Restore my faith in humans please

Veryverycalmnow · 2023-04-12T20:25:19+00:00

Hi, I am feeling a little bit angsty and feel like people are being dicks. Reading the news, pricks left right and centre are making decisions. Public transport today with my DS: people smoking, drinking and shouting on a Wednesday at 2pm. I think it is partly hormones to blame and genuinely rude, selfish people causing this. I wondered if anyone had any heart- warming stories about someone saving a kitten or something to bring me out of this?

stbrandonsboat · 12/04/2023 21:49

People in my village get food together to ensure that the village's school children get something to eat during the school holidays. It's all done from the community centre every day.

We all look out for the lost dogs and cats and get them reunited with their owners.

anythinginapinch · 12/04/2023 21:52

I found a damaged cat a few years ago and posted on Fb locally for help. That evening a cat crazy rescuer was on site helping me. Oh the relief. She fostered the cat and had him mended at vets (I paid) he'd probably had acid thrown at him :( he lived several joyful years with her DD. I still support her charity. The number of cats they rescue is incredible.

anythinginapinch · 12/04/2023 21:53

But I don't think you're wrong - "people" are dicks.

anythinginapinch · 12/04/2023 21:54

Check out The Asher House on Fb or Yout it's my go-to "faith in humanity" restoration viewing!

Teacupjunkie · 12/04/2023 21:59

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carriedout · 12/04/2023 22:01

I think a noticeable % of people ARE dicks. You notice them more than the nice majority because they are noisy or disrespectful, they cause issues.

But all around you are nice, regular people. I make an effort now to notice them but it is hard some days!

All around there are people doing nice things for others. The teachers at my kids' school are so generous with their efforts, despite being knackered (I assume). There is a woman at my work who organises collections from all of us for charity. There is a lovely voluntary group near here which does amazing stuff with people who have bad MH.

ChocHotolate · 12/04/2023 22:05

My sun glasses actually blew off my head today in the strong winds and rain. A passer by ran after them and got them for me, even though he got wet as he had been sheltering as I walked past

MobyJeff · 12/04/2023 22:05

I am a member of a real life friendship group on Facebook. One of the members has a significant birthday. We began to discuss getting a cake and organising a restaurant. Then we realised she doesn’t like cake. We spent more than two hours coming up with a lovely alternative, people really going over and above to do something really special. We’ve been a group for 3 months. People had to be talked down from spending significant amounts of time and money and nerdy on some really lovely contributions. People are lovely.

Temporaryname158 · 12/04/2023 22:08

My lovely neighbour always bring my bins in for me, has done for years! I very much appreciate it which he knows.

CatMattress · 12/04/2023 22:10

Our lovely neighbours, who have only known us since we moved in 6 months ago, brought over a chocolate egg and a little knitted chick for each of the kids this weekend. DD, especially, was over the moon and is carrying the chick everywhere with her.

We also have an ongoing 'battle' to see who can be the first to wheel the other's bins in on bin day. Just little gestures, but it makes us feel so welcomed and at home in our new life here.

SilverCatStripes · 12/04/2023 22:16

When my DS was 4 and my DD was 1 and I was in Sainsbury’s at the till and they were both crying and I was nearly crying (3 weeks into DH being away for 3 months and wondering how the hell I was going to manage) a fellow shopper unloaded my shopping onto the belt , and then packed it all up for me when it had been scanned so I could comfort the kids - I will never ever forget how kind that lady was and whenever I need a reminder of how wonderful humans can be to each other I remember her !

Justanotherlurker · 12/04/2023 22:24

people smoking, drinking and shouting on a Wednesday at 2pm.

Shock horror!

I am at my headquarters for work this month in the most liberal states in the US, and yesterday morning had to walk through a tent village with people openly injecting to turn a corner to buy my morning coffee and bagel to be confronted by a women pleasuring herself with a dildo she had stuck onto a lamp post, a couple of months ago I was back at home during a champions league match and the city was full of Germans openly drinking/smoking and swearing at 4pm on a tuesday!

There are many caveats to why some people would be out (most likely just enjoying themselves), but to be dramatic as to wanting faith in humans for what you have highlighted is a little precious.

Maybe all the shops should close on wednesday afternoons to protect your sensibilities?

Cantseethewindows · 12/04/2023 22:28

SilverCatStripes · 12/04/2023 22:16

When my DS was 4 and my DD was 1 and I was in Sainsbury’s at the till and they were both crying and I was nearly crying (3 weeks into DH being away for 3 months and wondering how the hell I was going to manage) a fellow shopper unloaded my shopping onto the belt , and then packed it all up for me when it had been scanned so I could comfort the kids - I will never ever forget how kind that lady was and whenever I need a reminder of how wonderful humans can be to each other I remember her !

Mine are a similar age and a while ago I was at Tesco with them. Someone had accidentally given big one squash instead of water at the playgroup we'd just been to. He peed himself cartoon-style (puddle at his feet) in the self-service checkout area. The staff were ever so kind and no one made me feel awkward about it at all!

Today I was trying to get DS2 onto the bus. He's at the stage where he wants to do everything himself, so we had the pushchair with us, but he was walking. In the split second it took me to grab his hand, the wind caught the pushchair and blew it into the road. Another passenger grabbed it for me. Could've been dangerous/ awkward/ expensive if the bus had hit it!

Cantseethewindows · 12/04/2023 22:29

Justanotherlurker · 12/04/2023 22:24

people smoking, drinking and shouting on a Wednesday at 2pm.

Shock horror!

