Experience of birth in hospital.

[Anothername23]

Dd has just had a baby. She's had to stay in hospital as he's 4 weeks early. DD is not coping to well. It's very hot there. And lots of noise . She's over tired and can't sleep because of this. During in her time there before and after birth she had found staff to be really rude and abrupt. They way they talk to you is not nice at all. They often dont listen. There are some lovely staff as well. But it gets ruined by the not so nice staff.

I felt I had a very simlar experience to Dd I felt that my experience of giving birth and them first moments/days with my new born were ruined I felt awful. The last time I gave birth in hospital . I was not listen to. They were trying to make me stand on scales when baby head was crowning . Telling g me I still had a while. I gave birth seconds later in one of cubicles with just a curtain pulled round .

After this I had home births and they are the best ever I honestly can't fault it. Its truly special.

I know hospital experience is not like this for everyone and lots of nurses/midwifes are worth their weight in gold . Just sharing my and Dd experience. And wondering how others experience have been.

I had three babies, one in a midwife led unit and two in hospital and I felt like you did . I was lucky to have straight forward births and I had no problems breastfeeding thankfully . I was very much in the mindset though that apart from my dh we are /were totally alone as we have no family support so I am and was very much used to having to deal with stuff alone and get on with it , which was particularly handy for no 2 and 3 as my dh had to be at home to mind our other dc..
No family offered to mind our kids so although a neighbour came so he could get to the births he was straight home to mind our other kids so I was totally left to it alone , no one seeing if I had food , needed anything , no one to hold the baby for 5 mins. I agree there was v v v little help, I had to drag myself to the toilet which was very challenging so soon after birth, no one came to help me shower and no one checked my breastfeeding. I discharged myself as would be more comfortable at home tbh .
Also during the birth two midwives were really dismissive of my pain and they themselves hadn’t any children which shouldn’t matter but definitely lacked empathy. I don’t get it tbh , prob because women are overlooked more in healthcare.