Partner deaf frustration

[Springsummer23]

I know I'm being awful when I say this. But my partner is completely deaf in 1 ear and needs a hearing aid for the other ear.

It's very hard to have a conversation with him. We will be chatting and he replies, we have conversation he's saying all the words that make it a 2 way conversation. So I thi k its all good then 20 mins later he will say or ask something that indicates he didn't really hear most of what was said.

Also if there is a family conversation. He projects his voice so loudly it dominants the whole conversation it bounces of the walls. And it kind of kills the conversation. And sometimes we can't have a conversation that we need to because he's dominating it.

I know its not his fault and i know I sound awful for writing this post . I think he projects his voice because he can't gear himself? I have tried talking to him about his hearing aid being adjusted . But he seems ti think he can gear like everyone else with hus hearing aid. And he does the project his voice thing so its hard to tall to him anyway.

I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar.

It would be so lovely to just have a normal conversation where everyone is a part of it.

@DrFoxtrot

What completely throws me is when I ask a question and get an answer that's not a potential answer I was expecting - my brain/ ears were expecting a yes/ no, for example, and instead I get a sentence I can't hear or decipher as I wasn't primed for it

Yes, me too! I also always have to ask people to repeat the first thing they say when I meet them, whether people I know, or random people making small talk on the street. It's very embarrassing. But I need to seem to have to "tune in" to them before I can actually hear what they say.

@taxguru yes to the tuning in! I need a few sentences to get used to their accent/ voice/ rhythm