Control over facial expressions

[LuciferRising]

I'm in a role where I need to come across as an expert and confident, but my default facial expression is a tense jaw and tense face. Has anyone successfully learnt to control their face regardless of emotion?

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One of the reasons I no longer work in sales or consulting, is that, no matter what I say, I just can't prevent my face revealing my true opinion.

Would love to be able to exercise some control over facial expressions.

I'm always hyperalert but want a face that says calm and confident especially during difficult conversations with large groups of people who may ask questions I may not have the answer for.

In times gone by weren't courtiers skilled at it?

I wish I knew… how about a large badge saying "Don't worry, it's not you, this is just my face"?

Botox!

Half joking.
I had deep wrinkles between my eyebrows from years of short sighted frowning. I permanently looked angry when I wasn't. H and I are currently separated. I had botox as part of my reinvent myself ready to start again after a year apart. Within a couple of weeks, H suddenly announced he could see how much I had changed, meaning emotionally and is asking if we can try and reconcile. He has no idea I had it done. Would never occur to him. 🤣

I might tell him one day, depending on which way we end up.

This is me, and I didn't realise it properly until zoom video meetings became a thing. I see my face on the screen, I look so annoyed sometimes even when I'm not. I try a neutral expression but then I glance back and the bitchface is back.

Anyone?

I could never be a poker player.

If you do Pilates or Yoga, use the same techniques for general relaxation, so relaxed breathing, open hands, etc.
For jaw tension, you can gently place your tongue against the roof of your mouth to stop it, although the resulting expression might look a bit too relaxed…

I suppose if you wanted to practice you could look in the mirror whilst listening to podcasts, ones that are funny/sad/emotional and try and see if your face changes. Or just try and keep your face as still as possible. One of the random thing that stops me jaw clenching (and this is real silly); if you are clenching your jaw and an explosion goes off near you you will likely lose all your teeth! Stupid I know lol but it's always stuck with me and I like having teeth. Stops me clenching.

I wish I had some advice but I’m autistic and never know what my face is doing. DH frequently asks (with concern) ‘what’s that face for?’ but I didn’t realise I was pulling one. I’ve also been told that my face rarely matches my tone of voice, so nothing I say lands the way it was intended

I have to practice in the mirror because my default expression sits somewhere between ‘resting bitch face’ and ‘on my way to commit arson’.

between ‘resting bitch face’ and ‘on my way to commit arson’.

Love it @amusedbush 😁

When I concentrate, my expression can easily be misinterpreted as cross. I need all my energy to do whatever it is I'm concentrating on. So I smoke s lot between bouts of concentration.

That's my reputation, a smiley, cross idiot. Brilliant.