Confused- message from ex’s mum

[Reds8]

I’m really confused and not sure what to do or think.
Me and my ex split a year and half ago, he has since moved on (I assume happily) He had no interest in me or my kids, he had more interest in my dog. Randomly this evening, I receive a message from his mum with a picture and then a message saying “just want to wish the girls a happy Easter. Good memories”.

Not sure what to do….. not even sure if my ex knows she’s messaged me

Do I be polite and reply thanks or just ignore?

@Reds8

Just because people don't think like you, it does not mean they are being out to get you or wishing you any harm.

You say they were very loving and caring towards you and your DD’s, and that you had a lot of holidays and days out together.

She obviously misses you all if she was in your lives for 7 years!

I’m sure it has nothing to do with you ex, the photo she sent probably popped up as a memory and she reached out. I’d just wish her a happy Easter in return.

Dillydollydingdong maybe, but does my ex know his mums messaged me? Is he happy in his current relationship? I don’t want to get back involved and be left with more heartache.

Bit of a jump to assume that because his mother wanted to wish your children well, he must want to get back together? I’m sure he has no idea she’s texted. She’s probably had a phone memory pop up.

I won't read too much into the message. If it stresses you loads don't message back or block her.

I don't think the ex is behind the message... he sounds very selfish.

She's just being nice. Text her back or don't, but there's nothing underhanded here.

You're overthinking it. You probably just popped into her mind for whatever reason and thought she'd send you a text. Just say happy easter back.

Maybe she knows her son is a dick and this is her way of saying she still cares. maybe she condones his aresholery and this is all part of some dastardly scheme to mess you about or reel you back in. Who knows?

At the end of the day though, if you have genuinely moved, on as you claim, then it makes little difference whether you ignore her or send a polite acknowledgement. I think though, the fact you are posting about it, and are clearly conflicted, is a very big hint that you have not moved on emotionally as much as you like to think. That's the issue you really need to address.

It's the best of manners to reply.
The woman, you know, is not a mean person. Take the message on face value and wish her Happy Easter too.

It doesn't matter whether your ex knows about her wishing you a Happy Easter. Responding politely will not make the relationship with your ex start up again or anything like that.

Now, if the woman asked to see you or invited you over or sent you on-going messages every week then that would be inappropriate and I would ignore those, or politley decline and then ignore.