Not sure how to handle this so would love some insight. Dd was in a class with 4 girls before lockdown. (Plus 15 boys). It increased now to 10 ( 3 classes made into 2 bigger classes) after lockdown. Since then, 2021, there have been issues with all the girls fighting. It was put down to lack of conflict resolution skills combined with the increase in numbers and some very strong personalities. The school did a lot to help them and things improved...well with some of them.
So that's the background. Now my dd is left being friends with 2 of the newer girls. Her older friends have made new friendships. The problem is the 2 new girls, one in particular. They are just so hateful to my dd. They do gang up on her a bit, particularly when they are together. But the 3 of them just have this horrible nasty way of treating each other, nothing like I've ever seen with my dd other friends. Her older schoolfriends mums assure me their girls are not avoiding my dd but rather the other 2 girls and the nastiness. I'm not saying my dd is innocent, not at all, but it seems she can't defend herself without it being used against her.
So what do I do? She really had no other friends at school, and is shy at the best of times so making friends for her is difficult. She does a few activities with these girls and doesn't want to go now. I really am at a loss how to handle it.
As an aside, I'm not sure about chatting to either of the girls parents. One girl is the youngest of 6 to a mum who has brushed off any hints I've given in the past by saying she refuses to get involved. The other girl tells my dd her mum agrees with her that my dd is in the wrong and has called her names, so I'm not sure about that either. But open to all and any suggestions!