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How old were your dc

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TheChosenTwo · 02/04/2023 19:36

When you let them sleep over at their boyfriend/girlfriends house?
Will be back shortly with some context, just curious about others at the moment.

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LyndaSnellsSniff · 02/04/2023 19:38

Oooo interesting. We're just getting to this point too. Hasn't been asked about yet, but I'm sure it'll happen soon. DS is 16.

mamaduckbone · 02/04/2023 19:42

Ds17 sleeps at his gf's house, in a separate bedroom, and she sleeps here (she has his room and he sleeps downstairs as we don't have a spare bedroom). It's usually if they've been out somewhere late or are going somewhere early in the morning. They stay up late together but are very respectful.

Rogue1001MNer · 02/04/2023 20:04

DD was 15 3/4.
It was a big group of friends and they all used to sleep over all together. (Girls together and boys together, not boys and girls together)
But then she started a relationship with one of the boys.
I insisted she slept with the girls. She assured me she was. I made sure she was on the pill and we had many conversations about consent, respect, love, etc (because we both knew she was lying!)

I wasn't happy, but couldn't stop it (the group usually slept over at his place and his mum was fine with it).
He was a nice boy, and they were together a good long time.

And they were a lovely bunch of people. DD is 21 now and they're all students all over the country, from Sussex to Leeds and they're still good friends. It was a v happy time in her life.

UsingChangeofName · 02/04/2023 21:24

When they had moved away to University.
Obviously I would have no idea what they were doing then, but by the time they invited said boy/girlfriend home, I figured they were already sleeping together and it would be churlish to make a thing of it either at my home or if any of mine were going to b/g friend's parents' home.

DustyLee123 · 02/04/2023 21:29

Can’t remember the exact age, but when at college. We wouldn’t let the GF stay here as they hadn’t been going out long, and we had young siblings at home.

AuntieMarys · 02/04/2023 21:31

TheJudgeandJury · 02/04/2023 21:32

My parents let my BF stay when I was 14. I wouldn't recommend it as it put me on a vulnerable position.

For our children I'd probably have to say 16 because that's the legal age but even then I'd feel it's too soon so I'd try and push that age to even 17/18 if I can.

FortyFacedFuckers · 02/04/2023 21:32

16.5

ItWasntMyFault · 02/04/2023 21:49

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TheChosenTwo · 02/04/2023 21:49

Thanks for responses. Dd2 is 17, we have said no to a sleepover at his house. She understand our reasons why, her mental health has had a real downward turn just over a month ago, we are just trying our best to keep her safe.
Her older sister was allowed to stay round at her boyfriends house as this age because the mum was at home and although she was nice she was also terrifying and dd slept in the room with his twin sister (who was also her friend) so it all just sort of worked out.
in this situation I have never met the mother, dd2 has only ever met her for about a minute once and she wouldn’t be at home while the sleepover happened.
dh and I have said no for now but we are happy to revisit this a few months down the line, he can stay here in the spare room.
Feels weird, I was staying over at others houses when I was her age but my mum didn’t really give a stuff!
Appreciate your responses.

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Karwomannghia · 02/04/2023 21:51

Ds and boyfriend both 16.

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