How to move in from ghosted friendship

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So I became friends with someone through my previous job. We got on well, would meet for coffee etc and I thought we were friends. I left that work place last September and we had one brief meet up just after I left. Since then she rarely messages, taking days to reply to any messages I send and turning off her online status on WhatsApp. I have tried not to be too needy and have given space but have sent a friendly message tonight asking about meeting up and it has just been ignored. I know she has been online since I sent it but has just ignored it. Do I just give up on this friendship? Feel very hurt as there has been no explanation.

Give up. She has made it clear. That's fine. Move on.. friends come and go. It hurts when you've been dumped but gives you space to make nicer, better suited friends. I've been there (at a time when I had no other local friends so it hurt) but since I've made much better friends and realise she was right that we weren't a good fit.

I would give up now OP.

Some people are full of 'Oh we must keep in touch' when a colleague leaves but in reality, many don't.

It must just have been a job only friend. It is hard, but time will lessen the sting

I’m a bit compartmentalised with work friends, one one of us leaves then that’s it really. Is that not the same for most people?

I am usually a job friend and keep other friendships apart. I only have two friends I have made through work and this one seemed as though it would last. But yes, I guess it is time to
let it go.

Its weird that you are checking her online status.
Its fine to reply to people a few days later too...

I was made redundant whilst pregnant (great time for a restructure!!) after working at the same job for many years. I really loved the people I worked with and thought some were great friends. Only two have kept in touch. One who I had been on holiday with and many days and nights out, has totally ghosted me. Sadly sometimes people are out of sight out of mind.