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Supervised visitation

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kegdin78 · 02/04/2023 16:42

My ex has supervised visitation with our two children. but he keeps telling them that at anytime they want to they can go to his house when the child order agreement states he is only allowed supervised visitation within the area that we live in (he lives 90 miles away) and that he is not allowed to take the children out of this area. How do I deal with this as it is beginnning to upset me and my children.

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Desperatelywantinganother · 02/04/2023 16:45

Why is he on supervised visitation only and what do the kids know about it?
Can you give them an age appropriate explanation of what the child arrangements order is and how it can’t just be changed without all the adults (including family court judge) talking about what is best for them.

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kegdin78 · 02/04/2023 19:09

he was accessing thiing on the internet that was not appropriate

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Cherrysoup · 02/04/2023 19:16

Are the dc old enough to travel that far alone? I think I’d just tell them they absolutely can’t travel to him, this is the way it is for now.

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GoodChat · 02/04/2023 19:19

How old are the children?

Nailsandthesea · 02/04/2023 19:24

How old are they?

just reiterate that the court says no. A judge has decided on supervision only and the judge has all their interests at heart. That might be what their dad wants but it isn’t appropriate right now

was he convicted?

depending on their age? It might be worth while telling them?

MrsDoylesDoily · 02/04/2023 19:26

This thread is pointless if you're not going to tell us how old your kids are.

GoodChat · 02/04/2023 19:33

MrsDoylesDoily · 02/04/2023 19:26

This thread is pointless if you're not going to tell us how old your kids are.

Chill out. She's responded once to the first poster who didn't ask.

Desperatelywantinganother · 03/04/2023 07:58

If the kids are getting confused because Dad is telling them they can visit him at home and they don’t understand why that can’t happen then they might need more info than they currently have. They need to understand that Dad is not in control of this anymore. No one here can tell you what you should tell them exactly because it’s age and situation dependent. A good person to discuss this with would be their social worker, if they still have one (I’m assuming social services investigated when your ex’s criminal internet history came to light). Or if there’s no one like that still in contact with you, then something like the NSPCC charity have lots of experience advising people in similar situations.

MaireadMcSweeney · 03/04/2023 08:04

Who is supervising it? They should be stepping in and addressing it.

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