I am at my headquarters for work this month in the most liberal states in the US, and yesterday morning had to walk through a tent village with people openly injecting to turn a corner to buy my morning coffee and bagel to be confronted by a women pleasuring herself with a dildo she had stuck onto a lamp post, a couple of months ago I was back at home during a champions league match and the city was full of Germans openly drinking/smoking and swearing at 4pm on a tuesday!

There are many caveats to why some people would be out (most likely just enjoying themselves), but to be dramatic as to wanting faith in humans for what you have highlighted is a little precious.

Maybe all the shops should close on wednesday afternoons to protect your sensibilities?

If you can't think of anything nice to say...

Justanotherlurker · 12/04/2023 22:50

Cantseethewindows · 12/04/2023 22:29

If you can't think of anything nice to say...

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I can, and can go further with descriptions about walking through the streets of one of the most open liberal cities in the US it isn't dog shit you are worried about standing in, but to offer some balance as I didn't automatically go to "everyone else being dicks and restore my faith in humanity because I saw some people smoking/drinking and swearing on a Wednesday afternoon" reading the OP.

People have different lifestyles, for some Wednesday is there day off as they have worked all bank holiday, for some it could be making use of the bank holidays for limited holiday usage, it could be a standard Wednesday in spoons or an upmarket midweek brunch place.

people smoking, drinking and shouting on a Wednesday at 2pm.

Is not a reason to ask to restore faith in humanity, and it is obvious hormones playing a part, at this point a simple step back from it all and not wanting others to bend to your will goes a long way otherwise you're going to get annoyed about parent child parking spaces and how others look on the school run which will just feed into anxiety.

jackstini · 12/04/2023 22:57

Some of the things that do it for me

Pay it forward group for our town on Facebook - giving & sharing
Lovely neighbours who really look out for each other
Prayer chains
Free soup/roll & coffee at nearby church
Town coordinating 'warm safe spaces' and various churches and community centres so there are places for people to go every day

There are some pages on sm that concentrate on good news

A lot of people are dicks - but it's good to remember lots aren't!

Rosiepeta · 12/04/2023 22:58

My dad passed away yesterday, my wonderful neighbour popped in today, not only with flowers and a card, but with bread, milk, biscuits and tea bags incase of unexpected visitors and also a lavender tea if sleep evades us all.
My sister( not her dad) has been amazing and my closest friends all called round today too.
So many of his friends have messaged me with wonderful stories and well wishes
Things are tough right now but their support is immeasurable .
There are good people
in the world.

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Veryverycalmnow · 12/04/2023 23:35

Thanks mumsnet, faith restored by about 3 lovely posts in. Some of these made me realise so many of theseposoyive things are happening near me and many people are so ace and kind.

Thanks!

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Veryverycalmnow · 12/04/2023 23:36

anythinginapinch · 12/04/2023 21:54

Check out The Asher House on Fb or Yout it's my go-to "faith in humanity" restoration viewing!

Thanks, I will do this!

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Veryverycalmnow · 12/04/2023 23:41

I love some of these stories. I obviously do realise that people are suffering in the world and my concerns are minor and this was a lighthearted grump at humanity. I am grateful to the posters who acknowledge that people can be shit but give me hope. Thanks! I will pay it forward somehow.

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Veryverycalmnow · 12/04/2023 23:49

Justanotherlurker · 12/04/2023 22:24

people smoking, drinking and shouting on a Wednesday at 2pm.

Shock horror!

I am at my headquarters for work this month in the most liberal states in the US, and yesterday morning had to walk through a tent village with people openly injecting to turn a corner to buy my morning coffee and bagel to be confronted by a women pleasuring herself with a dildo she had stuck onto a lamp post, a couple of months ago I was back at home during a champions league match and the city was full of Germans openly drinking/smoking and swearing at 4pm on a tuesday!

There are many caveats to why some people would be out (most likely just enjoying themselves), but to be dramatic as to wanting faith in humans for what you have highlighted is a little precious.

Maybe all the shops should close on wednesday afternoons to protect your sensibilities?

Nah, not at all precious. It is a frequent thing and I am just having a moan. It was more that there were elderly people and kids (including mine) that were scared. It wasn't a big deal, just a moment. Thanks for telling me about your experience.

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GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 12/04/2023 23:49

When DD was about 2 months old I was out on my own and ordered a roast dinner in a pub. She obviously woke up the second the plate landed on the table.

I was on my own, and resigned to eating cold dinner after she'd finished being fed / fussing etc. But then a complete stranger on the next table offered to (and did) cut my dinner up so I could eat one handed. I nearly cried.

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Veryverycalmnow · 12/04/2023 23:54

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 12/04/2023 23:49

When DD was about 2 months old I was out on my own and ordered a roast dinner in a pub. She obviously woke up the second the plate landed on the table.

I was on my own, and resigned to eating cold dinner after she'd finished being fed / fussing etc. But then a complete stranger on the next table offered to (and did) cut my dinner up so I could eat one handed. I nearly cried.

Wow, that is such a kind gesture!

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ChocHotolate · 12/04/2023 22:05

My sun glasses actually blew off my head today in the strong winds and rain. A passer by ran after them and got them for me, even though he got wet as he had been sheltering as I walked past

Why were you wearing sunglasses?😂

Catsmere · 13/04/2023 00:59

A friend’s neighbour’s cat escaped from her house before Easter. Friend printed flyers and posted them around the neighbourhood. Someone else in the street saw them, looked around and found the cat hiding in her garden. Cat and owner reunited after four very stressful days.