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What do you think would be the perfect age gap for three kids?

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BiscuitLover3678 · 07/04/2023 21:11

If there was no issue with biological clock, careers, health etc what would you want for three kids? I used to think all close together but more recently I can see the pros of having bigger gaps between them for being able to spend lots of time with each child, only having one ‘little one’ and also they probably fight less. What would your ideal be?

My second will be at least 4 and a half years younger than my first now (not by choice). If I had a third I’m not sure what I’d want.

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BuckinghamPalaceFountain · 07/04/2023 21:16

Having 3 children is a selfish choice
you are saying that your gene pool is so superior that you not only want to replace but exceed

why is that given the environmental challenges?

MinnieEgg · 07/04/2023 21:24

I immediately thought of the other side. The teenagers.

I'm finding it quite difficult having one doing GCSEs, then the next one doing them and the first one doing A Levels then the second one GCSEs etc, Four years of tension. Can't do much at Christmas because of the mocks, Easter is a right offa nd half term is right in the middle of the exams,

My sister had hers two years apart so last year went on a big family holiday the day after contingency day.

Of course she will have two at university at the same time in a year so that's going to be an expensive year.

TeamSleep · 07/04/2023 21:25

I would say between 3 and 4 years gap between each child would be ideal.

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Lapland123 · 07/04/2023 21:27

In an ideal world, I’d like about 15 years apart, each of them!

Darkroot · 07/04/2023 21:27

BuckinghamPalaceFountain · 07/04/2023 21:16

Having 3 children is a selfish choice
you are saying that your gene pool is so superior that you not only want to replace but exceed

why is that given the environmental challenges?

😂

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BiscuitLover3678 · 07/04/2023 21:36

BuckinghamPalaceFountain · 07/04/2023 21:16

Having 3 children is a selfish choice
you are saying that your gene pool is so superior that you not only want to replace but exceed

why is that given the environmental challenges?

Oh for goodness sake. It’s a lighthearted ‘what if’ thread. 😂

I’m not even going to start explaining why I think you’re ridiculous.

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BiscuitLover3678 · 07/04/2023 21:37

MinnieEgg · 07/04/2023 21:24

I immediately thought of the other side. The teenagers.

I'm finding it quite difficult having one doing GCSEs, then the next one doing them and the first one doing A Levels then the second one GCSEs etc, Four years of tension. Can't do much at Christmas because of the mocks, Easter is a right offa nd half term is right in the middle of the exams,

My sister had hers two years apart so last year went on a big family holiday the day after contingency day.

Of course she will have two at university at the same time in a year so that's going to be an expensive year.

Hadn’t thgouht of that!

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MissHoollie · 07/04/2023 21:39

I have three
20, 15 and 7
I'd say the 5 years between the first 2 was good for some things but I wish we had maybe a 2 year gap
The third child way too big a gap for everyone .

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BiscuitLover3678 · 07/04/2023 21:39

BuckinghamPalaceFountain · 07/04/2023 21:16

Having 3 children is a selfish choice
you are saying that your gene pool is so superior that you not only want to replace but exceed

why is that given the environmental challenges?

choosing to have ANY children is selfish. Choosing to have NO children is selfish. It’s all selfish.

You do realise that the biggest issue is actually the enormous overpopulation of over 65 years olds?

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BiscuitLover3678 · 07/04/2023 21:40

BuckinghamPalaceFountain · 07/04/2023 21:16

Having 3 children is a selfish choice
you are saying that your gene pool is so superior that you not only want to replace but exceed

why is that given the environmental challenges?

If you really cared about the environment you’d kill of all the elderly and make everyone have kids. 🤨

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mishmased · 07/04/2023 21:46

I have 3 aged 10, 7 and almost 2 (18 months). 2.5 years between 1 and 2, 5.5 years between 2 and 3. If finances, covid (and indecision) hadn't happened, I would have liked to have 10, 7 and 3 (keep 1 and 2 gap and have third a year earlier). But I'm quite happy with this gaps as it means we get a breather after 1 and 2 before 3 starts school/ university.

Smogtopia · 07/04/2023 22:38

My 3 are all 2.5 years apart and it's just right

hoophoophooray · 07/04/2023 22:41

I have 2y3mo between DD1 and DS, then 2y9mo between DS and DD2. The girls birthdays are in the same week so exactly 5 years top to bottom. It was a slog when they are little but I'm enjoying it as teens as they are a close knit group.

Cinpple · 07/04/2023 22:42

BuckinghamPalaceFountain · 07/04/2023 21:16

Having 3 children is a selfish choice
you are saying that your gene pool is so superior that you not only want to replace but exceed

why is that given the environmental challenges?

Agreed. If you want more than 2 please consider adopting.

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