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myexwasanarcissisticpig · 01/04/2023 02:50

My son is 24. He's a good lad, really generous, will do anything for anyone but he doesn't have any 'friends' and I'm worried about him.

My son met a girl online and has been out with her twice, once for a drink and Wednesday they went to a concert in London and stayed overnight.

This evening it was arranged that he was picked up to meet the girl and some other friends of hers....they drove 40 mins away to a pub and while he was in the loo, they all left him, stranded. When he finally got home (after having to ask a random stranger for a lift cause where we was is literally in the middle of no where) he said something along the lines of 'I'm easily forgettable, no one cares'. This really upset me.

My son has high functioning aspergers so sometimes he says and does things without realising it's inappropriate - but he's never mean or says anything to upset anyone.

I fear for his mental health because this is the kind of thing that could make him unalive himself (again). I don't know how to tackle this and as his dad is a dick, I can't even ask for help from him.

He was so looking forward to going out and then his happens. I am more than pissed off.

How does a 24 year old make friends?
He works long hours. He hates being alone so any attention from girls he gravitates towards - he's a good looking lad so he doesn't have any problems with women, he just seems to get the wrong ones for him.

I just don't know what to suggest ... I feel I am being a shit mother right now :-(

OP posts:
Wilff · 01/04/2023 03:17

My nephew used to be in a position like you described.
He has discovered some suitable local club/meeting groups specifically for those with similar difficulties and understandings.

Would you have any idea how or where to find any that may be available for your son.?
If not,I could ask my nephew for some guidance how he found out.

Autienotnautie · 01/04/2023 07:14

Dating apps are great but you do need to be able to weed out the bullshit which he may not. I wonder what happened maybe her friends weren't keen so said to leave him. It's awful behaviour and the sort of thing kids do not adults.

What about a hobby /activity where he can meet a range of people and get a bit of a social interaction

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