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I hate being 50 and then I remember...

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BooseysMom · 09/04/2023 14:25

I'm 50 fuckin' one !! 🙄😂

Anyone else feelin' the 50's pain? Menopausal aching, mood swings and other tortures which can only be solved with wine.. but then wine becomes your enemy..aagghh!! 😫

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BooseysMom · 10/04/2023 03:35

stupidsocialmedia · 09/04/2023 14:34

I hear you, 53 here. I'm sure I'm menopausal now; had major surgery in November and the only bleeding I've had was a very light period two weeks ago.

The restless, itchy legs have got worse.

Maybe joints have worsened, but I've had arthritis for years, predating perimenopause, (fusion surgery was what I had in November), so not sure it's related.

It's taken me ages to realise that the heat I get in my face (especially in bed), is a hot flush, as it hasn't followed literature on them I've read.

Last night insomnia was off the wall... I've never been able to sleep well, but I was still wide awake at gone 7am today, then got up at 10.30, so shattered.

I'm diagnosed Bipolar, but I swear my moods are affected by hormones (got worse in and following my pregnancies for example). Had hoped they'd go, but now I'm premenstrual 24/7.

Have you considered HRT? I was prescribed patches by my GP, but I cannot take them till a year after the last MP. I cannot get hold of him to tell him this, so suffering on for now.

You are not alone Flowers

Thank-you 🙂yes on HRT but doesn't seem to be helping and been on it nearly 5 months now.

Thanks everyone for all your posts.

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BooseysMom · 10/04/2023 03:38

HelpsHeal · 09/04/2023 14:41

I'm 53, DH died at 54 and I've lost 3 friends in their 50s in the last 3 years. I'm grateful for every day, knowing plenty don't make it.

I had a tough couple of years around DH's illness and death, but I really am living my best life now. DC grown up, interesting job with a good level of autonomy, a confidence I've never felt before and the last couple of years have taught me who my friends are, those who are left are brilliant and I feel very fortunate. I have a busy social life and am fitter than I've ever been.

Menopause of course presents some difficulties, but I really do feel in my prime in terms of my ability to achieve things without worrying what anyone else is thinking.

Sorry to hear of your loss 💐it sounds like you're in a better place now which is lovely. 😊

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Gingerwarthog · 10/04/2023 07:41

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mdh2020 · 10/04/2023 08:31

Oh gosh. I loved my fifties. I got a new and very interesting job with loads of foreign travel and I became a grandmother for the first time. I made new and longlasting friendships and had great holidays. All in all, a good time.

blebbleb · 10/04/2023 08:42

I'm only 38 but can't say I'm bothered about getting to 50. Sure I won't look and feel the same but I'll be grateful to be alive. Most days I think about old schools friends who passed in their 20s/30s and feel grateful I'm here.

50Sisthenewgloom · 04/11/2023 16:23

After a while you probably won’t. I really hate my 50s, it’s a punishment for living so long.

nottoday300 · 04/11/2023 17:17

I am 50 in 5 weeks and 4 days I've never felt so rotten! Over weight been awake since 4am joints hurt feet are killing me so fed up but as you all have said I've lost people younger so ...I'm on depo for contraception. My gynaecologist appointments been pushed back to March ...

mrswhiplington · 04/11/2023 17:24

I had breast cancer and a mastectomy at 50. Started menopause at 53. The effects of the menopause were worse. Couldn't take HRT cos of the cancer so suffered through every symptom. But I'm still here at 62 so that's a plus. 😃No advice really, just take all the help you can get.

43ontherocksporfavor · 04/11/2023 17:27

I’m nearly 53. Sorry but I feel great! The alternative is not appealing.

dynastyfan · 04/11/2023 17:28

I'm 51 and feel good but have realised I need to take my health more seriously and look after my body after a recent minor but awakening health diagnosis.
I've been on HRT years but definitely need to loose a stone and a half and be more active.
In a few months I will have outlived my mum and that's taking some processing as it's been an issue for decades ,like a cloud hanging over me and I never believed I'd make it that far ,and now it's approaching I'm so relaxed about it.
I'm much more comfortable,confident and happy in my marriage,family and job than I was when I was younger so I wouldn't change anything!

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