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I’m feeling so guilty for my city break without kiss

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Charmedli · 08/04/2023 02:03

me and OH leave today to go on a city break. Kids 6 & 11 knew about it and will be staying with my sister and their cousins. They were fine about it.

I was so looking forward to it as we both work full time and it’s difficult to destress.

my 6 year old is very clingy but I thought she’d be fine however last night was very upset and begging me not to go. I honestly feel absolutely terrible now.

any wise words of wisdom or will I scar her for life by leaving her.

fwiw they’re going a 2 week holiday in august and 5 might break to a caravan in May so not missing out.

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Charmedli · 08/04/2023 02:03

Without kids that should say

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WandaWonder · 08/04/2023 02:06

We have gone on city breaks without our child since babyhood was always with grandparents so normal

I have no issues doing it as we have plenty of family breaks like you have said you will be doing

DoSitUpForAChat · 08/04/2023 02:13

Enjoy your break. You deserve it.

She will get over it

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Charmedli · 08/04/2023 04:23

Thanks all. In the airport and already had a call to say she woke up and was upset. 😩 I feel awful.

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sevenbyseven · 08/04/2023 04:46

Enjoy your break! Honestly mine used to cry sometimes if I went out for dinner 🙄 but they coped fine with the occasional minibreak. Why did your sister phone you though?!

Mouthfulofquiz · 08/04/2023 06:59

Yeah not sure why your sister phoned you to tell you that! Make sure to return the favour next time you look after her children 😂

beccahamlet · 08/04/2023 07:03

Don't feel guilty. She'll be fine. Enjoy your break.

LlynTegid · 08/04/2023 08:27

Enjoy your break.

Not the intention, but you may be making a small contribution to building resilience in your DC.

LakeTiticaca · 08/04/2023 08:31

The kids will be fine. Tell your sister not to give you a running commentary of their every move and only phone in an emergency..
Have fun!!

KILM · 08/04/2023 08:32

LlynTegid · 08/04/2023 08:27

Enjoy your break.

Not the intention, but you may be making a small contribution to building resilience in your DC.

Agree with this, they need to feel negative emotions in a safe and controlled way like this in order to deal with scarier stuff down the line!

MinnieEgg · 08/04/2023 08:36

Try and forget about them. There is absolutely no point in worrying about them now, it's not going to make anyone feel any better at all. Your children are safe and being looked after by your own sister.

You are a person too with needs and rights to have a nice time!

Perhaps your children wouldn't be missing you quite so much if instead of going away on holiday whilst they were at their aunties, you were at home dusting the skirting boards.

MyLavenderSuperpowers · 08/04/2023 08:52

She will be fine, and even if she stays upset that does t mean you skip your holiday.

adults need a break, and kids need to learn resilience - going to stay with auntie and cousins is not cruel! However, calling you to tell you she was upset is a tad cruel.

Oakyloaky · 08/04/2023 08:56

Don't feel guilty. Why were you told she woke up, upset today ?

Mumma · 08/04/2023 09:06

Your DC needs to learn that you have your own life, but will always return home because they are super important to you :) get a gift, send a post card as soon as you get there - it may arrive before you get home. They are the fun parts about parents going away!

ChocChipHandbag · 08/04/2023 09:10

What on earth was your sister thinking? Is she jealous and pissed off that you are going away while she looks after them?

iamnottoofatiamjusttooshort · 08/04/2023 10:06

Enjoy the city break
Enjoy the kiss ... don't go without 🤭

Sorry , couldn't resist
She will be fine and that's not on to tell you she's upset
Think positively and enjoy yourself

Quitelikeacatslife · 08/04/2023 10:15

When you land and if you want to check in, give time when you will call later, like their bedtime or whatever best for sister. Then agree no contact unless urgent . It's better for sister too, if DD thinks she can ring you all the time she won't settle as well. Enjoy, you've left them now so go have fun

dimpleton · 08/04/2023 15:30

Your dd will be fine. Can't believe your sister called you to say she was upset though, what has she achieved by that other than worry you and potentially ruin your holiday!

birdling · 08/04/2023 18:58

I really, really hope that your city break includes a kiss (and lots of other stuff 😜).

Kids will be fine - enjoy 😁

ItsCalledAConversation · 08/04/2023 19:03

I’ll be the one to say it - it’s okay for your 6 year old child to miss you terribly. You’re gone all week - presumably you see them for an hour or two a day, if that - and then you’ll be gone all weekend too, making up 10+ days of low/no contact? I think you should be more understanding. PPs upthread will tell you to ignore his/her feelings, and focus on prioritising your own good time, which you can and should, given that you’re going anyway. But spare a thought that the little one could be right, it’s a bloody long time without mum and dad.

Mumblechum0 · 08/04/2023 19:07

Your sister should definitely not have told you your dad woke up upset, what was that supposed to achieve? Hope you have a ball, and your dad will be absolutely fine.

Mumblechum0 · 08/04/2023 19:07

DD obvs

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