How to protect my grandchild

[IcantTurnAblindEye]

Hi, advice please
My grand daughter, she is non verbal autistic
Often see her and my daughter but the dad works long hours. When he is about he, what i can only describe as, bullies my grand daughter
He forces her to cuddle, and i mean holds her down. The other day he did it and she had a tantrum over it, so he let her go and as she walked away he pushed her.
He also smacks her (not hard) but she doesnt understand what she does wrong and quite frankly its over nothing. He also says shes a spsic to me, and apart from that being so offensive i have told him you have to be careful what you say as you dont know if she understands
What do i do? Im going to speak to my daughter about it. She treats my grand daughter well, but i dont want to be there when he is there
Shes the apple of my eye and i cant stand the thought of this going on

You need to report this to Children Services

Ring social services and report this.

Oh and shes only 3

Will SS do anything? Im also worried about being cut off from them

He is despicable but your daughter is enabling it . That poor child. They both need reporting to social services.

Have you talked to your daughter about it? She is letting it happen.

Your granddaughter is incredibly vulnerable. Please talk to children's services.

Contact social services. If she's non verbal wtf could he be doing to her when they are alone that she can't tell anyone about
I have a 3 year old daughter, I cannot even think about anyone pushing or slapping her. What an absolute arsehole

His behaviour is horrible, I’m glad your granddaughter has you to help her.

Maybe contact these people for advice? They are experts in “what to do” if you’re worried about a child. https://thirtyoneeight.org/help-and-resources/safeguarding-helpline/

Littlefish... i have done before now, but the other day broke my heart, so i am going to meet up with her and have it out with her

You don’t need to have it out with your daughter, you need to contact social services.

That's heartbreaking 💔 my DD is likely autistic, she's 14 and can express how she feels and sometimes she just doesn't want to be touched. That's fine we ask first.
Please talk to your daughter. Have they had counselling to help comprehend what she needs

custardbear.. no, but they have services involved. But i do know he doesnt want to accept theres anything wrong with her
See, you show your daughter respect, its how it should be

Thank you Trixiedrum

I don't think you should report it until you have discussed your concerns with your daughter. If you do report it you will be named as the referrer anyway.