My husband and I are waiting to start Relate sessions. So far we've had the initial consultation a month ago and then husband has had his individual session a fortnight ago. Mine isn't for another fortnight due to lack of availability. Then we start the joint sessions.
We are getting desperate and I'm feeling so frustrated at the wait - we decided to do this in early Feb. I've had counselling before so I know it's not a magic pill or quick fix, but all the time we are waiting and each time we have another argument I feel another chink happens to our marriage.
I desperately want it to survive as at our best we were so happy and we have a wonderful 2 year old.
In a nutshell it's so complex but husband is unsatisfied with our sex life which has been perfunctory or non-existent since pregnancy due to a combination of factors - gynaecology issues / traumatic birth / hormones and general tiredness and busy lives. Husband has been supportive but now is at the stage where he feels sex is vital to him and our marriage and he can't go on. I get it. I'm spinning plates of responsibility - childcare, work, run my own company, elderly parents with dementia etc. I feel he doesn't appreciate the weight of all my responsibilities as his job is his sole responsibility and it's a big one but it's only the one. He knows I'll always be there for our DD if she's sick / I do picks ups bedtimes etc whilst he works. It's lonely and tiring.
Anyway we do love each other but it's become toxic with arguing and I'm at the stage where I feel we are not understanding one another's position and any attempts to communicate end in arguments. I just want to get to a better place for all of us and particularly our DD.
Anyway just wondered if anyone has done couples counselling with Relate and if it helped? And has anyone overcome similar difficulties in their marriage?
Am feeling frustrated, sad, scared and hopeless so hoping for some positive stories I guess.