peri menopause.

I'm feeling a bit emotional and shocked. Not sure if this is a bit dramatic?! But I'm feeling sad that this is a sure sign of aging. I'm dreading trying to access support as it develops as I've had various health issues in the past and I know what accessing health care asa woman is like!

But I just feel like it's a bit of an end of my youth. I have lost a lot of weight in the past 18ish months and although I'm still overweight much more confident. It just feels sad that this is happening now and there's not been a chance forme to enjoy this confidence while my body is still hormonally young.

Has anyone else felt like this? It's just come as a bit of a shock. Maybe I'm treating it as a bigger thing than it is. I just feel really unexpectedly upset.

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cadink · 13/04/2023 16:53

At 37 this is early menopause. You'll need her to protect your bones and heart. Look at the daisy network and make an appointment with your GP and ask to be reffered to a specialist. Have a read of the daisy network beforehand to tell you what to ask for. It's hard OP manageable. Sending hugs x

cadink · 13/04/2023 16:53

HRT not her!

BCBird · 13/04/2023 16:59

I found out when I was 52 that I had come through the menopause. When the doctor told me I was tearful. I have never had kids,nor was I bothered about having them,but the finality of what he said really got to me. I was in a committed relationship and was using condoms to prevent pregnancy- no need🙄I totally understand what you mean about the loss of youth. Hand hold

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Mephisneon · 14/04/2023 08:04

Thanks for the replies and understanding. I'll look at the daisy network. I just feel a bit confused as my periods are fine. But it's being based in night sweats. After ruling other things out. But I have a good relationship with my Dr and trust him. So I'm taking his professional opinion. Has anyone else had experience of this?

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Touty · 14/04/2023 08:10

Yes I also had night sweats in my late thirties - 10 years later my periods stopped. Looking back I must have been in peri then.

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Mephisneon · 14/04/2023 08:27

Touty · 14/04/2023 08:10

Yes I also had night sweats in my late thirties - 10 years later my periods stopped. Looking back I must have been in peri then.

Can I ask how that 10 year was doe you? Did you notice much in terms of symptoms? Thanks

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Touty · 14/04/2023 08:44

Ok so it was a very difficult time of my life, but I also went through some major life changes, divorce and moved to Spain. I had quite bad depression and anxiety, but I have suffered with depression before, I would say that peri or menopause made it worse, but these things can be treated with HRT and other medication.

but that’s just me and everyone is different- some people have no symptoms.

Xrays · 14/04/2023 08:49

I went into early menopause aged 37 due to autoimmune issues. You definitely need HRT- I know that wasn’t the point of your post but it’s so important if you’re younger than most. Bone and heart health and all that. I’m 42 and have been on HRT since- Oestrogel, utrogestan and the mini pill.

Tootsey11 · 14/04/2023 08:53

I was peri late thirties.

Symptoms were terrible sleep, terrible memory, brain fog that I could barely think or even read a few lines and take them in, rage, aches and pains and generally fatigued. Doctors would not listen as although periods were erratic, hormone levels were 'normal'. Finally on hrt at 43.

TuesdayJulyNever · 14/04/2023 09:03

Perimenopause has only really been recognised and acknowledged relatively recently and I wonder if some of your reaction is because you’re thinking of this as menopause which could still be many years away?

I can relate to the feelings; I started to notice changes to my monthly cycle in my late thirties that were pretty clear indicators that I wasn’t in my early twenties anymore. And it was deeply shocking - I didn’t feel at all like an adult yet and yet my body was changing.

Be kind to yourself. We live in a time that stigmatises women’s aging and it’s not an easy truth to face.

Crinkle77 · 14/04/2023 09:57

I'm 45 and can't wait to go through the menopause and stop thd monthly curse of periods. I hate them. I've had enough now.

LlamasUnited · 14/04/2023 10:06

Just came on to say your GP may not be correct if they’re just basing it on the night sweats. I had them in my 20s and they were stress related due to my job, nothing to do with menopause (I had children years later). If the blood test didn’t show anything and you’re still ovulating then it’s a bit of a reach to say night sweats = peri.

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Mephisneon · 14/04/2023 13:45

Crinkle77 · 14/04/2023 09:57

I'm 45 and can't wait to go through the menopause and stop thd monthly curse of periods. I hate them. I've had enough now.

Thanks but with 8 years on me that's a bit insensitive to say to somone who is possibly going through early menopause. It's also about way more than periods stopping. I have very painful periods due to adenomyosis. But I'm also aware of the hormone impact.

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lemmein · 14/04/2023 14:29

LlamasUnited · 14/04/2023 10:06

Just came on to say your GP may not be correct if they’re just basing it on the night sweats. I had them in my 20s and they were stress related due to my job, nothing to do with menopause (I had children years later). If the blood test didn’t show anything and you’re still ovulating then it’s a bit of a reach to say night sweats = peri.

Agree with this! I started having night sweats when I got a memory foam mattress Confused

Crinkle77 · 14/04/2023 16:01

Mephisneon · 14/04/2023 13:45

Thanks but with 8 years on me that's a bit insensitive to say to somone who is possibly going through early menopause. It's also about way more than periods stopping. I have very painful periods due to adenomyosis. But I'm also aware of the hormone impact.

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So sorry that I have been insensitive. On reflection I realise I was wrong to say that and didn't mean to diminish your feelings. My periods have been more troublesome the last few years and I can't wait for them to be over. I hope you are ok.

TriedTurningItOff · 14/04/2023 16:07

Came on to say that I had night sweats which I assumed were menopause. It turned out I had tick-bite fever (wasn't in the UK obviously). Please do check for other causes, especially if you've recently travelled.

strawberry2017 · 14/04/2023 16:24

38 and having a blood test tonight to see if I'm in the same position; only difference is my periods have massively changed and this month didn't show up (4 negative pregnancy tests)
It's hard to get your head round because you don't expect it at this age.

BusterGonad · 14/04/2023 16:26

Mephisneon · 14/04/2023 13:45

Thanks but with 8 years on me that's a bit insensitive to say to somone who is possibly going through early menopause. It's also about way more than periods stopping. I have very painful periods due to adenomyosis. But I'm also aware of the hormone impact.

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Agreed. It affects so much. Sex can become painful, UTIs more frequent, dry skin, thining hair, weight gain, dry and delicate vulva, emotionally changed such ad depression, forgetfulness, lack of enthusiasm for normal life. It's not just periods ending. That's such a simpleton way if putting it.

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