Am I being too sensitive? Friend starting to hurt me.

[ThereforeIAmm]

Me and friend were single at the same time for awhile, she’s now been with her boyfriend maybe 3 years and sometimes it feels like she tries to rub her relationship in my face.

Anyway we met up for drinks this weekend and we were both saying that we don’t see each other much, just in a life gets so busy kind of way etc. Then she mentioned how we used to (on average) have dinner at each others houses once a month just on a random weekday - BUt that’s when we were both single and she had more free time.

I genuinely don’t understand what being single or with someone has to do with making you so busy that having someone over for lasagne on a Tuesday is just not possible.

I had a rhinoplasty done around 10 months ago and she said I have too much time on my hands to notice flaws.

I just don’t like these (what feel like) jabs that I’m not busy because I’m single. Every other part of our lives is fairly similar.

Being in a relationship is a poor excuse to not meet a friend once a month. If a friendship is important then I'd expect more effort from her.

Despite marriage, small children my friend group tries to meet up around once a month for takeaway or meals out etc

Friends can drift apart for various reasons and I think "Oh, I'm just so busy" sounds more acceptable than "I'm just not interested in seeing you so often these days".

As you said, how much precious time is involved in sharing a meal once a month?

But I've had long friendships that seem to ebb and flow; this may be true for you and your friend as well.