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Friend only talking about one subject.

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GalileoHumpkins · 04/04/2023 19:19

And it's boring the arse off me! No matter how much or how obviously I try to change the subject she brings it back around to her one topic of conversation. She texts me about it constantly and I've started to ignore her as I feel I've said everything there is to say about it already 😐
I've known her for years but this is giving me the friendship ick (sorry ick haters!)
What do I do and do you know anyone like this?

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TheCentreSlide · 04/04/2023 19:21

She’s going on about a bloke isn’t she!

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GalileoHumpkins · 04/04/2023 19:22

No, it's her fitness journey.

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MeinKraft · 04/04/2023 19:22

Depends what it is. If it's her baby then YABU because she probably hasn't got anything else to talk about, it takes a while for some of us to start being a rounded individual again.
If it's crochet or renovating her house or something then YANBU

MoonOverBroadway · 04/04/2023 19:23

Other peoples ‘journeys’ 🔥

TheCentreSlide · 04/04/2023 23:26

Aaaah right. Well it’s irrelevant what the topic is if she is monologuing, which always makes even the most fascinating subjects mind-numbingly dull; plus, it’s offensive (due to the complete lack of interest the babbler shows in the listening party - very bad manners apart from anything else).

dontgobaconmyheart · 04/04/2023 23:46

I do think i'd try and let it slide or just say it all sounds great, well done her and change the subject as often as possible - it's a big deal to some people, and a huge lifestyle change that leaves them feeling the best they've felt in years so I imagine feels quite revelatory. It'll even out eventually.

Feemie · 04/04/2023 23:49

Just keep saying ‘Yes. You already said. Quite a few times’.

Or gag her.

UncleHerbie · 04/04/2023 23:55

@MeinKraft Oy! 😂 - crochet talk is fab - but only to other crocheters (light hearted)

ManchesterGirl2 · 04/04/2023 23:57

MoonOverBroadway · 04/04/2023 19:23

Other peoples ‘journeys’ 🔥

😅

abmac95 · 04/04/2023 23:59

I think you need to think about why you find it boring and then say this to your friend.

twolilacs · 05/04/2023 00:06

Her 'fitness journey'?

Could be worse - could be a MLM.

MeinKraft · 05/04/2023 01:04

UncleHerbie · 04/04/2023 23:55

@MeinKraft Oy! 😂 - crochet talk is fab - but only to other crocheters (light hearted)

I like crochet too but there's no need for it to be the only topic of conversation Grin

IAteAllTheTomatoes · 05/04/2023 01:36

Ask her will the journey ever come to an end?

Tell you are exhausted as you feel like you travelled the journey with her.

Hopefully she'll take the hint!

SugarRaye · 05/04/2023 03:20

Depends what it is. If it's her baby then YABU because she probably hasn't got anything else to talk about,

After half an hour you could talk about grass growing and it would be more interesting!

whiteroseredrose · 05/04/2023 04:57

Bring a swear jar with you. Let her talk about it once then tell her to put £1 in every time she brings the subject up again?

greenspaces4peace · 05/04/2023 05:26

I’ll trade you fitness journey friend for either 1) trump friend…non American no clue why she’s obsessed or 2) First Nations and Colonialization friend.
btw I’ve gone grey rock low contact and exit conversation as soon as the topics pop up.

IsolatedWilderness · 05/04/2023 05:38

Ask her what else is going on in her life. "Glad your fitness journey is going so well. What else is happening in your life?"

WandaWonder · 05/04/2023 06:11

MeinKraft · 04/04/2023 19:22

Depends what it is. If it's her baby then YABU because she probably hasn't got anything else to talk about, it takes a while for some of us to start being a rounded individual again.
If it's crochet or renovating her house or something then YANBU

Not speaking for anyone else but I was perfectly able to have normal grown up conversations when I had a baby, as were most of the people I knew or know with babies

custardbear · 05/04/2023 06:46

twolilacs · 05/04/2023 00:06

Her 'fitness journey'?

Could be worse - could be a MLM.

Lol that was my first thought

thistimelastweek · 05/04/2023 06:51

A friend of mine once dealt with this problem by flat out asking 'can we talk about something else?".

Worked for him

ImAvingOops · 05/04/2023 06:58

A marriage breakup or something equally awful, I would let friend talk about it until they felt better, but a fitness journey, no.
It's selfish to monopolise a conversation and show no interest in the other person's life. She isn't owed your forever friendship if she can't pull her head out her arse and she will find herself losing friends very quickly.
You either have to tell her that she's already said a gazillion times or just break away. It's not fair she's putting you in the position of having you bring it up though.

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GalileoHumpkins · 05/04/2023 15:54

IsolatedWilderness · 05/04/2023 05:38

Ask her what else is going on in her life. "Glad your fitness journey is going so well. What else is happening in your life?"

I've tried that but somehow it all just relates to the jouney.
It's so bad she's even screenshotting things like her heart rate, steps taken per day, sleep patterns from her fitbit and sending them to me.
I feel like the further she goes with it the more self absorbed she's becoming, I can't remember the last time she asked about me or my life.

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Sparkletastic · 05/04/2023 16:12

I'd be honest and next time she texts about it reply something like:

'It's great that you are so into this but it's not something I'm that interested in chatting about. Did you see <INSERT TV SHOW HERE> last night?'

SpaghettifingerFusillitoe · 05/04/2023 16:17

Oh I was thinking it was divorce going back to my divorce when I’m sure I was rather boring for a while but just very hurt and sad. Fitness- ugh v dull!

IglesiasPiggl · 05/04/2023 16:25

What happens /would happen if you specifically turn the conversation to you? If you say something like "I've been offered a promotion at work but I'm not sure if I should take it", would she ignore your opener and just carry on talking about her journey?