Perinatal nurse/ posting for traffic

[Madhousemam]

Hi ya this is my first post please be kind😀 I have had a really rubbish last 2 years with my abusive ex we have split up now but still trying to make my life a misery… I found out I was pregnant at 25 weeks by a different person and was thinking about abortion but I couldn’t go thro with it so I decided to tell my elder children that I’m pregnant and that went down okish 😂 my ex found out and and saying that he is going to do everything he can to have the baby taken away from me .. I went to my drs a couple of weeks ago and had a huge breakdown in front of her she prescribed antidepressants and got me in touch with a perinatal nurse I have a video call with her latter on next week and I’m a nervous wreck about it I’m terrified there going to take my baby away from me or section me after I have had the baby as I was very close to being sectioned before and have a history with postnatal depression has anyone had any kind “dealings” with this type of nurse just to put my mind at ease if anything else…. Sorry it’s such a long post

They are there to support mums who have any kind of mental health problems in pregnancy. You would be surprised how many people see them. I am sure they are not there to take your baby away. They are going to give you extra support.

I had one as I had been a victim of abuse in a previous pregnancy and she was lovely.

Have you been in touch with an abuse charity like women’s aid. They might help you deal with your abusive ex.

If the worst comes to the worst they have mother and baby mental health units so that mums who are sectioned can take their babies with them but hopefully it will not come to that and you will get the support you need.

Reaching out for help, shows you're taking control and being a caring, aware and strong mother. It shows you're putting the children first, and have a good degree of self awareness.

Disclose the abuse, if you haven't already, to any professional you can.

The nurse. Your doctor. Social care team if you have one. Reach out to women's aid.

This is very classic abuse tactics, and they're not going to take your baby off you or section you, because you're struggling in the aftermath of an abusive relationship. He's just extending the abuse, this is so textbook they'll have seen it, sadly, one hundred times over.

Thank you so much this has put my mind at ease somewhat I’m a really nervous person anyway and everything that has happened has made my nerves even worse I seem to panic about everything at the moment and my mum (bless her) has to keep reassuring me