To go cold turkey from extended breastfeeding a 3 year old...tips and advice please ?

[mum2boys1504]

Hi , i am looking for mums experiences when they went cold turkey from nursing 2+ years (my LO IS 3.5 YEARS ) I would mainly like to know how quickly your child adapted , if they were upset for a while or dod they get over quite quickly. I really need to be done with it as my body is now suffering . I really don't want him 2 be upset. He mainly only nurses first thing in the morning (comes into my bed to get back 2 sleep ) which is something I really would like 2 change asap please only comment if you've been through this yourself.. thank you

I really don't think you need this elaborate story about Easter bunny etc, it's not exactly authentic and he's old enough to ask questions and pick up on full on lies.
Just tell him you're eating lots of good food now and you don't need this milk anymore, milk will stop on such and such date. Then stop, and never, ever do it again. Keep saying over and over to yourself 'firm but kind' and offer as many cuddles as necessary.
Don't be afraid of tears, or try to avoid them. They're natural and he's allowed his emotions about this. Just stay firm but kind, no more milk, cuddles instead, I know you're sad, change is really hard etc etc.
He'll get over it in no time, and then most likely he'll stop waking you at 5.

Did both of my 3 year olds like this with 1 weeks nnotice. One never asked again, one was sad for a few weeks but we got ( and still get ) lots of extra cuddles.

Do. Not. Feel. Guilty! You've done a great job and now it's over.

Best xx

Blue light doesn't seem to bother my kids but there are other similar clocks with different colours if you don't want blue.

Thank you to everyone for all the advice and replies. I really appreciate you taking time to help me. I'm gonna try be brave and try Sunday and I will update this mid week..see if I've not given in lol
I also cannot seem to shift any weight at all. I am very active, eat well and stating to think the hormo es make me hold on to fat ?? I'm bigger and bigger every day and 3 stone heavier then before pregnancy. I feel like breastfeeding doesn't help me lose weight I think I possible hold onto it hoping it will come off once hormones calm down. Thank you all. More advice is truly welcome xx

You've just reminded me of an amusing incident not long before I weaned DS3, he was staying at Grannies overnight and climbed into bed with her, tried to lift her nightie up and announced it was boobie time! I actually can't remember weaning him at @3 so it can't have been too traumatic!

Prepare him

Talk to him about babies needing mothers' milk and boys/ men not.

Tell him stories about the transition too

They are programmed to want to grow-up!

If he is expecting the change he is likely to accept it with less stress.

If anyone's still on my thread I've been brave and not breastfed him back 2 sleep last night and not breastfed him to sleep tonight. I gently sang cuddles and told him he's all grown..I feel really hormonal and sad and ratty.. anyone have experience to when I will feel more settled. I am going to try so hard to stick to it as it wouldn't be fair to confuse him he was quite upset this morning..hoping he will sleep well and settle at 5 am without boobs ..need hug. Am hoping this is a positive change as I've not been able to lose any weight at all and actually have been gaining weight rapidly as he's breastfed more and got older..hoping my hormones settle soon . Thanks for advice x

I’ve suddenly stopped breastfeeding my 2.2 year old, we were only breastfeeding at night but she was on me all night we both weren’t getting any sleep at all. I’ve tried so many different ways but she is addicted. She had her first sleep over last night at her aunts house and only woke once and had no breast milk so we have decided to keep it going. When I picked her up she didn’t even ask for any which I was so surprised about. I’ve been prepping for this to come up and have been reading her a book about booby milk going to the moon which she gets. I’m just feeling so so emotional and am in a lot of pain. Does anyone have any tips to get though the pain and emotion of it for me.