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At my wits end

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LukeSkywalkerBoots · 07/04/2023 20:39

I’m always paralysed by anxiety but today I’ve really hit a wall.

Our child is ill for the third time this year with a chesty cough which will inevitably lead to antibiotics etc. Whenever this happens we are back and forth to the dr and it’s incredibly stressful with inhalers every five minutes and dh is a hypochondriac who loses his mind and whenever someone in the house is I’ll.

furthermore dh is down and anxious and won’t see a dr let alone a therapist. He constantly thinks he is dying. Won’t listen to me, refuses to see a dr, it’s unbearable.

I buy little things to cheer myself up. I eat chocolate to cheer myself up. Life is bleak and miserable. Dh is always moany and grim and ds is either hard work or ill. I try to be chipper but I’m losing the will.

today I sat for a solid 90 minutes in a state of utter panic and terror in my living room and I couldn’t move. It was like I was stuck.

why am I here? Whats the point of it all? Every day is a struggle and a grind. I don’t get holidays, or nice carefree days out. I feel like I don’t have a life. I can’t do this anymore.

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Aquamarine1029 · 07/04/2023 20:43

Good grief, op. You poor thing. I think you need to make massive changes here.

I would start with an ultimatum to your husband. He either gets professional help, immediately, or you're filing for divorce. It's no wonder you can barely function. This man is grinding you down so far you can't even see the light of day anymore. You simply can't continue to stay in a marriage like this.

LukeSkywalkerBoots · 07/04/2023 21:03

He’s just utterly miserable. I feel like I live in fear of his grumpiness. All he ever wants to do is sit in the house and play PlayStation. I was at the garden centre today and couples were out smiling together and buying plants and I felt like I really want that. I have sympathy because he’s clearly very down but he won’t fucking do anything about it!

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Aquamarine1029 · 07/04/2023 21:16

Just be the won't do anything about it doesn't mean you have to accept it and love this way. You can have a different life, you just have to make changes. Don't waste another day.

junebirthdaygirl · 07/04/2023 21:24

Does he pour out his troubles on you? If he does stop listening. Just say: I am sure you will work it out and walk off to do something else. You are not his counsellor and deserve to have peace. Its very usual for little ones to get a run of sickness especially if they just started creche so try not to worry about that.

Can you do stuff with friends/ family and pretty much ignore dh until he decides to act. That might shake him up a bit and force him to see his doctOr. I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. Don't be afraid to talk to the doctor yourself if this continues.

DustyLee123 · 07/04/2023 21:41

Don’t let him drag you down. He gets help or moves out.

Punkyspunky · 07/04/2023 22:19

Get rid of play station. People end up on it all night and sleep all day. It’s like a drug that effectively renders the useless, It all sounds really shit- sorry.

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